Mastering the Art of Flirting
March 15, 2013
While the term “flirting” might conjure up thoughts of grade school playgrounds, the truth is, it’s a behavior that we never grow out of. Playful in nature but earnest in intent, a simple flirt can have positively profound, life-changing results.
While “smile” seems like campy advice, smiling is synonymous with approachability, gregariousness and fun.
According to psychological studies, smiling opens up social connections, enhances first impressions and increases personal and professional possibilities.
Let your eyes do the talking.
If these looks are periodically returned, take pride in the fact that you’re on that person’s mind between glimpses, and an approach will be warmly welcomed.
Feel things out.
Beware not to go overboard, however. A simple, seemingly-casual collar adjustment or lean of your shoulder into his body puts the ball of touch in his court.
If he returns your touch, consider it kinesthetically calculated.
Play good ol’ fashioned hard to get.
The simple equation here is less available = more desirable. Even if you’re highly interested in someone, remind yourself to maintain a push-pull, one-step-forward-two-steps back approach to maintain your desirability—especially while flirting via text.
Act like the prize that you are.
Now, this is not to say that you should pretend to be someone else, this technique is based on the theory that confidence will eventually become a natural habit after continuously exuding the characteristics of it (see more on this theory in the video below -- definitely worth a watch!).
Take a look around nature. Every living thing you see—from wild animals to wild people—is a product of the flirting and courtship process.
While fun and playful in nature, flirting is the essential first step toward life’s most fundamental, pleasurable and glorious undertaking, which without, none of us would ever be here (we’re talking about sex!).