{"id":10393,"date":"2015-03-20T17:24:01","date_gmt":"2015-03-20T09:24:01","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.lelo.com\/blog\/?p=10393"},"modified":"2026-03-07T06:11:10","modified_gmt":"2026-03-07T05:11:10","slug":"the-bondage-survey-results-bdsm-statistics","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.lelo.com\/blog\/the-bondage-survey-results-bdsm-statistics\/","title":{"rendered":"The Bondage Survey Results: BDSM Statistics!"},"content":{"rendered":"

If you\u2019ve ever found yourself wondering \u2018what does BDSM actually stand for\u2019, it\u2019s \u2018brackets, digits, statistics & math\u2019. That\u2019s not true. BDSM actually stands for \u2018bondage, discipline and sadomasochism\u2019.<\/p>\n

But you might remember a couple of weeks ago we asked our fans and followers \u2013 i.e. you \u2013 to complete a survey about their attitudes towards kink and BDSM. Well, the results are in.<\/p>\n

A massive 1,100<\/strong> of you responded in full, and we\u2019d like to share some of the information we\u2019ve gathered with you below. It makes for interesting, and surprising, reading\u2026<\/p>\n

Our target was to see how many people wanted to explore \u2013 or were already exploring \u2013 bondage, discipline and sadomasochism. And since, unfortunately, there\u2019s no way to mention BDSM without mentioning 50 Shades these days, we wanted to see what impact the movie and the books had on the general kink-consciousness of our readers and followers.<\/p>\n

We started with some background about the respondents, two thirds of whom were female and over half between the ages of 18 and 25. Then we got dtraight to the meat of what we wanted to know.<\/p>\n

Q: Have You Read 50 Shades Of Grey?<\/h2>\n

\"have-you-read-50-shades\"It’s a very even split between the amount of people who have and haven’t read the books. We can’t help wondering how many people who claim to have read it actually haven’t, and vice versa.<\/p>\n

Next, we wanted to see what impact reading it had, if any, on people\u2019s sex lives.<\/p>\n

Q: If You Read 50 Shades, What Effect Did It Have On your Sex Life?<\/h2>\n

\"what-effect-did-50-shades-have\"<\/p>\n

While it’s good to see that the vast majority of people find some positivity in 50 Shades, it’s heartbreaking to see a handful (2.5%) claim their relationships were actually damaged by it.<\/p>\n

Q: Have You Tried BDSM Yourself?<\/h2>\n

\"have-you-tried-s-and-m\"<\/p>\n

So almost exactly three quarters of respondents have tried BDSM in one form or another. That means that in any group of four people, three of them have had kinky sex. Probably together.<\/p>\n

Q: If Yes, What Encouraged You To Try It?<\/h2>\n

\"what-made-you-try-bdsm\"<\/p>\n

Q: If Yes, What Have You Tried?<\/h2>\n

\"what-have-you-tried\"<\/p>\n

Spanking and restraints are almost identical, suggesting that for many of our respondents they go hand in hand. [link: spanking explained]<\/p>\n

Next, we ramp it up even further\u2026<\/p>\n

Q: Have You Ever Been To A Sex Party?<\/h2>\n

\"have-you-been-to-a-sex-party\"<\/h4>\n

Q: If Yes, What Motivated You?<\/h2>\n

\"what-motivated-you-to-go-to-a-sex-party\"<\/p>\n

A surprising 8% of respondents said they had attended a sex party, and all of them told us it was because they had always wanted to try it. Go here if you\u2019d like to find out how to find a sex party<\/a>.<\/p>\n

Q: If No, Would You Ever Consider Going?<\/h2>\n

\"would-you-consider-going-to-a-sex-party\"<\/p>\n

When more than two thirds of respondents claim they\u2019d consider a sex party, there\u2019s obviously a very healthy appetite for it.<\/p>\n

Q: When Role-Playing, Which Sexual Role Do You Prefer?<\/h2>\n

\"which-sexual-role-do-you-prefer\"<\/strong><\/h2>\n

Another little surprise in the results is exactly how much people enjoy various sexual roles \u2013 more respondents enjoy being submissive to being dominant, and even more prefer to switch between roles. It\u2019s fascinating to see how flexible people are sexually, one might expect that the dominant and submissive roles were quite firmly entrenched, but no. The opposite is true, and the desire to be dominant is the lowest by far.<\/p>\n

And finally, these three questions\u2026.<\/p>\n

Q: Would You Like More BDSM In Your Relationship?<\/h2>\n

\"would-you-like-more-bedsm-in-your-relationship\"<\/h4>\n

Q: Do You Feel BDSM Is More Acceptable Today?<\/h2>\n

\"is-bdsm-more-acceptable-these-days\"<\/p>\n

Q: Do You Feel S&M Is Part Of A Normal Healthy Sex Life?<\/h2>\n

\"is-bdsm-part-of-a-normal-sex-life\"<\/p>\n

Conclusion<\/h2>\n

The figures speak for themselves: the vast majority of our respondents are incredibly positive about BDSM: they think it\u2019s safe, normal and they want more. They\u2019re also flexible in their tastes and willing to experiment. There is an appetite for sex parties, showing a trend towards more acceptance of sexuality, and 50 Shades has had only a negligible influence on the sexual appetites of our respondents. It\u2019s seems that most of them were already doing it, or were already planning to.<\/p>\n

 <\/p>\n

Enjoy 15% off LELO.com<\/a> with code VOLONTE15<\/span><\/strong><\/p>\n

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