{"id":12151,"date":"2015-09-29T14:18:41","date_gmt":"2015-09-29T14:18:41","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.lelo.com\/blog\/?p=12151"},"modified":"2026-03-08T01:32:43","modified_gmt":"2026-03-08T00:32:43","slug":"7-barriers-ultimate-orgasm-shouldnt","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.lelo.com\/blog\/7-barriers-ultimate-orgasm-shouldnt\/","title":{"rendered":"The 7 Barriers to Ultimate Orgasm that Shouldn\u2019t Be"},"content":{"rendered":"<p>The following is an article written by Jenny Block (author of Lambda Literary Award winner <em>Open: Love, Sex and Life in an Open Marriage,\u00a0 O Wow: Discovering Your Ultimate Orgasm <\/em>and contributor to Huffington Post, Playboy, and AskMen) where she offers her 7 tips for how to overcome the most common barriers to orgasm faced by women.<\/p>\n<p>Everyone has a right to great sex and ultimate orgasm. But it doesn\u2019t always come easy to everyone. Not to worry though! If you are experiencing barriers to either, here are seven common ones and why it\u2019s time to let them go.<\/p>\n<h2>7. As Long As It Takes<\/h2>\n<p>Your clock \u2013 When it comes to ultimate orgasm, time should be irrelevant. There is no such thing as \u201ctaking too long.\u201d Women don\u2019t actually take longer than men to orgasm from start to finish. It\u2019s just that the clit isn\u2019t always getting all of the constant, consistent stimulation it needs. So forget the clock. Enjoy what your body is experiencing. When the orgasm comes, it comes. (No pun intended.)<\/p>\n<h2>6. Make Room for Pleasure<\/h2>\n<p>Your space \u2013 If you don\u2019t feel safe or comfortable or sexy, it can be very challenging to orgasm. So, create the kind of space that inspires your senses. Light a candle with a scent you love. Dress the bed in clean linens. Be sure the door is locked or that you won\u2019t be otherwise interrupted or overheard. Grab that extra pillow. Put on some great music. Whatever makes you feel the best, will allow you to come the best.<\/p>\n<h2>5. It\u2019s the Dirty Thought that Counts<\/h2>\n<p>Your brain \u2013 Our brains can be our best friends or our worst enemies when it comes to orgasm. So forget about the laundry and that meeting you have tomorrow and focus on your feelings, your partner, your body, your fantasies. Anything that keeps your head in the game. If your mind starts to wander in an unsexy direction, redirect it to the sensations you\u2019re enjoying. The rest can wait!<\/p>\n<h2>4. Fuzzy Duck<\/h2>\n<p>Your connection \u2013 Whether you are in love or lust \u2013 with your partner or yourself! \u2013 pay attention to the connection you\u2019re creating when you\u2019re getting down to business. Orgasm releases all sorts of lovely hormones that make you feel all warm and fuzzy. So focus on the draw and you\u2019ll get even more of those cozy feelings before, during, and after the big O.<\/p>\n<h2>3. Know Thyself<\/h2>\n<p>Your body \u2013 The body is an amazing machine capable of remarkable pleasure. And the female body is lucky enough to hold the only organ, in either the male or the female body, created for no purpose other than pleasure \u2013 the clit! So put all of those body image issues aside. Your partner has chosen to be with you in part because they love \u2013 or lust \u2013 the body you\u2019re in. Let their desires override anything else!<\/p>\n<h2>2. Love the Love You\u2019re Making<\/h2>\n<p>Your past \u2013 It doesn\u2019t matter what you\u2019ve done \u2013 or haven\u2019t done \u2013 in the past. It doesn\u2019t matter who you\u2019ve been with or how those trysts have gone. All that matters is the here and now. So be where you are and allow your current sexual self to be your guide. You aren\u2019t having the sex you once had. You are having the sex you are having now \u2013 which should be happy, healthy, <a href=\"https:\/\/www.lelo.com\/blog\/consent\/\">enthusiastically consented to sex<\/a> \u2013 so enjoy it!<\/p>\n<h2>1. Unconditional Love<\/h2>\n<p>Your religion or your society \u2013 Too many religions and cultures try to judge and shame our sexual selves and there is simply no room or need for that. Sex is a happy, healthy, wonderful, fun activity that consenting adults have every right to enjoy. So forget any sort of nonsense that you may feel brainwashed by (because that\u2019s all it is, brainwashing) and enjoy the body and the pleasure that is yours to enjoy.<\/p>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p style=\"text-align: center;\"><strong>Enjoy 15% off <a href=\"https:\/\/www.lelo.com\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\">LELO.com<\/a> with code <span style=\"color: #800080;\">VOLONTE15<\/span><\/strong><\/p>\n<p style=\"text-align: center;\"><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>The following is an article written by Jenny Block (author of Lambda Literary Award winner Open: Love, Sex and Life in an Open Marriage,\u00a0 O Wow: Discovering Your Ultimate Orgasm and contributor to Huffington Post, Playboy, and AskMen) where she offers her 7 tips for how to overcome the most common barriers to orgasm faced by women. Everyone has a right to great sex and ultimate orgasm. But it doesn\u2019t always come easy to everyone. Not to worry though! 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