{"id":14244,"date":"2016-03-18T17:49:05","date_gmt":"2016-03-18T09:49:05","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.lelo.com\/blog\/?p=14244"},"modified":"2026-03-14T05:37:40","modified_gmt":"2026-03-14T04:37:40","slug":"is-polyamory-right-for-you-8-questions-to-help-you-decide","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.lelo.com\/blog\/is-polyamory-right-for-you-8-questions-to-help-you-decide\/","title":{"rendered":"Is Polyamory Right for You? 8 Questions to Help You Decide"},"content":{"rendered":"

As polyamory and other open relationships options<\/a> become more visible, more and more people are wondering if that could be the right choice for them. And for a good reason: Poly is really not for everyone (nothing sexual ever is, really): It\u2019s socially stigmatized, emotionally more complex, and logistically more complicated than monogamy.<\/p>\n

But how do you decide whether you\u2019re the kind of person for whom the benefits of consensual non-monogamy would be worth the added complexity, and that you\u2019re not getting yourself into something that\u2019s doomed to fail? Here are eight research-supported questions to help you make that decision.<\/p>\n

1. Do you actually want an open relationship?<\/h2>\n

This seems like a dumb\/obvious question, but too often people get into open arrangements even though they don\u2019t actually want them. Despite what some popular poly proponents argue for, not all humans are equally non-monogamous.<\/p>\n

It\u2019s more accurate to think of the desire for non-monogamy as a personality trait, akin to extroversion: Some people are very extroverted\/non-monogamous, some people are very introverted\/monogamous, and most are somewhere in between.<\/p>\n

So spend some time figuring out where you lie on this continuum: Is having multiple sexual and\/or romantic partners at the same time something that sounds at least mildly exciting or beneficial? If the answer is a resounding \u201cno,\u201d then open relationships don\u2019t have much to bring to your life.<\/p>\n

2. Is your relationship stable and happy?<\/h2>\n

If you\u2019re currently in a monogamous relationship and considering opening it up, make sure that it\u2019s a solid relationship. Do you and your partner love and appreciate each other, feel very close and connected to each other, believe you have a pretty good life together, and have no desire to break up?<\/p>\n

Trying consensual non-monogamy because you\u2019re hoping to save a failing relationship or secretly hoping to get out of one is a recipe for disaster.<\/p>\n

3. Are you an enthusiastic sex and relationship communicator?<\/h2>\n

There\u2019s a lot of talking about sex and relationship stuff in open relationships that often doesn\u2019t happen (though it should) in monogamous relationships.<\/p>\n

You need to talk to establish you want to be open; to determine your and your partner(s) needs, desires, and limitations; to decide on the specific rules\/agreements; to check in with each other on a regular basis about how this arrangement is working out, to occasionally change the rules\/agreements; to deal with unexpected events, conflict, jealousy, anger\u2026, you get the point.<\/p>\n

Some people don\u2019t like to talk much about this stuff, or don\u2019t have very good communication and listening skills. If this is you, trying to have an open relationship will seem like way too much work to be worth it while putting your partner(s) at high risk for emotional and physical hurt.<\/p>\n

4. How jealous are you?<\/h2>\n

Like with most traits, humans vary on how jealous they are. It\u2019s a common misconception that you need to be completely impervious to jealousy in order to do poly successfully. That\u2019s certainly not true as most people in open relationships do occasionally experience jealousy. But the less jealous you are by nature, the easier it is to handle open relationships. If you\u2019re a particularly jealous person, chances are polyamory will be far more trouble than it\u2019s worth.<\/p>\n

5. How anxiously attached are you?<\/h2>\n

Think about how you usually are in romantic relationships. How well do the following three statements describe you? \u201cI worry that romantic partners won\u2019t care about me as much as I care about them,\u201d \u201cI need a lot of reassurance that I am loved by my partner,\u201d \u201cI often worry about being abandoned.\u201d<\/p>\n

If these feelings are very typical of you, you most likely possess an \u201canxious attachment style,\u201d meaning you are overly sensitive to cues that your partner doesn\u2019t care about you or will abandon you. For obvious reasons, this attachment style is not well suited for open relationships.<\/p>\n

Indeed, recent research<\/a> shows that anxiously attached people in open relationships were less satisfied with their relationship than anxiously attached people in monogamous relationships; relationship satisfaction, on the other hand, didn\u2019t differ between the open and monogamous couples if the partners were low on attachment anxiety.<\/p>\n

6. How cognitively flexible \/ tolerant of ambiguity are you?<\/h2>\n

Establishing rules or agreements for who, when, how, and where it\u2019s OK for you and your partners to see other people is a critical component of successful open relationships. But these agreements are not always entirely black or white, nor are they forever set in stone.<\/p>\n

It is therefore just as important\u2014if not more important\u2014that you can absorb a minor transgression stemming from differences in interpretation of the grey areas without it destroying your relationship or your attempt at non-monogamy, and that you remain open to your relationship rules changing over time.<\/p>\n

Some people find this easier than others: They react to new and ambiguous situations in an open or neutral way (a trait psychologists call \u201ctolerance for ambiguity\u201d), and they easily adjust their thinking in response to changing goals or situations (a trait psychologists call \u201ccognitive flexibility\u201d).<\/p>\n

Other people perceive new and unfamiliar situations as a threat, need certainty, and prefer rigid and unchanging rules. The more tolerance for ambiguity and cognitive flexibility you possess, the easier it will be to deal with the fluid nature of consensual non-monogamy.<\/p>\n

7. How well do you regulate your emotions?<\/h2>\n

No matter how much you communicate, plan, and stick to your agreements, consensual non-monogamy adds a level of complexity to a relationship where negative emotions are bound to get provoked: jealousy, anger, fear, insecurity, disappointment….<\/p>\n

Some of us are better at dealing with these negative emotions in constructive ways, for example by recognizing and avoiding situational triggers, cognitively processing the events and reinterpreting their meaning, distancing ourselves from the situation to take a more clear-headed perspective, using good-natured humor to deflect the negativity, keeping ourselves distracted, and delaying acting until we\u2019ve \u201ccooled off\u201d.<\/p>\n

Other people are not particularly good at emotional regulation, allowing negative emotions to overpower their thinking and actions, leading to violent outbursts, incessant worry and rumination, self-destructive behaviors (like substance use), or long-term suppression.<\/p>\n

8. Do you have a supportive community?<\/h2>\n

Despite increased recent visibility and positive portrayals of polyamory in the media, this is an alternative relationship lifestyle that is still highly stigmatized, with most people holding all sorts of negative stereotypes of open relationships and the people involved with them: diseased, immoral, unhappy, selfish…<\/p>\n

While you may think that friends\u2019 and parents\u2019 opposition to your relationship is kind of romantic and will make it even stronger (Romeo and Juliet, right?), research shows that people who have to hide or feel marginalized due to their romantic relationships experience worse physical health, more substance use, less consistent condom use, lower self-esteem, as well as lower commitment to the relationship.<\/p>\n

So if you\u2019d like to try out polyamory, make sure you have at least some friends and family who can support you.<\/p>\n

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