{"id":14531,"date":"2016-04-19T18:55:39","date_gmt":"2016-04-19T10:55:39","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.lelo.com\/blog\/?p=14531"},"modified":"2026-03-14T05:32:58","modified_gmt":"2026-03-14T04:32:58","slug":"condoms-the-kink-community","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.lelo.com\/blog\/condoms-the-kink-community\/","title":{"rendered":"Condoms & The Kink Community"},"content":{"rendered":"

Condoms have a bit of a reputation\u2015one that LELO has charged itself with changing<\/a>\u2015as something necessary but decidedly unsexy. Ignoring the fact that there are some pretty sexy ways to go about using a condom<\/a>, you might also be surprised to find out the role a condom plays within kinky (and very sexy) play.<\/p>\n

Safety in Numbers<\/h2>\n

One of the most obvious ways that condoms find their place within the kinky community is at play parties<\/a>. While not all play parties turn into orgiastic tangles of limbs\u2015many people attend to watch or only interact with the partner they attend with\u2015there is generally an accepted policy that anything that penetrates any person should be covered with a condom, and a new condom be used with the next person.<\/p>\n

This applies for PIV sex, but also means covering toys used with partners, as well as using condoms for oral sex. Some events may make dental dams available for cunnilingus, but one can easily be made by cutting the tip and base off of an unrolled condom, and then cutting it along the length.<\/p>\n

Gloves are also often provided for digital play that let you easily move from anal to vaginal play or from partner to partner. You may not associate gloves with safer sex, but at larger parties it is always a good idea to ask people to cover when stimulating you, and should you have any small cuts or hangnails on your hand\u2015 because you\u2019ve remembered to trim your nails\u2015it is safer to wear a latex glove, which now come in some pretty fun colors!<\/p>\n

A Professional Opinion<\/h2>\n

If you\u2019re considering visiting a professional Dominant, it\u2019s often expected that you will wear a condom even if you have no intention of engaging in any \u2018traditional\u2019 sexual stimulation.<\/p>\n

Many Dominatrixes (and their less common male counterparts) will ask that client put a condom on as soon as they arrive\u2015before they become erect\u2015simply to minimize the mess that\u2019s made on their expensive equipment by pre-ejaculate.<\/p>\n

An Supporting Role<\/h2>\n

One of the greatest reasons to love using condoms<\/a> in kinky sex is how versatile a prop it can be. Maybe you and your long-term partner want to indulge in some role play, such as pretending to \u2018meet a stranger from Craigslist\u2019\u00a0 or picking each other up at a bar. There, a condom serves as part of your \u2018costume\u2019 even when you aren\u2019t wearing anything at all. It\u00a0 can also be used for sensation play <\/a>\u2015filled with warm water or frozen into ice, you can play on a blindfolded<\/a> partner’s sense of touch!<\/p>\n

If one partner is submissive <\/a>and enjoys humiliation\u2015not an uncommon male kink\u2015<\/a>an extra large sized condom can be used as a humiliation technique. Conversely, a too-small condom can be used\u2015carefully\u2015as a method of applying CBT<\/a>. When doing so, it is important to keep these sessions short (30 minutes or less) and maintain communication about pain levels with the use of safewords <\/a>as well as observation to appearance throughout.<\/p>\n

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Enjoy 15% off LELO.com<\/a> with code VOLONTE15<\/span><\/strong><\/p>\n

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