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You know those times when you\u2019re in an argument with your partner, when they\u2019re being obtusely adamant, not budging on their (probably wrong) opinion and being frustratingly stubborn to the point where you just want to\u2026 have sex with them<\/i>?<\/p>\n

Sure, we\u2019ve all been there, and some relationship experts agree that what we commonly call \u201cmake-up sex\u201d (as opposed to the more formal \u2018making-up sex\u2019) is a healthy part of reconciling differences. But rather than just going directly from battle to bed<\/a>, we\u2019re suggesting some guidelines be followed for the best outcome from your post-fight freakiness.<\/p>\n

DO: Finish the Fight Before the Fun Begins<\/h2>\n

Use the sex you\u2019re about to have as a \u2018sealing the deal\u2019 gesture that punctuates the end of the fight, not as something you use as a conflict resolution in and of itself. A temporary fix will only compound the problem when it rears its head in the future, as these things tend to do.<\/p>\n

DON\u2019T: Overdo It<\/h2>\n

<\/b>Make-up sex may be awesome, but everything good must be enjoyed in moderation. If you do find however that fighting and make-up sex is the only way you and your partner share intimacy, it\u2019s perhaps time to examine your relationship a little more closely.<\/p>\n

DO: Use Make-Up Sex to Reconnect with Your Partner<\/h2>\n

<\/b>Make-up sex is a great way to not only get out some of that pent-up frustration you feel in a constructive way, but also to reassert your feelings for the one closest to you \u2013 even if it was all their big dumb stupid-face fault to begin with.<\/p>\n

DON\u2019T: Bring Up Their Misdeed Mid-Deed<\/h2>\n

<\/b>If you\u2019ve got one more grievance that needs airing, or if you have one of those \u2018I wish I would have said\u2026\u2019 realizations in the heat of the moment, now is certainly not the right time for that. This advice also extends to the subject matter you choose to use in your dirty talking<\/a><\/span> \u2013 just wait until the post-coital bliss part of the coitus to bring it up \u2013 they\u2019ll be all ears at that point.<\/p>\n

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