{"id":16382,"date":"2016-10-26T18:14:56","date_gmt":"2016-10-26T10:14:56","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.lelo.com\/blog\/?p=16382"},"modified":"2026-03-14T15:18:57","modified_gmt":"2026-03-14T14:18:57","slug":"premature-ejaculation-womans-view","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.lelo.com\/blog\/premature-ejaculation-womans-view\/","title":{"rendered":"Premature Ejaculation: A Woman\u2019s View"},"content":{"rendered":"

Premature ejaculation may seem like a guy\u2019s problem \u2014 but it can also affect men\u2019s sexual partners. Simply put, premature ejaculation, or PE, occurs when a man ejaculates too quickly during sex with a partner. It\u2019s the most common sexual complaint reported by men, affecting about one in five of them. Guys tend to worry that they\u2019ll be viewed as selfish lovers and can experience a range of emotions, from shame to inadequacy.<\/p>\n

We have a pretty good understanding of how men see their problems with PE, but it has been less clear how their partners view the issue \u2014 until now.<\/p>\n

As part of the large \u201cPenis Perceptions Survey\u201d my colleagues and I at the Sexual Health Promotion Lab at University of Kentucky recently collected data from over 15,000 men and women about their perceptions, attitudes, likes, and dislikes, when it comes to penises and sex. The largest study of its kind, this survey informed two additional phases of the study that aimed to further understand male sexual functioning and the impact it has on partners.<\/p>\n

The survey examined various aspects of sexual habits, preferences, and concerns, including PE, and sheds some light on the way couples think about this issue. For instance, 90% of respondents said that their partners\u2019 ejaculatory control was important<\/a>, while about 64% of men said that ejaculating before they desired left them feeling frustrated at least some of time. And just over 47% of men reported being concerned at least half the time or more that they ejaculated too quickly, leaving their partners sexually unfilled.<\/p>\n

One question asked men whether they would be willing to try a sexual enhancement product to help them last longer, and more than 47% said they would. One of the additional phases of this study looked at the effects of a topical numbing agent on PE. The subjective responses were intriguing\u2014and somewhat unexpected.<\/p>\n

For the men, the experience seemed overwhelmingly positive: The majority said that the product helped them last longer before ejaculating, helped them feel more relaxed during intercourse, and made sex more pleasurable overall.<\/p><\/blockquote>\n

They also believed that their female partners had enjoyed it, too. \u201cWe both got more pleasure out of the experience,\u201d said one, while another stated that, \u201cDelaying ejaculation allowed for more and longer pleasure with my wife.\u201d Others reported that their female partners were \u201creally into it,\u201d \u201chad several orgasms,\u201d and \u201creally let loose.\u201d<\/p>\n

Another Look at Premature Ejaculation<\/h2>\n

Sounds great, right? But the women\u2019s responses really give us some insight. As with the men, the majority of the women\u2019s experiences were positive. Many agreed with their partners that the product allowed the men to last longer before ejaculating, which made sex more fulfilling. Yet few mentioned the orgasms described by their husbands and boyfriends.<\/p>\n

Instead, they seemed to be focused on the man\u2019s performance \u2014 or his perception of it: \u201cThe spray made my husband feel more confident and he thought he lasted somewhat longer, so that made the mood better,\u201d said one woman. \u201cIt didn\u2019t physically affect me,\u201d another admitted, \u201cbut I could tell he was enjoying himself more than usual.\u201d Some of the women even seemed to prefer sex without the numbing product, suggesting that they might not be as troubled by PE as their partners assume.<\/p>\n

For example, one female partner said that she and her husband typically climaxed at the same time<\/a> but with the product \u201che lasted after I had finished which I didn\u2019t like as much because it feels a little more intimate the other way.\u201d<\/p>\n

Others said that they didn\u2019t like delaying ejaculation but would purchase the product if it made their male partners happy.<\/p><\/blockquote>\n

Such responses suggest that some women might not view PE as a concern \u2014 at least when it comes to their own sexual pleasure. Indeed, it may not be inaccurate to view PE as part of the same sexual responsiveness and body sensitivity that we praise women for. It would certainly take a lot of the pressure off the guy, which, ultimately, is half the battle in managing PE.<\/p>\n

The truth is, a variety of techniques can help a man gain more control over when he ejaculates<\/a>. And there are plenty of ways to enjoy satisfying, responsive sex when a guy does reach orgasm early. As the old saying goes, attitude is far more important than aptitude \u2014 and that\u2019s certainly true for both partners in this case.<\/p>\n

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