{"id":17209,"date":"2017-03-01T08:21:14","date_gmt":"2017-03-01T08:21:14","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.lelo.com\/blog\/?p=17209"},"modified":"2024-07-01T16:50:02","modified_gmt":"2024-07-01T14:50:02","slug":"everything-youve-wanted-to-know-about-attending-a-sex-party-from-a-woman-who-hosts-them","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.lelo.com\/blog\/everything-youve-wanted-to-know-about-attending-a-sex-party-from-a-woman-who-hosts-them\/","title":{"rendered":"Everything You&#8217;ve Wanted to Know About Attending a Sex Party (from a Woman who Hosts them)"},"content":{"rendered":"<p><em>We are so pleased to welcome Emma Sayle, <span class=\"st\">founder of <a href=\"https:\/\/www.killingkittens.com\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\">Killing Kittens<\/a>, the members-only club that hosts female-oriented sex parties around the world, as a guest author. Here, she answers some of the most common questions people have about attending a sex party like Killing Kittens.<\/span><\/em><\/p>\n<h2>What Type of People Go to Sex Parties?<\/h2>\n<p>It is a mixed bag of driven and successful people looking for that hedonistic experience. We welcome all types from city workers to models to advertising execs, and schoolteachers. They all share a similar mentality: that life is to be enjoyed and experienced! It\u2019s definitely not just \u2018posh people\u2019 as the media makes out.<\/p>\n<h2>How Should I Broach the Topic with My Partner?<\/h2>\n<p>\u2018Babe, do you fancy joining a sex party?\u2019 is a bold question. So go in softly.<br \/>\nSuggest doing something naughty together but just as voyeurs with no pressure to get involved. Try \u2018let\u2019s just go and see what its all about, we can always leave whenever we want\u2019 instead. Until you put yourselves in the middle of a Killing Kittens party you will never know how you will react and whether you can really handle it. Some fantasies are best left in the imagination.<\/p>\n<h2>What Do We Need to Bring to a Sex Party?<\/h2>\n<p>Wear good lingerie because you never know how you will feel when you get there. A lot of people turn up thinking they won\u2019t get involved &#8211; then they\u2019re naked in the Jacuzzi having their first <a href=\"https:\/\/www.lelo.com\/blog\/sex-between-women-how-do-lesbians-have-sex\/\">girl-on-girl experience<\/a>. Other than that, just bring yourselves, a mask and an open mind.<\/p>\n<h2>Are We Expected To Join In &amp; Get Naked As Soon As We Arrive?<\/h2>\n<p>There is no pressure to get naked, get involved or do anything you don\u2019t want to do. Many of the male-led sex parties out there expect the girls to strip down to their lingerie on arrival but our events are very much the opposite. You can stay in your masks and dresses for the entire night if you wish and simply soak up the atmosphere. The bottom line is that the Killing Kittens events are actually really fun parties and not all about the sex.<\/p>\n<h2>What Can We Expect Upon Arrival?<\/h2>\n<p>Killing Kittens events kick off with a fizz or cocktail reception, often with oysters too, and to keep things exciting everyone is expected to wear masks upon arrival.\u00a0 For the first few hours it\u2019s very much a private drinks event: imagine walking into a stylish private house party full of guests in sexy cocktail dress and masks.<\/p>\n<h2>What Is the Etiquette During the Party?<\/h2>\n<p>We have strict rules that set us apart from the other parties out there. Killing Kittens is very much about women being completely in control, to be in charge of their sexuality and to go as far as they want without any pressure from the men.\u00a0 So the main rule is that men are not allowed to approach girls they don\u2019t know &#8211; they must wait for the girls to do the approaching.<\/p>\n<p>If you are in a couple and like the look of other couples or single girls, then it\u2019s up to the girl to do the approaching. After that, it\u2019s just like any bar scenario: you don&#8217;t know how they will react.\u00a0Finally, if there is action going on you can\u2019t just dive in &#8211; you must wait to be invited in.\u00a0 No-one likes an over-enthusiastic and uninvited penis diving into the mix.<\/p>\n<p>For more information about swinging etiquette, see our &#8220;<a href=\"https:\/\/www.lelo.com\/blog\/what-are-swingers\/\">What Are Swingers? Answered By Long-Time Swingers<\/a>&#8221; article.<\/p>\n<h2>Are There Any Other Rules We Should Know About?<\/h2>\n<p>No means no. We also don\u2019t allow phones: in the 12 years the parties have been running, no-one has ever \u2018checked in\u2019 to a Killing Kittens event on <a href=\"https:\/\/www.lelo.com\/blog\/back-basics-importance-of-unplugging-in-era-of-digital-sex\/\">social media<\/a>.\u00a0 Our events are secret and we want to take you out of that world.<\/p>\n<h2>How Do You Ensure Safer Sex?<\/h2>\n<p>We provide bowls and bowls of <a href=\"https:\/\/www.lelo.com\/blog\/review-roundup-lelo-hex-condoms\/\">condoms<\/a>. After that it\u2019s down to <a href=\"https:\/\/www.lelo.com\/blog\/consent\/\">consenting adults<\/a> &#8211; we can\u2019t police the playrooms to ensure they are all using protection. 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