{"id":17988,"date":"2017-08-25T09:13:28","date_gmt":"2017-08-25T09:13:28","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.lelo.com\/blog\/?p=17988"},"modified":"2024-11-18T04:05:47","modified_gmt":"2024-11-18T03:05:47","slug":"dear-lelo-dont-think-im-masturbating-right-way","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.lelo.com\/blog\/dear-lelo-dont-think-im-masturbating-right-way\/","title":{"rendered":"Am I Masturbating Wrong? FAQ"},"content":{"rendered":"

Dear LELO,
\nThis is sort of embarrassing, but I don\u2019t really know what else to do. I saved up for ages to buy my first LELO \u00a0(a MONA 2) and I was beyond excited to try it…but I don\u2019t think it\u2019s working for me? Or, maybe I\u2019m not using it right, because I looked how people rave about it before I chose it.
\nCan you tell me what I\u2019m doing wrong??
\nAll Thumbs<\/p><\/blockquote>\n

Dear All Thumbs,<\/h3>\n

Even without knowing the exact details of how you\u2019re using your MONA 2<\/a>, it\u2019s likely that you\u2019re running into an issue that many women did when first beginning to masturbate<\/a>. When it comes to starting self-pleasure, there are generally two ways it happens – either as young children we figure out that a certain kind of stimulation feels good, and so we keep doing it before we even know what it is we\u2019re doing, or much later, we are familiar with the concept of masturbation and consciously set out to do it. <\/span><\/p>\n

When it comes to the second type of foray, many of us get caught up on how we \u2018think\u2019 it\u2019s supposed to work, using preconceived notions that we have picked up from all sorts of places.<\/span><\/p>\n

And, unfortunately, a lot of these notions are not complete \u00a0or accurate, which does not set\u00a0you up for a good time. <\/span><\/p><\/blockquote>\n

If, as I\u2019m assuming, you\u2019re not finding much enjoyment out of merely inserting MONA 2 and thrusting, it\u2019s entirely possible that you\u2019re merely not built to orgasm that way, or you\u2019re not quite aroused enough, or need to use lube<\/a>, or any number of reasons – all of which are okay. Think about how many hundreds of types of sex toys there are, each is meant for a different type of pleasure and, creative people that we are, there’s definitely more than one way to use each toy<\/a>.<\/span><\/p>\n

Generally speaking, the clitoris<\/a> is your major player when it comes to pleasure. Even if you are able to achieve a G-spot orgasm<\/a>, anatomically-speaking, it\u2019s likely that you\u2019ll also need to have some clitoral stimulation to start or even throughout. <\/span><\/p>\n

Try using the the tip of your MONA to explore different parts of your vulva. <\/span><\/p><\/blockquote>\n

Try different pressures and vibration speeds, try making small circles on the clitoral hood or tracing lines up and down. Treat your self-love session as exactly that, a time to try touching your body in a lot of different places in a lot of different ways. Once you find something that feels good, remember to relax and enjoy the feeling rather than worrying about whether you\u2019re going to come or not, because that kind of performance anxiety is definitely unsexy!<\/span><\/p>\n

If you feel like you\u2019re lacking inspiration, or even just like you\u2019re having trouble getting \u2018in the zone,\u2019 then reading erotica or watching erotic film<\/a> can be just the thing to whisk you away into a pleasure-focused state of mind, and it can also give you new ideas for things to try out!<\/span><\/p>\n

Finally, just remember that \u2018self-pleasure\u2019 is exactly that: pleasure for yourself. How, when and why you enjoy whatever it is that you enjoy doesn\u2019t have to look like anyone else\u2019s self-pleasure.<\/strong><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

Dear LELO, This is sort of embarrassing, but I don\u2019t really know what else to do. I saved up for ages to buy my first LELO \u00a0(a MONA 2) and I was beyond excited to try it…but I don\u2019t think it\u2019s working for me? Or, maybe I\u2019m not using it right, because I looked how people rave about it before I chose it. Can you tell me what I\u2019m doing wrong?? All Thumbs Dear All Thumbs, Even without knowing the […]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":44,"featured_media":17989,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_acf_changed":false,"footnotes":""},"categories":[914],"tags":[531,135],"coauthors":[950],"class_list":["post-17988","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-masturbation","tag-advice","tag-masturbation"],"acf":[],"yoast_head":"\nDear LELO: I Don\u2019t Think I\u2019m Masturbating the \u2018Right\u2019 Way - Advice<\/title>\n<meta name=\"description\" content=\"There's more than one way to do anything, and yet if you're stuck in a pleasure rut, you might wonder what's wrong. 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