{"id":18058,"date":"2017-09-20T10:15:17","date_gmt":"2017-09-20T10:15:17","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.lelo.com\/blog\/?p=18058"},"modified":"2024-07-06T20:02:35","modified_gmt":"2024-07-06T18:02:35","slug":"yes-no-maybe-sexy-list-fill-together","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.lelo.com\/blog\/yes-no-maybe-sexy-list-fill-together\/","title":{"rendered":"Sex ‘To-Do’ List To Fill Out Together"},"content":{"rendered":"

While getting to know the idiosyncratic facets of a new partner\u2019s personality is half the fun of a new relationship, there is something to be said for coming right out and saying exactly what you would like – and would definitely not like – in bed. <\/span><\/p>\n

Not only is establishing boundaries important for good bedroom communication<\/a> and making sure both partners are happy in bed, discussing sex acts you\u2019re interested in is, well, pretty darn sexy!<\/span><\/p>\n

We\u2019ve prepared something of a \u2018sex worksheet\u2019 for you to go over with your partner so you can discuss what you\u2019re definitely interested in, not into at all, or even maybe interested in exploring in the future!<\/span><\/p>\n

Now keep in mind that this list isn\u2019t exhaustive, and not only should you but also you can add your own ideas, you should also go into detail about each one in your discussion. That ensures that all the specific why\u2019s and when\u2019s get addressed – think, yes you\u2019re interested in being dominated, but only with specific aftercare, or you\u2019re okay with spanking, but you\u2019re not okay with anything that will leave a mark.<\/span><\/p>\n

Otherwise, filling out this worksheet is as easy as grabbing your partner (or doing it solo then discussing) and picking ‘yes,’ ‘no,’ or ‘maybe so’ for every item!<\/p>\n

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  1. Sexting<\/a><\/strong><\/li>\n
  2. Dirty Talk<\/strong><\/a><\/li>\n
  3. Naughty Photo Sharing<\/a><\/strong><\/li>\n
  4. Watching Porn Together<\/a><\/strong><\/li>\n
  5. Mutual Masturbation<\/a><\/strong><\/li>\n
  6. Oral Sex – Giving<\/a><\/strong><\/li>\n
  7. Oral Sex – Receiving<\/a><\/strong><\/li>\n
  8. Fingering – Vaginal<\/strong><\/a><\/li>\n
  9. Fingering – Anal<\/strong><\/li>\n
  10. Rimming – Giving <\/a><\/strong><\/li>\n
  11. Rimming – Receiving<\/a><\/strong><\/li>\n
  12. Anal Sex<\/a><\/strong><\/li>\n
  13. Pegging<\/a><\/strong><\/li>\n
  14. Blindfolds\u00a0<\/a><\/strong><\/li>\n
  15. Gags<\/strong><\/li>\n
  16. Costumes<\/strong><\/li>\n
  17. Role Playing<\/a>\u00a0<\/strong><\/li>\n
  18. Spanking – Giving\u00a0<\/a><\/strong><\/li>\n
  19. Spanking – Receiving<\/a><\/strong><\/li>\n
  20. Bondage – Tying Up<\/a><\/strong><\/li>\n
  21. Bondage – Being Tied Up<\/a><\/strong><\/li>\n
  22. Threesomes <\/a><\/strong><\/li>\n
  23. Swinging \/ Play Parties<\/a><\/strong><\/li>\n
  24. Outdoor Sex<\/a><\/strong><\/li>\n
  25. Temperature Play<\/a><\/strong><\/li>\n<\/ol>\n

    As you can see, with such a basic point form list such as this, completing this with a partner will spark plenty of conversation, beyond the standard \u2018safe word\u2019 discussion<\/a> that people associate with kinkier sex. <\/span><\/p>\n

    In fact, it\u2019s important to treat this list as not only a starting off point for your expanded, personalized list creation, but one that serves to facilitate later conversations whenever you or your partner change your mind about what you\u2019re okay with!<\/span><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

    While getting to know the idiosyncratic facets of a new partner\u2019s personality is half the fun of a new relationship, there is something to be said for coming right out and saying exactly what you would like – and would definitely not like – in bed. Not only is establishing boundaries important for good bedroom communication and making sure both partners are happy in bed, discussing sex acts you\u2019re interested in is, well, pretty darn sexy! 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