{"id":18261,"date":"2017-11-07T08:44:14","date_gmt":"2017-11-07T08:44:14","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.lelo.com\/blog\/?p=18261"},"modified":"2024-11-18T04:14:42","modified_gmt":"2024-11-18T03:14:42","slug":"what-is-a-forced-orgasm","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.lelo.com\/blog\/what-is-a-forced-orgasm\/","title":{"rendered":"What Is a Forced Orgasm?"},"content":{"rendered":"

Giving up control can be one of the most attractive aspects of BDSM – from the use of ropes for bondage to acting out <\/span>role play scenarios with a power imbalance<\/span><\/a>. <\/span><\/p>\n

But would you put your orgasm completely in your partner\u2019s hands, at their discretion whether to let you have one or not? If that sounds attractive to you, then you may be ready to try having forced orgasms.<\/span><\/p>\n

What Is a Forced Orgasm?<\/h2>\n

Forced orgasms are a component of kinky play wherein one partner controls the other\u2019s orgasm. It\u2019s similar to <\/span>edging<\/span><\/a> in that the Dominant partner can deny it, but their ultimate goal is to bring the submissive partner to orgasm. <\/span><\/p>\n

Think of it as a test of wills – the submissive partner fights the urge to give in to climax while at the mercy of their partner, who uses all vibrators or other toys \u00a0until an orgasm is \u2018forced\u2019 out of them – or their partner gives them permission to orgasm.<\/span><\/p>\n

What Is a Forced Vibrator Orgasm?<\/h2>\n

A forced vibrator orgasm is exactly as it sounds, a forced orgasm caused by a sex toy. A forced vibrator orgasm adds an extra element of intensity to the already heightening experience.<\/p>\n

What Do I Need to Try It?<\/h2>\n

There are some props that can help your pursuit of forced orgasm, but the number one thing you need before trying it is a big conversation about limits<\/a>. It\u2019s not just a matter of a safe word – though that is crucial – you must also discuss how far you\u2019re willing to take it, for how long, and even the type of language your partner is allowed to use toward you during the scene. <\/span><\/p>\n

Once that has been established, you\u2019re free to pick your sensual accessories and weapon of choice. Restraints can be handy to keep the submissive partner still – may we suggest <\/span>silk Boa ties<\/span><\/a> on each wrist and ankle to keep their entire body open and exposed to delicious teasing?<\/span><\/p>\n

When it comes to toys, there\u2019s nothing quite as iconic as using a powerful wand vibrator \u00a0to bring your helpless partner to their (eventual) orgasm, however any vibrator that gives the receiving a strong and\/or involuntary reaction – like, for example, <\/span>SONA<\/span><\/a> – would be suitable.<\/span><\/p>\n

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In this test of wills, once you both become adept, there\u2019s nothing stopping you from changing the playing field. <\/span>Blindfolds<\/span> and other types of sensory deprivation can increase the intensity of \u00a0sensation, and if you know, for instance, that your partner loves the feelings of <\/span>hot massage oil<\/span><\/a>, you can incorporate that to make it all the more difficult for them. <\/span><\/p>\n

Final Thoughts<\/h2>\n

No two relationships – sexual, romantic, or otherwise – looks exactly the same, and neither will any particular play scenario. While some may play with forced orgasms as part of bondage play, others can make it part of their long distance Skype sex<\/span><\/a> session – it\u2019s whatever gets you off (when you\u2019re allowed to)!<\/span><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

Giving up control can be one of the most attractive aspects of BDSM – from the use of ropes for bondage to acting out role play scenarios with a power imbalance. But would you put your orgasm completely in your partner\u2019s hands, at their discretion whether to let you have one or not? If that sounds attractive to you, then you may be ready to try having forced orgasms. What Is a Forced Orgasm? Forced orgasms are a component of […]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":44,"featured_media":18262,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_acf_changed":false,"footnotes":""},"categories":[918,11,922],"tags":[347],"coauthors":[950],"class_list":["post-18261","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-bdsm","category-sex-terms","category-orgasm","tag-bdsm"],"acf":[],"yoast_head":"\nWhat is a Forced Orgasm? 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