{"id":1877,"date":"2013-03-04T09:07:52","date_gmt":"2013-03-04T09:07:52","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.lelo.com\/blog\/?p=1877"},"modified":"2026-03-05T04:15:39","modified_gmt":"2026-03-05T03:15:39","slug":"lelo-qa-reaching-climax-lovemaking","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.lelo.com\/blog\/lelo-qa-reaching-climax-lovemaking\/","title":{"rendered":"Reader Question: Reaching Climax During Sex"},"content":{"rendered":"

Did you know that LELO\u2019s Wellbeing Experts write a monthly column in Wellness Magazine?<\/p>\n

Well, considering that it\u2019s a Sweden-only publication written entirely in Swedish, we don\u2019t blame you if you\u2019ve never heard of it.<\/p>\n

Every month, reader questions are passed to our experts, who give their advice on sex-related issues that are on the minds of many.<\/p>\n

Hi LELO!
\n<\/i>My boyfriend comes pretty quickly when we\u2019re having sex, and this leaves me having my orgasms in ways other than penetration. While not a complaint per-se, I\u2019d like to be able to climax while we\u2019re having sex.
\nIs there anything you can suggest to either help him last longer, or are there any tricks or moves to speed up the process for me?
\n<\/i>Marie<\/i><\/p><\/blockquote>\n

Marie,<\/p>\n

So it seems your boyfriend is finishing too quickly for you both to enjoy the main event, but what about the pre-game warm up?<\/p>\n

Men and women are very different creatures, sexually speaking, and there\u2019s a state of arousal called the \u2018orgasmic plateau\u2019, where, in both sexes, orgasm is imminent. It takes women considerably longer to reach this stage than men, so if you\u2019re looking for more mutually-timed orgasms, we suggest a little forward thinking when it comes to foreplay.<\/p>\n

You both need to spend some more time focusing on what comes before the actual act of sex itself, getting you \u2018revved up\u2019, so to speak, so that you\u2019re as close as you can be to attaining an orgasm during penetrative sex.<\/p>\n

Try incorporating a small external vibrator<\/a><\/span> like LILY<\/a><\/span>, ALIA<\/a><\/span> or MIA 2<\/a><\/span> that can be used easily by you and your partner to get you to your plateau in a fast and fun way.<\/p>\n

If your issue is that during lovemaking you get close, so close, right to the edge of climax \u2013 only to have him finish before you, try adding some extra \u2018oomph\u2019 to your intercourse.<\/p>\n

There exist vibrators that you or he are able to wear during sex that will provide you with a bit extra rumble to get you over the edge of that plateau and tumbling into \u2018orgasm valley\u2019 (not a real term, but it works).<\/p>\n

Try something like TOR 2 \u2013 a vibrating ring<\/a> he can wear around his member that will not only supply external vibrations for you, but the gentle constriction of the ring can result in extra stamina for him \u2013 making it a sensual win\/win situation!
\nIf you\u2019ve got a question for our Wellbeing Experts, feel free to send them to customercare@lelo.com<\/a>.<\/p>\n

 <\/p>\n

Enjoy 15% off LELO.com<\/a> with code VOLONTE15<\/span><\/strong><\/p>\n

<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

Did you know that LELO\u2019s Wellbeing Experts write a monthly column in Wellness Magazine? Well, considering that it\u2019s a Sweden-only publication written entirely in Swedish, we don\u2019t blame you if you\u2019ve never heard of it. Every month, reader questions are passed to our experts, who give their advice on sex-related issues that are on the minds of many. Hi LELO! My boyfriend comes pretty quickly when we\u2019re having sex, and this leaves me having my orgasms in ways other than […]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":13,"featured_media":39476,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_acf_changed":false,"footnotes":""},"categories":[922],"tags":[27],"coauthors":[947],"class_list":["post-1877","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-orgasm","tag-orgasm"],"acf":[],"yoast_head":"\nLELO Answers Your Orgasm Questions<\/title>\n<meta name=\"description\" content=\"In the first installment of LELO Q&A, we offer advice to a woman wanting to reach her \u2019orgasmic plateau\u2019 while making love.\" \/>\n<meta name=\"robots\" content=\"index, follow, max-snippet:-1, max-image-preview:large, max-video-preview:-1\" \/>\n<link rel=\"canonical\" href=\"https:\/\/www.lelo.com\/blog\/lelo-qa-reaching-climax-lovemaking\/\" \/>\n<meta property=\"og:locale\" content=\"en_US\" \/>\n<meta property=\"og:type\" content=\"article\" \/>\n<meta property=\"og:title\" content=\"LELO Answers Your Orgasm Questions\" \/>\n<meta property=\"og:description\" content=\"In the first installment of LELO Q&A, we offer advice to a woman wanting to reach her \u2019orgasmic plateau\u2019 while making love.\" \/>\n<meta property=\"og:url\" content=\"https:\/\/www.lelo.com\/blog\/lelo-qa-reaching-climax-lovemaking\/\" \/>\n<meta property=\"og:site_name\" content=\"Volont\u00e9\" \/>\n<meta property=\"article:publisher\" content=\"https:\/\/www.facebook.com\/LELO.Official\/\" \/>\n<meta property=\"article:published_time\" content=\"2013-03-04T09:07:52+00:00\" \/>\n<meta property=\"article:modified_time\" content=\"2026-03-05T03:15:39+00:00\" \/>\n<meta property=\"og:image\" content=\"https:\/\/www.lelo.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/07\/skin-orgasms_850x425.jpg\" \/>\n\t<meta property=\"og:image:width\" content=\"850\" \/>\n\t<meta property=\"og:image:height\" content=\"425\" \/>\n\t<meta property=\"og:image:type\" content=\"image\/jpeg\" \/>\n<meta name=\"author\" content=\"Donna Turner\" \/>\n<meta name=\"twitter:card\" content=\"summary_large_image\" \/>\n<meta name=\"twitter:creator\" content=\"@Lelo_Official\" \/>\n<meta name=\"twitter:site\" content=\"@Lelo_Official\" \/>\n<meta name=\"twitter:label1\" content=\"Written by\" \/>\n\t<meta name=\"twitter:data1\" content=\"Donna Turner\" \/>\n\t<meta name=\"twitter:label2\" content=\"Est. reading time\" \/>\n\t<meta name=\"twitter:data2\" content=\"2 minutes\" \/>\n<script type=\"application\/ld+json\" class=\"yoast-schema-graph\">{\"@context\":\"https:\/\/schema.org\",\"@graph\":[{\"@type\":\"WebPage\",\"@id\":\"https:\/\/www.lelo.com\/blog\/lelo-qa-reaching-climax-lovemaking\/\",\"url\":\"https:\/\/www.lelo.com\/blog\/lelo-qa-reaching-climax-lovemaking\/\",\"name\":\"LELO Answers Your Orgasm Questions\",\"isPartOf\":{\"@id\":\"https:\/\/www.lelo.com\/blog\/#website\"},\"primaryImageOfPage\":{\"@id\":\"https:\/\/www.lelo.com\/blog\/lelo-qa-reaching-climax-lovemaking\/#primaryimage\"},\"image\":{\"@id\":\"https:\/\/www.lelo.com\/blog\/lelo-qa-reaching-climax-lovemaking\/#primaryimage\"},\"thumbnailUrl\":\"https:\/\/www.lelo.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/07\/skin-orgasms_850x425.jpg\",\"datePublished\":\"2013-03-04T09:07:52+00:00\",\"dateModified\":\"2026-03-05T03:15:39+00:00\",\"author\":{\"@id\":\"https:\/\/www.lelo.com\/blog\/#\/schema\/person\/ee7d40fffc3a3ad51f9cb3b4fa664198\"},\"description\":\"In the first installment of LELO Q&A, we offer advice to a woman wanting to reach her \u2019orgasmic plateau\u2019 while making love.\",\"breadcrumb\":{\"@id\":\"https:\/\/www.lelo.com\/blog\/lelo-qa-reaching-climax-lovemaking\/#breadcrumb\"},\"inLanguage\":\"en-US\",\"potentialAction\":[{\"@type\":\"ReadAction\",\"target\":[\"https:\/\/www.lelo.com\/blog\/lelo-qa-reaching-climax-lovemaking\/\"]}]},{\"@type\":\"ImageObject\",\"inLanguage\":\"en-US\",\"@id\":\"https:\/\/www.lelo.com\/blog\/lelo-qa-reaching-climax-lovemaking\/#primaryimage\",\"url\":\"https:\/\/www.lelo.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/07\/skin-orgasms_850x425.jpg\",\"contentUrl\":\"https:\/\/www.lelo.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/07\/skin-orgasms_850x425.jpg\",\"width\":850,\"height\":425,\"caption\":\"skin orgasms\"},{\"@type\":\"BreadcrumbList\",\"@id\":\"https:\/\/www.lelo.com\/blog\/lelo-qa-reaching-climax-lovemaking\/#breadcrumb\",\"itemListElement\":[{\"@type\":\"ListItem\",\"position\":1,\"name\":\"Volonte\",\"item\":\"https:\/\/www.lelo.com\/blog\/\"},{\"@type\":\"ListItem\",\"position\":2,\"name\":\"Sex Tips & Advice\",\"item\":\"https:\/\/www.lelo.com\/blog\/sex-tips-advice\/\"},{\"@type\":\"ListItem\",\"position\":3,\"name\":\"Orgasm\",\"item\":\"https:\/\/www.lelo.com\/blog\/sex-tips-advice\/orgasm\/\"},{\"@type\":\"ListItem\",\"position\":4,\"name\":\"Reader Question: Reaching Climax During Sex\"}]},{\"@type\":\"WebSite\",\"@id\":\"https:\/\/www.lelo.com\/blog\/#website\",\"url\":\"https:\/\/www.lelo.com\/blog\/\",\"name\":\"Volont\u00e9\",\"description\":\"A Pleasure Project by LELO\",\"potentialAction\":[{\"@type\":\"SearchAction\",\"target\":{\"@type\":\"EntryPoint\",\"urlTemplate\":\"https:\/\/www.lelo.com\/blog\/?s={search_term_string}\"},\"query-input\":{\"@type\":\"PropertyValueSpecification\",\"valueRequired\":true,\"valueName\":\"search_term_string\"}}],\"inLanguage\":\"en-US\"},{\"@type\":\"Person\",\"@id\":\"https:\/\/www.lelo.com\/blog\/#\/schema\/person\/ee7d40fffc3a3ad51f9cb3b4fa664198\",\"name\":\"Donna Turner\",\"image\":{\"@type\":\"ImageObject\",\"inLanguage\":\"en-US\",\"@id\":\"https:\/\/www.lelo.com\/blog\/#\/schema\/person\/image\/88c9866b5ee0a4d7a7adc0ab62350db0\",\"url\":\"https:\/\/secure.gravatar.com\/avatar\/2cb3d2f89a8d391b23672976d4d6586a?s=96&d=mm&r=pg\",\"contentUrl\":\"https:\/\/secure.gravatar.com\/avatar\/2cb3d2f89a8d391b23672976d4d6586a?s=96&d=mm&r=pg\",\"caption\":\"Donna Turner\"},\"description\":\"Donna has been a Volont\u00e9 contributor for over a decade, researching trending sexual health topics against relevant scientific findings. She lives in San Francisco with her husband and two sons, and regularly speaks in college health classes.\",\"sameAs\":[\"https:\/\/www.lelo.com\/blog\/author\/donnaturner\/\"],\"url\":\"https:\/\/www.lelo.com\/blog\/author\/donnaturner\/\"}]}<\/script>\n<!-- \/ Yoast SEO plugin. -->","yoast_head_json":{"title":"LELO Answers Your Orgasm Questions","description":"In the first installment of LELO Q&A, we offer advice to a woman wanting to reach her \u2019orgasmic plateau\u2019 while making love.","robots":{"index":"index","follow":"follow","max-snippet":"max-snippet:-1","max-image-preview":"max-image-preview:large","max-video-preview":"max-video-preview:-1"},"canonical":"https:\/\/www.lelo.com\/blog\/lelo-qa-reaching-climax-lovemaking\/","og_locale":"en_US","og_type":"article","og_title":"LELO Answers Your Orgasm Questions","og_description":"In the first installment of LELO Q&A, we offer advice to a woman wanting to reach her \u2019orgasmic plateau\u2019 while making love.","og_url":"https:\/\/www.lelo.com\/blog\/lelo-qa-reaching-climax-lovemaking\/","og_site_name":"Volont\u00e9","article_publisher":"https:\/\/www.facebook.com\/LELO.Official\/","article_published_time":"2013-03-04T09:07:52+00:00","article_modified_time":"2026-03-05T03:15:39+00:00","og_image":[{"width":850,"height":425,"url":"https:\/\/www.lelo.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/07\/skin-orgasms_850x425.jpg","type":"image\/jpeg"}],"author":"Donna Turner","twitter_card":"summary_large_image","twitter_creator":"@Lelo_Official","twitter_site":"@Lelo_Official","twitter_misc":{"Written by":"Donna Turner","Est. reading time":"2 minutes"},"schema":{"@context":"https:\/\/schema.org","@graph":[{"@type":"WebPage","@id":"https:\/\/www.lelo.com\/blog\/lelo-qa-reaching-climax-lovemaking\/","url":"https:\/\/www.lelo.com\/blog\/lelo-qa-reaching-climax-lovemaking\/","name":"LELO Answers Your Orgasm Questions","isPartOf":{"@id":"https:\/\/www.lelo.com\/blog\/#website"},"primaryImageOfPage":{"@id":"https:\/\/www.lelo.com\/blog\/lelo-qa-reaching-climax-lovemaking\/#primaryimage"},"image":{"@id":"https:\/\/www.lelo.com\/blog\/lelo-qa-reaching-climax-lovemaking\/#primaryimage"},"thumbnailUrl":"https:\/\/www.lelo.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/07\/skin-orgasms_850x425.jpg","datePublished":"2013-03-04T09:07:52+00:00","dateModified":"2026-03-05T03:15:39+00:00","author":{"@id":"https:\/\/www.lelo.com\/blog\/#\/schema\/person\/ee7d40fffc3a3ad51f9cb3b4fa664198"},"description":"In the first installment of LELO Q&A, we offer advice to a woman wanting to reach her \u2019orgasmic plateau\u2019 while making love.","breadcrumb":{"@id":"https:\/\/www.lelo.com\/blog\/lelo-qa-reaching-climax-lovemaking\/#breadcrumb"},"inLanguage":"en-US","potentialAction":[{"@type":"ReadAction","target":["https:\/\/www.lelo.com\/blog\/lelo-qa-reaching-climax-lovemaking\/"]}]},{"@type":"ImageObject","inLanguage":"en-US","@id":"https:\/\/www.lelo.com\/blog\/lelo-qa-reaching-climax-lovemaking\/#primaryimage","url":"https:\/\/www.lelo.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/07\/skin-orgasms_850x425.jpg","contentUrl":"https:\/\/www.lelo.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/07\/skin-orgasms_850x425.jpg","width":850,"height":425,"caption":"skin orgasms"},{"@type":"BreadcrumbList","@id":"https:\/\/www.lelo.com\/blog\/lelo-qa-reaching-climax-lovemaking\/#breadcrumb","itemListElement":[{"@type":"ListItem","position":1,"name":"Volonte","item":"https:\/\/www.lelo.com\/blog\/"},{"@type":"ListItem","position":2,"name":"Sex Tips & Advice","item":"https:\/\/www.lelo.com\/blog\/sex-tips-advice\/"},{"@type":"ListItem","position":3,"name":"Orgasm","item":"https:\/\/www.lelo.com\/blog\/sex-tips-advice\/orgasm\/"},{"@type":"ListItem","position":4,"name":"Reader Question: Reaching Climax During Sex"}]},{"@type":"WebSite","@id":"https:\/\/www.lelo.com\/blog\/#website","url":"https:\/\/www.lelo.com\/blog\/","name":"Volont\u00e9","description":"A Pleasure Project by LELO","potentialAction":[{"@type":"SearchAction","target":{"@type":"EntryPoint","urlTemplate":"https:\/\/www.lelo.com\/blog\/?s={search_term_string}"},"query-input":{"@type":"PropertyValueSpecification","valueRequired":true,"valueName":"search_term_string"}}],"inLanguage":"en-US"},{"@type":"Person","@id":"https:\/\/www.lelo.com\/blog\/#\/schema\/person\/ee7d40fffc3a3ad51f9cb3b4fa664198","name":"Donna Turner","image":{"@type":"ImageObject","inLanguage":"en-US","@id":"https:\/\/www.lelo.com\/blog\/#\/schema\/person\/image\/88c9866b5ee0a4d7a7adc0ab62350db0","url":"https:\/\/secure.gravatar.com\/avatar\/2cb3d2f89a8d391b23672976d4d6586a?s=96&d=mm&r=pg","contentUrl":"https:\/\/secure.gravatar.com\/avatar\/2cb3d2f89a8d391b23672976d4d6586a?s=96&d=mm&r=pg","caption":"Donna Turner"},"description":"Donna has been a Volont\u00e9 contributor for over a decade, researching trending sexual health topics against relevant scientific findings. She lives in San Francisco with her husband and two sons, and regularly speaks in college health classes.","sameAs":["https:\/\/www.lelo.com\/blog\/author\/donnaturner\/"],"url":"https:\/\/www.lelo.com\/blog\/author\/donnaturner\/"}]}},"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.lelo.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/1877","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.lelo.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.lelo.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.lelo.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/13"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.lelo.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=1877"}],"version-history":[{"count":20,"href":"https:\/\/www.lelo.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/1877\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":47907,"href":"https:\/\/www.lelo.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/1877\/revisions\/47907"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.lelo.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/39476"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.lelo.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=1877"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.lelo.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=1877"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.lelo.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=1877"},{"taxonomy":"author","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.lelo.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/coauthors?post=1877"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}