{"id":19948,"date":"2018-03-14T08:50:53","date_gmt":"2018-03-14T08:50:53","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.lelo.com\/blog\/?p=19948"},"modified":"2024-07-17T06:07:13","modified_gmt":"2024-07-17T04:07:13","slug":"why-you-should-try-masturbating-with-your-partner","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.lelo.com\/blog\/why-you-should-try-masturbating-with-your-partner\/","title":{"rendered":"Why You Should Try Masturbating in Front of Your Partner"},"content":{"rendered":"

You should masturbate in front of your partner.<\/strong><\/p>\n

Yup, that\u2019s right. You should take that oh-so-important private time you normally spend with an erotic story<\/a>, a vibrator<\/a> and some tissues, and share it with you partner sometime.<\/p>\n

It\u2019s possible that you hadn\u2019t even finished reading that last sentence before you were taking off your pants and texting your partner to come over, but if you had some reservations \u2015 it\u2019s ok, we get it. Before starting a whole new time of evening-time argument about whose turn it is to pick something to watch, let\u2019s look at the how, when and why of mutual masturbation<\/a>.<\/p>\n

What Is Mutual Masturbation?<\/h2>\n

Mutual masturbation is when you masturbate in front of your partner, typically at the same time your partner is also masturbating \u2015 though there\u2019s a kinky option for just one person to masturbate that we\u2019ll explain further below.<\/p>\n

Some people can feel a little shy about trying this, since most of us have been masturbating alone for our entire lives. We\u2019ve been socialized to believe that masturbation is bad for us or \u2018naughty,\u2019 so the idea of doing it openly in front of another person can seem even more transgressive. (But hey, doing what\u2019s taboo is half the fun sometimes).<\/p>\n

Why Masturbate in Front of Your Partner When You Can Have Sex?<\/h2>\n

We get this question a lot, and apparently \u2018It\u2019s fun and super hot!\u2019 doesn\u2019t cut it, so here are some other reasons why mutual masturbation is amazing.<\/p>\n

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  1. It adds something new to your sex fore-after-or-during play just the same as blow jobs<\/a> or fingering<\/a> do.<\/li>\n
  2. It lets you explore exhibitionism<\/a> and role play<\/a> if you treat it as \u2018putting on a show.\u2019 You may not think your partner wants to see you masturbate (there\u2019s a misconception among many guys, for example, that male masturbation<\/a> isn\u2019t hot) but if your partner is into you, they are probably into you in an aroused state and all the physical signs of it, from you erection<\/a> to your hardening nipples to the clenches of your abdomen and biting of your lip.<\/li>\n
  3. It helps your partner understand how you like to be touched and how to make you orgasm (and vice versa).<\/li>\n
  4. It makes you both more comfortable with self-stimulation during other partnered acts\u2015and solo. If you ever plan on co-habitating, chances are there is going to be a time when one of you wants to masturbate and the other wants to go to sleep, so why not get comfortable with your partner masturbating next to you now?<\/li>\n
  5. Did we mention it\u2019s super hot? You can use handcuffs<\/a> to restrain one partner while the other pleasures themselves to their heart\u2019s content in full view, with the option to release their worked up partner\u2015or leave them tied up<\/a>.<\/li>\n<\/ol>\n

    How Should You Introduce Mutual Masturbation into the Bedroom?<\/h2>\n

    One of our favorite ways to let our partner know what new thing has been on our dirty mind is to send them an article \u2015 like this one \u2015 via text, with a simple \u2018You interested?\u2019 (with as many winky faces, eggplants or peaches as you deem necessary). That way they can peruse it on their own AND get all riled up in anticipation.<\/p>\n

    If you prefer things to happen more organically in the bedroom, there are a few different ways to suggest it to your partner.<\/p>\n

    You can start by using your hands on your partner, and then say \u2018Why don\u2019t you show me how you like it?\u2019 and then enjoy as they take over.<\/p>\n

    If you\u2019re really into dirty talk<\/a>, you can describe the last time you masturbated thinking of them\u2015while demonstrating.<\/p>\n

    You can both use remote-controlled sex toys<\/a> to hand off the control to your partner and make a game, like who can make who orgasm the fastest \u2015 or who can hold off on cumming the longest.<\/p>\n

    For the guys, trying using a masturbation sleeve on your partner, or better yet, each of you use one in order to pleasure yourselves with the same intense sensations. To bring up the subject, perhaps hand your male partner a spiffy new Sextech item<\/a> design for more innovative masturbation and ask them to show you how they use it.<\/span><\/p>\n

    Does That Mean the End of Me-Time?<\/h2>\n

    Now that we\u2019ve extolled the many virtues of mutual masturbation, does that mean there\u2019s absolutely no need for a solo sesh ever again?<\/p>\n

    Nope! Solo pleasure is an important practice for staying in tune with your sexuality, and it has a host of other benefits like relaxing and de-stressing you<\/a>.<\/p>\n

    And, as you will no doubt discover, while it\u2019s fun to turn on and tease your partner by masturbating sexily, all moans and groans and gasps<\/a>, this probably isn\u2019t how you masturbate when you\u2019re on your own. (But hey, no tea, no shade, no pink lemonade if you do masturbate like that).<\/p>\n

    Basically, everyone has days when they want to spend 3.2 minutes masturbating to their favorite porn and go to sleep, and that\u2019s fine; mutual masturbation is just another sexy dish to add to the menu when you both wanna get it together!<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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