{"id":20116,"date":"2018-05-09T09:49:42","date_gmt":"2018-05-09T09:49:42","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.lelo.com\/blog\/?p=20116"},"modified":"2024-07-17T06:26:35","modified_gmt":"2024-07-17T04:26:35","slug":"triple-your-pleasure-with-threesome-advice","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.lelo.com\/blog\/triple-your-pleasure-with-threesome-advice\/","title":{"rendered":"Three\u2019s Allowed: Triple Your Pleasure with Threesome Advice"},"content":{"rendered":"

They look good on film and are probably a go-to<\/span> masturbatory fantasy<\/span><\/a> for you too, but when you start thinking \u2013 really thinking \u2013 about how to make your threesome fantasy a reality, it starts to get a <\/span>liiiiiiittle<\/span><\/i> complicated.<\/span><\/p>\n

Who does what? What goes where? These are just two of the questions that fly into your head when you\u2019re planning to add a third (or a second and third) to your lovemaking, and they\u2019re just the beginning. We\u2019re going to run down every bit of advice we\u2019ve collectively learned after years in the game in order to send you off in to the world with clear eyes as you check this biggie off your sexual bucket list.<\/span><\/p>\n

Get Started<\/h2>\n

For everyone looking to add one or two more people to their wet & wild weekend plans, there are online resources you can use. Try downloading <\/span>Feeld<\/span><\/a>, the app specifically for finding a couple to swing with (or likewise a third for you and your mate to swing with). It\u2019s basically \u2018Tinder, but for threesomes\u2019 as well as <\/span>polyamory<\/span><\/a> and kink. Using it, you can find people who are looking to swing<\/a><\/span> and see if you match.<\/span><\/p>\n

Another, not so convenient option, requires going to a local sex shop and speaking to someone there about community events or classifieds that you might not otherwise have known about, or flyers for upcoming swingers\u2019 parties in your area.<\/span><\/p>\n

Set the Ground Rules<\/h2>\n

However before you even do any of this, you\u2019re going to have to discuss the minutiae. You and your partner will need to establish some ground rules for each other. What\u2019s allowed? What\u2019s off-limits? Do you take turns?<\/span><\/p>\n

You absolutely need to clarify with your partner what you\u2019re looking to get out of this experience. Then, you\u2019re definitely going to want to communicate all of this with your third. Don\u2019t expect to be able to nonverbally communicate while you\u2019re in the mix; spell it out to them beforehand.<\/span><\/p>\n

Oh, and First You Gotta Pass a Test\u2026<\/h2>\n

Practice some basic courtesy by getting an STD check in order to be able to tell the other parties your clean and healthy status well ahead of time.<\/span><\/p>\n

For Couples: Make a Safe Word and a Safe Space<\/h2>\n

Planning a threesome is an exercise in trust and understanding, and that extends to being in each other\u2019s corner no matter how the whole evening shakes out. Decide together on a safe word<\/a> or a phrase that one of you can use if either of you ever feels things aren\u2019t right, or if you need to wind down the encounter quickly. Likewise, you absolutely must reassure the third person that they can speak up in the event that they feel even the teensiest bit uncomfortable.<\/span><\/p>\n

For the Host: Provide the Party Favours<\/h2>\n

Keep<\/span> sex toys<\/span><\/a> on-hand, but also keep a<\/span>\u00a0bottle of sex toy cleaner<\/span><\/a> or cleansing wipes handy if you want to share the toys between partners. The same goes for condoms; you\u2019re going to want to keep a lot more <\/span>condoms<\/span><\/a> than usual in the bedside table; while sharing our partners in a threesome is fun, sharing bodily fluids and bacteria isn\u2019t – cover anything that has gone into someone with a <\/span>new<\/span> condom when its about to go into someone else, <\/span>no exceptions. <\/b>\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

Post-Coital Planning<\/h2>\n

So, you\u2019ve checked \u2018threesome\u2019 off of your sexual bucket list \u2013 so what now? Do the three of you cuddle, hang and watch a nature documentary, or peace out immediately? Before you even get started with small talk to get the night started, the three of you should have this planned well in advance.<\/span><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

They look good on film and are probably a go-to masturbatory fantasy for you too, but when you start thinking \u2013 really thinking \u2013 about how to make your threesome fantasy a reality, it starts to get a liiiiiiittle complicated. Who does what? What goes where? These are just two of the questions that fly into your head when you\u2019re planning to add a third (or a second and third) to your lovemaking, and they\u2019re just the beginning. 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