{"id":20483,"date":"2018-09-03T18:18:13","date_gmt":"2018-09-03T18:18:13","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.lelo.com\/blog\/?p=20483"},"modified":"2024-07-22T01:58:15","modified_gmt":"2024-07-21T23:58:15","slug":"dealing-with-a-partners-impotency","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.lelo.com\/blog\/dealing-with-a-partners-impotency\/","title":{"rendered":"Do\u2019s and Don\u2019ts for Dealing With a Partner’s Impotency"},"content":{"rendered":"

Maybe you\u2019ve been here before. And if you haven\u2019t, then one day you eventually will: you\u2019re fooling around with a guy and you know you\u2019re looking great, smelling great and feeling great. The room temp is just right, perfect lighting. In short \u2013 it\u2019s about to go down. There\u2019s just one problem: it\u2019s not happening for him, erectionally speaking, and now you\u2019re both feeling a bit deflated.<\/span><\/p>\n

When it comes to responding or reacting to a partner\u2019s impotence, there are some simple do\u2019s, don\u2019ts and things to keep in mind when you\u2019re faced with this issue.<\/strong><\/p>\n

DON’T:<\/strong> Freak Out \u2013 It\u2019s Not About You<\/span><\/h2>\n

He knows what\u2019s going on down there, and truth be told, it\u2019s only exacerbating his issue. Chances are, he\u2019s been hiding the fact that it\u2019s just not happening for him because he\u2019s so very in his head about it. There are so many factors that can contribute to the loss of an erection<\/a>, one of the main ones being that we put so much damn importance on them working all the time, ready to go.<\/span><\/p>\n

Going flaccid right as the main event approaches is all-too-common, and to put it on yourself isn\u2019t just unfair to you, it\u2019s inaccurate as well. However rather than asking if you\u2019re the problem (you\u2019re not), just remember that whatever negativity is roiling in your brain is much more multiplied in his right at that moment.<\/span><\/p>\n

DO:<\/strong> Chill Out and Change Tack<\/span><\/h2>\n

Because his head is full of blaring klaxons and flashing lights, you can help ease the situation simply by saying \u2018hey, let\u2019s slow down for a minute\u2019 or \u2018how about you touch me for a bit?\u2019. That second suggestion is key, because remember that a successful sexual encounter isn\u2019t just about him getting off. A hard penis is definitely NOT the be-all and end-all of enjoyable sex, and he\u2019ll appreciate the change in focus to your immediate needs.<\/span><\/p>\n

DON’T:<\/strong> Double Down on the D<\/span><\/h2>\n

If you\u2019re seeing that he\u2019s not standing at attention, don\u2019t resort to <\/span>oral sex<\/span> <\/a>or your<\/span> tried-and-true handjob techniques<\/span><\/a> hoping to get him hard. Likely this will just add to the pressure he\u2019s already feeling.<\/span><\/p>\n

DO:<\/strong> Expand Your Idea of Sex<\/span><\/h2>\n

In hetero terms, sex doesn\u2019t just have to be p-in-v penetrative intercourse, just like his orgasm isn\u2019t what dictates a full and complete intimate interaction. As long as you both know how to take pleasure in a variety of ways (and there is a <\/span>wide variety<\/span> of <\/span>alternate ways to give pleasure<\/a>), then you truly never have to walk away from intimacy unsatisfied. In addition, science and technology are finally bridging the gap to pleasure, like in the F1S luxury male sextech console<\/a>. It’s 10 sensors can help track performance and stamina to help us better understand what’s going on downstairs.<\/span><\/p>\n

DON’T:<\/strong> Let Him Use It as an Excuse<\/span><\/h2>\n

It\u2019s true that some guys will blame their sudden impotence on a condom, which to be fair, can lessen his sensitivity a teensy bit. In which case, I suggest to all guys to <\/span>carry their favorite condom brand<\/span> in order to be using the right one for them every time. In the case that he is using this temporary setback as an excuse to not wear a condom<\/a> altogether, forget that guy; he can take his issues elsewhere.<\/span><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

Maybe you\u2019ve been here before. And if you haven\u2019t, then one day you eventually will: you\u2019re fooling around with a guy and you know you\u2019re looking great, smelling great and feeling great. The room temp is just right, perfect lighting. In short \u2013 it\u2019s about to go down. There\u2019s just one problem: it\u2019s not happening for him, erectionally speaking, and now you\u2019re both feeling a bit deflated. 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