{"id":2065,"date":"2020-01-20T10:19:19","date_gmt":"2020-01-20T09:19:19","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.lelo.com\/blog\/?p=2065"},"modified":"2024-09-26T07:21:04","modified_gmt":"2024-09-26T05:21:04","slug":"give-good-sext-best-sexting-examples","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.lelo.com\/blog\/give-good-sext-best-sexting-examples\/","title":{"rendered":"Sexting Do’s & Don’ts (With Examples)"},"content":{"rendered":"

Isn\u2019t technology great? Nowadays, not only can we be completely nude with people thousands of miles away (we\u2019re talking about <\/span>skype sex<\/span><\/a>, of course), we can also send steamy messages to each other <\/span>any time we want<\/span><\/i>.<\/span><\/p>\n

According to our data, as many as <\/span>71% of women have taken part in the joys of sexting<\/span><\/a> \u2013 or more precisely, sending a racy text message from their mobile phones. Just as many people however have yet to try it out for themselves, and this is where we come in, with some wise advice on how your thumbs can do <\/span>the (dirty) talking<\/span><\/a>.<\/span><\/p>\n

However, as this tantalizing technological technique is still in its historical infancy, its official rulebook yet to be written \u2013 we can help. We\u2019re here to provide you with the most important Do\u2019s and Don\u2019ts of sexting.<\/span><\/p>\n

Sexting Dos<\/h2>\n

Do use it as foreplay.<\/h3>\n

Think of <\/span>sexting as your foreplay to foreplay<\/span><\/a> and build as much anticipation and sexual tension as possible. Be sexy, yet encouraging. The pre-date sext ensures your partner has you on his mind all day leading up to your date. And upon meeting, the more nonchalant you act toward your seductive sexts, the more your partner will get worked up.<\/span><\/p>\n

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Do paint a picture using all your senses.<\/h3>\n

Remember, stimulation of the mind isn\u2019t just about the visuals. Just like your favorite TV show, book, or porno for that matter, it\u2019s important to utilize the five senses: touch, sight, sound, smell and taste. These are the elements that make sex arousing in real life, so why not depict them in sexting? Start with thinking about what you like, and build off those small but important details.<\/span><\/p>\n

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Do use it to express your fantasies.<\/h3>\n

We often overlook <\/span>the importance of fantasy in a relationship<\/span><\/a>. No matter how \u201cmild\u201d or \u201cwild\u201d your kinks are, acting out your fantasies through roleplay can give you a chance to explore them in a safe space without the judgement of your partner. This seduction, for men and women alike, will elevate the tension. And the good news is, if it just doesn\u2019t work out, laughter actually plays a role in stimulation too. It\u2019s a win-win.\u00a0 After all, the brain is the biggest sex organ.<\/span><\/p>\n

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Do be witty.<\/h3>\n

While brainstorming a saucy sext, remember that nothing is as equal parts sexy and playful as wit. Challenge yourself to think of something more enticing to send than the standard \u2018<\/span>I can\u2019t wait to see you tonight, babe\u2019<\/span><\/i> and discover the benefit some thumb-tapped typing can bring as you patiently wait to get your hands on your partner. Our definition of love is making someone laugh as much as you can make them come.<\/span><\/p>\n

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Do leave something to the imagination.<\/h3>\n

Part of the reason why sexting or exchanging pics is cool is because of the teasing aspect. It\u2019s a buildup, just like a climax, so don\u2019t give away all your cookies at once. Most people admit that they like when a partner leaves something to their imagination, so that they can unwrap the entire present in person. It gives them something to look forward to.<\/span><\/p>\n

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As sexting becomes more of a regular occurance, it comes to no surprise that it might eventually lead to something more serious, like swapping some sexy pics. While this next step can really turn up the heat, make sure you are only doing this with someone you trust, or at least aren\u2019t showing your face in pictures (rookie mistake!). <\/span>Revenge porn<\/span><\/a> is real, potentially illegal, and definitely not cool. But if you want to send a sexy nude to your partner, we support you feeling your sexiest self.<\/span><\/p>\n

Sexting Don’ts<\/h2>\n

Don\u2019t text twice in a row.<\/h3>\n

Three hours and no response? Maybe it didn\u2019t go through. Yeah, that\u2019s it. Must be a glitch \u2013 I\u2019d better resend.<\/span><\/i> When thoughts like these emerge, keep in mind you sent a text message, not a carrier pigeon. He got or will get your text, and there\u2019s no way to know whether he\u2019s rejoicing in silence, fast asleep, or taking a cell phone sabbatical. Either way, that one extra text isn\u2019t going to achieve anything but making you seem needy. It kinda just messes up that sexy flow.<\/span><\/p>\n

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Don\u2019t text back right away.<\/h3>\n

Unlike the first tip, this one is to be used at your discretion. When getting sexted, the goal is to wait as long as realistically possible to respond while not coming off as a flake or missing your window of opportunity. It\u2019s good to allow for enough time for him to receive at least one other text from someone that is not you. Your silent absence builds sexual tension and makes him realize just how bad he wishes that last incoming text was from you. It also allows you time to think of something creative to say.<\/span><\/p>\n

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Don\u2019t overstress the \u201cyes\u201d.<\/h3>\n

When he asks you to meet him somewhere later, don\u2019t be the putty in his hands and reply with an immediate \u2018yes.\u2019 Embrace the power of the \u2018maybe.\u2019 While your actual answer might actually be <\/span>What should I tell the cab driver,<\/span><\/i> a maybe says, <\/span>I have better things to do, but you\u2019re not so bad, so I\u2019ll consider it.<\/span><\/i> It\u2019s not uncommon for guys to hedge their bets with women, especially on the weekends. A \u2018maybe\u2019 will keep you on his mind and put him well on his way to breaking rule number one.<\/span><\/p>\n

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Don\u2019t \u201cother girl\u201d him.<\/h3>\n

Don\u2019t inquire about other women\u2014even if you think you\u2019re doing it as a joke (which of course, you\u2019re not). \u201cOther girling\u201d him (e.g. \u2014 texting: <\/span>I\u2019m sure you\u2019re out having fun with all the other girls<\/span><\/i>) is insecurity masked as playfulness in an attempt to gauge his player status. Your inquisition isn\u2019t going to merit a truthful answer from him anyway, so forego the prying.<\/span><\/p>\n

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Don\u2019t be overly-obvious.<\/h3>\n

Ambiguity is the name of the game. For instance, you don\u2019t want to look too easy inviting him over after it\u2019s obvious you both have been out. Marketers: put that marketing degree and psychology minor to good use and choose your words creatively. Compare <\/span>I think I\u2019m having some people over for afterhours if you\u2019d like to join us<\/span><\/i> to <\/span>Wanna come over?<\/span><\/i> Same meaning, different marketing strategy.<\/span><\/p>\n

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While technology might be rapidly developing, our human psychology is still more or less stuck in the Stone Age of predictability \u2013 keep in mind that human beings are programmed to desire that which cannot be easily attained, so there\u2019s some evolutionary wisdom behind playing hard to get.<\/span><\/p>\n

And while your cell phone probably ranks number one as the electronic device you could never live without, our <\/span>favorite couples\u2019 toys<\/span><\/a> are sure to enhance the tension and make you reconsider that answer.<\/span><\/p>\n

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