{"id":27276,"date":"2019-12-24T13:16:45","date_gmt":"2019-12-24T12:16:45","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.lelo.com\/blog\/?p=27276"},"modified":"2024-09-25T22:54:29","modified_gmt":"2024-09-25T20:54:29","slug":"lesbian-scissoring-guide","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.lelo.com\/blog\/lesbian-scissoring-guide\/","title":{"rendered":"How To Lesbian Scissor (& Other Sex Tips)"},"content":{"rendered":"

IIf you\u2019re a woman who wants to learn more about the art of scissoring and other intriguing sexual acts and secrets, or if you\u2019re a man who\u2019s intently interested in the topic, you can consider this your official guide to lesbian sexuality.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

What Is Scissoring?<\/span><\/h2>\n

Scissoring, often referred to as \u2018tribbing\u2019 is genital-to-genital contact. It\u2019s been given the name \u2018scissoring\u2019 as it resembles a pair of scissors in action.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

But are you ready to have your mind blown?<\/span><\/p>\n

Scissoring and Tribbing Are Not the Same Thing<\/span><\/h2>\n

While many believe that the two are interchangeable, they\u2019re actually two different sexual acts.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

Scissoring refers to a specific sexual act whereby two women rub their vulvas together while in the position that mimics a pair of scissors.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

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Tribbing, on the other hand, is when one woman rubs her vulva on <\/span>any<\/span><\/i> part of their partner\u2019s body (the leg, arm, buttocks, belly etc.). Both are done in an attempt to achieve sexual pleasure.<\/span><\/p>\n

Essentially, scissoring is a<\/span> type<\/span><\/i> of tribbing. Not that difficult to understand, right?<\/span><\/p>\n

Do Women Enjoy These Sexual Acts?<\/span><\/h2>\n

My next question then is, do women actually engage in these sexual acts? I mean, we\u2019ve seen it being done in pornos a hell of a lot. And let\u2019s not forget the film, <\/span>Blue is the Warmest Colour<\/span><\/i> (a really great French film, highly recommended) where two women engage in it for six whole minutes! (Side note: the two women in the film were actually wearing fake pussies! Sorry to kill your dream.)<\/span><\/p>\n

But is this sex act a reality for <\/span>lesbian women<\/span>? Indeed it is\u2026for some. Some women enjoy it and practice it, while others aren\u2019t too fond of it (just like any other sexual act or position). Scissoring, or a form of tribbing, isn\u2019t the equivalent of missionary sex for heterosexuals.<\/span><\/p>\n

For some, it\u2019s a thrilling and erotic experience, but for others – it\u2019s merely tiresome and difficult. From the awkward postures of both women, to staying in sync and keeping it up until climax, it can be hard work. Additionally, scissoring for plus-sized women, and those who aren\u2019t very flexible, can be difficult.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

Scissoring however, is on the rise, as <\/span>sexologist Mal Harrison<\/span> says:<\/span><\/p>\n

\u201cFifteen years ago, scissoring just wasn\u2019t something commonly discussed in lesbian circles, nor amongst my lesbian and <\/span><\/i>bisexual clients<\/span><\/i><\/a>.\u201d<\/span><\/i><\/p>\n

She goes on to say:<\/span><\/p>\n

\u201cNow, I frequently hear it mentioned as part of the repertoire, simply because people are getting more of their ideas and sex ed from porn.\u201d <\/span><\/i>Makes sense.<\/span><\/p>\n

How to Practice Scissoring<\/span><\/h2>\n

If you\u2019re hoping to try scissoring, or you\u2019re simply intrigued\u2026 here are two different ways you can enjoy it:<\/span><\/p>\n

Scissoring Position One: <\/b>Both women should be on their back and have their legs spread open in such a position that it allows direct contact and the ability to straddle each other\u2019s vulva (i.e. one woman\u2019s thigh is placed underneath the other\u2019s). Each woman will then use their own or their partner\u2019s leg as a grip, to help them create movement.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

For those whose vulva is higher up, a sitting position has proven to be more pleasurable, while those with a lower vulva find it easier to enjoy it lying down opposite their partner.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

Scissoring Position Two:<\/b> Alternatively, you could try scissoring with one partner on their side, where their one thigh is held up and the other is straddled across the resting leg.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

Basically, it\u2019s about interlacing your legs so that you can gain direct access and stimulation to each other\u2019s vulvas.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

Scissoring in Porn: The Male Gaze<\/span><\/h2>\n

For many, including <\/span>adult porn star, Rina Ellis<\/span><\/a>, scissoring or tribbing is an act that\u2019s been sexualized by the male gaze, especially in porn. In fact, many women agree that this kind of sexual act is impractical, and is more of a male <\/span>fantasy<\/span>.<\/span><\/p>\n

It\u2019s also true that in 2008, around only <\/span>5% of porn directors were women<\/span><\/a> – a number that is rising ever so slowly, making the industry largely male-focused. This has given <\/span>bi-curious<\/span> women the idea that this is what <\/span>lesbian sex<\/span><\/a> is all about. There is a lack of representation, which ultimately stunts the development of lesbian sexuality.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

Having said that, I pose the question: is lesbian porn actually<\/span> made<\/span><\/i> for lesbians? It appears not. Instead, it is a heteronormative way in which to portray women experimenting with one another, often using phallic-like toys, like a dildo, or bringing a man into the scene.<\/span><\/p>\n

Scissoring and Intimacy<\/span><\/h2>\n

Another way in which to look at scissoring, is from the perspective of <\/span>Reba Harrison, a bisexual woman, and writer<\/span>. She believes that the act of scissoring inhibits the ability to be intimate with a partner.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

This is because oftentimes, two women engaging in this sexual act face away from each other. Not only that, but it makes the ability to <\/span>kiss one another<\/span> virtually impossible, and makes it hard to stimulate other erogenous zones.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

But then again, everyone is different! And if you are interested in trying or experimenting more with tribbing, here are three different positions to get you started:<\/span><\/p>\n

Different Tribbing Positions<\/span><\/h2>\n

As distinguished, tribbing isn\u2019t actually scissoring. Rather, it\u2019s an umbrella term. Which is why there are various ways in which two women can enjoy tribbing:<\/span><\/p>\n

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  1. Missionary Style Tribbing: <\/b>It is\u2026 what it sounds like. Two women who are on top of each other, face to face, and persist to dry hump each other. This is a more intimate position, as it allows eye contact and kissing.<\/span><\/li>\n
  2. Woman-On-Top Tribbing:<\/b> Similar to <\/span>missionary,<\/span><\/a> but this is when one woman rides the other by rubbing her vulva on her partner\u2019s vulva.<\/span><\/li>\n
  3. Hump Tribbing: <\/b>One of the easier and more common types of tribbing, this is when one woman straddles their partner\u2019s leg, giving her more contact, thus more pleasure. It\u2019s also a hands-free position, allowing a pair wandering hands.<\/span><\/li>\n<\/ol>\n

    Lesbian Sex vs. Straight Sex: Women Achieving Orgasm<\/span><\/h2>\n

    Who\u2019s having the best sex?<\/span> In a study conducted in 2014 by the <\/span>Journal of Sexual Medicine<\/span><\/a>, it was found that lesbians <\/span>experience orgasm<\/span> 75% of the time during sex, compared to 61% for heterosexual women.<\/span><\/p>\n

    In a different study, conducted in 2017 by the <\/span>Kinsey Institute<\/span><\/a>, 53,000 Americans revealed their orgasm statistics, which showed that 86% of lesbian women experience \u2018the big O\u2019 during sex, and 65% of heterosexual women enjoy an orgasm during sex.<\/span><\/p>\n

    How, what, where, who, and why? It\u2019s simple. Women know their bodies. They know where <\/span>the clitoris<\/span><\/a> is, how to stimulate it in such a way that orgasm is achieved, and they can usually do it without (any) direction from their partner.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

    Not only that, but the rate at which women <\/span>orgasm<\/span> via clitoral stimulation is extremely high as opposed to penetrative sex. Women are also more predisposed to communication and emotional connections as opposed to men.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

    Some men also tend to have a warped sense of what a woman wants, how she behaves in the bedroom, and how to satisfy a woman, as shown in male-centred porn films. How to solve this problem? Communication<\/a>, of course.<\/span><\/p>\n

    So whether you\u2019re heterosexual, bisexual, or pitch for the same team, it appears that <\/span>magic happens in the bedroom<\/span> when <\/span>communication<\/span>, listening, and being realistic is implemented.<\/span><\/p>\n

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