{"id":27813,"date":"2020-01-11T13:44:11","date_gmt":"2020-01-11T12:44:11","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.lelo.com\/blog\/?p=27813"},"modified":"2026-02-19T06:13:48","modified_gmt":"2026-02-19T05:13:48","slug":"difference-between-male-female-orgasms","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.lelo.com\/blog\/difference-between-male-female-orgasms\/","title":{"rendered":"What\u2019s The Difference Between Male & Female Orgasms?"},"content":{"rendered":"

\"lelo<\/a><\/p>\n

It never fails to amaze me just how little we <\/span>know about sex<\/span><\/a>. I\u2019ve written frequently about my frustration at the lack of empirical <\/span>knowledge about the clitoris<\/span><\/a> compared to the understanding of pretty much all of our other anatomy. Another thing we know little about is the difference, or similarity, between men and women\u2019s orgasms.<\/span><\/p>\n

When we look at the neurology of an <\/span>orgasm<\/span><\/a>, male and female climaxes are almost indistinguishable, as does the description men and women give for their experience. \u201cIt starts with a feeling of warmth deep inside me, and my muscles begin to tense up\u2026\u201d and so on.<\/span><\/p>\n

But there is one big difference \u2013 frequency:<\/span><\/p>\n

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  1. Heterosexual men orgasm most times they have sex,<\/span><\/li>\n
  2. followed by gay men,<\/span><\/li>\n
  3. followed by bi men,<\/span><\/li>\n
  4. followed by lesbian women,<\/span><\/li>\n
  5. followed by heterosexual women, who orgasm somewhere between 45-65%.<\/span><\/li>\n<\/ol>\n

    This difference between the rates of orgasm between heterosexual women and men has been called \u201cthe orgasm gap.\u201d The reasons for this gap are cultural, not biological.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

    Heterosexual sex tends to revolve around the activity, penetrative sex, that encourages male orgasm. Most women need external clitoral stimulation to orgasm. When women are asked \u201cWhat\u2019s your most reliable route to orgasm, only 4% say penetration alone.<\/span><\/p>\n

    A reason we know that the orgasm gap is cultural, not biological, is that women are more likely to orgasm with other women than with men, and they are equally likely to orgasm during self-pleasure. Men and women both reach orgasm through masturbation at equal ease, and report equal satisfaction when they climax alone too.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

    In one study of bisexual women who hooked up with women and with men (so same woman, same body) they were MUCH more likely to orgasm when their hookup partner was a woman than a man. But there\u2019s plenty of ways to close the orgasm gap and empower women to orgasm.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

    Research shows that when women use vibrators they have easier and more frequent orgasms, and that a man\u2019s endorsement of his partner\u2019s vibrator is related to her satisfaction. For instance, <\/span>SONA 2 <\/span><\/a>clitoral massager uses sonic waves to stimulate the internal parts of the clitoris as well as the external.<\/span><\/p>\n

    I wish you ALL powerful, toe-curling orgasms.<\/span><\/p>\n

    See also:<\/strong><\/p>\n