{"id":27991,"date":"2020-01-28T13:12:28","date_gmt":"2020-01-28T12:12:28","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.lelo.com\/blog\/?p=27991"},"modified":"2024-09-27T07:00:50","modified_gmt":"2024-09-27T05:00:50","slug":"strap-on-dildo-beginners-guide","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.lelo.com\/blog\/strap-on-dildo-beginners-guide\/","title":{"rendered":"A Strap-On Dildo Beginner\u2019s Guide"},"content":{"rendered":"<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">In the annals of sex toys, the humble strap-on can be considered a truly populist pleasure item: anyone can use one, and anyone can have one used on them, be they male, female or identifying as otherwise.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">However, for one reason or another, the strap-on isn\u2019t as prevalent as it could be. Like for instance; this author has never used one. Chances are that you, dear reader have not used one either. So to get down to the reasons why you should, and how to get started, I consulted some well-known online portals as well as asked some more adventurous colleagues around the office. So strap in, because here we go.<\/span><\/p>\n<h3>Why Strap-Ons Are a Turn-On<\/h3>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Just because you maybe don\u2019t use them in your lovemaking sessions doesn\u2019t mean that they\u2019re without their merits. When I asked people \u2018what makes a strap-on such an important part of your lovemaking?\u2019, they informed me that it adds a unique twist on <\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/www.lelo.com\/blog\/introducing-sex-toy-relationship\/\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">bringing a sex toy into couples\u2019 play<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> in the following ways:<\/span><\/p>\n<ul>\n<li><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> \u00a0 \u00a0 <\/span><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Wearing a strap on allows you to keep your hands free while pleasuring your partner with a vibrator or dildo.<\/span><\/li>\n<li><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> \u00a0 \u00a0 <\/span><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">With some maneuvering, a strap on can be used for double penetration \u2013 one appendage in a female partner\u2019s vagina, and the <\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/www.lelo.com\/blog\/anal-sex-101\/\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">other in her anus<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">.<\/span><\/li>\n<li><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> \u00a0 \u00a0 <\/span><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Wearing a strap-on can help some men during times when they experience the <\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/www.lelo.com\/blog\/erectile-dysfunction-what-to-do-and-not-do-if-youre-experiencing-it\/\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">effects of erectile dysfunction<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">.<\/span><\/li>\n<li><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> \u00a0 \u00a0 <\/span><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">They allow for partners to engage in some gender-bending or <\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/www.lelo.com\/blog\/explore-sexual-role-playing\/\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">sexual role-playing<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> as a female partner gets to engage in sex \u2018as a man\u2019.<\/span><\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">There are many more reasons why these couples swear by sex with a strap-on, and if your interest is piqued enough to try it out for yourself, then here\u2019s are some beginners tips for enjoying a strap-on with a partner.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">First, know your harness type: a strap-on setup is most commonly a wearable harness that you put around your hips so that the dildo is just about where a man\u2019s penis is on his body. The dildo is one of your choosing, which you will then put through a hole in the harness to use on your partner. These harnesses come in 3 styles that you can choose from:<\/span><\/p>\n<ul>\n<li><i><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">The jock strap:<\/span><\/i><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> just like a jock strap as you\u2019ve seen it in sports, this is one wide strap around your waist and two straps that each go over one of your butt cheeks.<\/span><\/li>\n<li><i><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Brief style:<\/span><\/i><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> variants of the strap-on harness, the brief style can look like your normal Y-front underwear or boxer briefs. This style allows some to wear the dildo all day long to feel like they have a penis or give the visual effect that they have one, or otherwise have sex wearing it.<\/span><\/li>\n<li><i><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Thong style: <\/span><\/i><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">we can only assume that this is R&amp;B artist Sisqo\u2019s favorite style, as it\u2019s designed just like thong underwear, however with an o-ring on the front for a dildo to be threaded through.<\/span><\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Now when it comes to buying just the right strap on, we\u2019ve really got to recommend doing so in person, in a brick-and-mortar sex shop. Find one in your area, and perhaps call ahead and see if they have strap-on harnesses in stock. It\u2019s important for you to see and feel the harness in person before making the investment in it, just so you\u2019re extra sure that it\u2019s the right one. Some things to consider when buying your strap on harness:<\/span><\/p>\n<p><i><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Is it adjustable, or one-size fits all?<\/span><\/i><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Ideally, you will have the option to adjust the fit so that it is snug to your body when wearing it. A leather or faux-leather harness will likely have buckles you can use to adjust the fit.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><i><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Can it accommodate multiple sizes of dildo, or just one?<\/span><\/i><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Some harnesses are designed for use with only one size, so be mindful of that.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">After you\u2019ve got it home and unpacked, wear it for a while in a non-sexual setting to get used to it. You might be experiencing having an all-new appendage, in which case you should become comfortable with it before using it on a partner. <\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/www.lelo.com\/blog\/mastering-male-masturbation\/\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Try to masturbate<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> it in order to get a feel for what it will feel like in action and when you feel comfortable enough, it\u2019s time to include it in your partnered play.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Start slow and wear your strap-on dildo throughout foreplay so that you\u2019re always aware of its presence. And when it comes time for penetration, never ever forget that lube \u2013 <\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/www.lelo.com\/blog\/all-lubed-up-ready-to-go-why-and-how-to-use-lube\/\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">lots and lots of lube<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> \u2013 is your best friend (and your partner\u2019s too, obviously).<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">For a beginner\u2019s position with a strap-on, doggy-style is a tried and true way to get started. This is especially true if thrusting is completely new to you, as women strap-on wearers will find the need to thrust altogether new and will take some getting used to. What is going to make this entire experience go smoothly is <\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/www.lelo.com\/blog\/5-tips-better-bedroom-communication\/\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">clear communication between partners<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">. And as long as you have that down pat, then you\u2019re already capable of anything as a couple!<\/span><\/p>\n<h4>Discover pleasure with:<\/h4>\n<p>[carousel_slide id=&#8217;43517&#8242;]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>In the annals of sex toys, the humble strap-on can be considered a truly populist pleasure item: anyone can use one, and anyone can have one used on them, be they male, female or identifying as otherwise. However, for one reason or another, the strap-on isn\u2019t as prevalent as it could be. Like for instance; this author has never used one. Chances are that you, dear reader have not used one either. 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