{"id":28024,"date":"2025-06-20T22:45:47","date_gmt":"2025-06-20T20:45:47","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.lelo.com\/blog\/?p=28024"},"modified":"2026-03-17T05:37:20","modified_gmt":"2026-03-17T04:37:20","slug":"pro-tips-for-sex-massage","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.lelo.com\/blog\/pro-tips-for-sex-massage\/","title":{"rendered":"Pro Tips For Sex Massage"},"content":{"rendered":"

Massage can take on a whole new twist when it\u2019s done with someone you\u2019re in a sexual relationship with. Massage helps us break down walls and boundaries, destress, and melt into bodily sensations. It allows us to practice the art of giving and receiving \u2013 and can be some of the hottest foreplay out there!<\/span><\/p>\n

Want to give (or receive) an XXX massage? We\u2019ve got all the tips you need!<\/span><\/p>\n

How to give a sex massage<\/span><\/h2>\n

You want your partner to be as relaxed as possible before you dive into the juicy parts, so make sure to set the vibe of your space. First, warm up your space. Cold and sexy don\u2019t mix for a number of reasons \u2013 it\u2019s unpleasant, it blocks the ability of the receiver to concentrate on the massage, and it diverts blood from the important areas of the body. <\/span><\/p>\n

Pro-tip: use an electric blanket\/pad to put underneath your partner, that will help keep them toasty as things heat up.<\/span><\/p>\n

Set the space<\/span><\/h3>\n

Candles are always a great touch when setting the vibe. Candles can take on a whole new twist by using our <\/span>Full Body Massage Candle<\/span><\/a> (and yes we mean FULL body) or our <\/span>Flickering Touch Massage Candle<\/span><\/a>.<\/span><\/p>\n

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When grabbing a massage oil, make sure it\u2019s downstairs-friendly, keeping in mind that the vulva can be extra sensitive to certain ingredients and scents. Make sure to use oils that are natural, skin-safe, and preferably scent-free.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

Virgin olive, coconut, almond, and cold-pressed sunflower or canola are appropriate massage oils. If you do want to use essential oils, be sure to do an allergy test on your partner\u2019s lower arm before the actual application, or just throw them in a diffuser to prevent any skin mishaps.<\/span><\/p>\n

Find your rhythm<\/span><\/h3>\n

Remember that a sex massage should feel different than getting a deep tissue or sports massage. The pressure you use should be enough to get them in the mood versus the type used to get knots out of one\u2019s back. Soft and sensual is sexy.<\/span><\/p>\n

Depending on what you\u2019re into, subtle is usually better than physically intense when it comes to sex massages. The real intensity comes from taking your time and being present, not digging into their muscles as deeply as humanly possible.\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

Remember to always treat your partner\u2019s body as a whole. Start on either side of the body and make sure to cover the body head to toe before moving your attention to their <\/span>erogenous zones<\/span><\/a>. You can lightly brush them there with a light touch but don\u2019t linger there (yet).\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

Rhythm is your friend. It allows you to smoothly change gears while switching back and forth between high-charged areas and lower-intensity ones. You can put on some chill, relaxing music. It will remind you to keep your moves at a nice consistent pace. Apart from rhythmic, you also want your strokes to be circular and continuous to feel as natural as possible.<\/span><\/p>\n

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Communication is key<\/span><\/h3>\n

As you explore your partner\u2019s body, make sure to observe subtle reactions to touch. Notice changes in their breathing patterns and things like trembling in the abdominal area, which is a good indicator that they\u2019re probably getting turned on.<\/span><\/p>\n

A twitching movement can suggest both pleasant and unpleasant sensations, so when you notice one, communicate it with your partner. You can do this in a way that feels hot, unlike a normal massage therapist would do. Questions like <\/span>\u201cDo you like that?\u201d<\/span><\/i> and <\/span>\u201cHow does that feel?\u201d<\/span><\/i> are simple and sexy.<\/span><\/p>\n

While someone may want to zone out during a normal massage, during a sex massage you\u2019ll want to keep communicating with your partner to make sure they\u2019re actually enjoying the experience and you\u2019re able to attune to their needs. Still, you\u2019ll want to communicate in a way that doesn\u2019t require answers more complex than <\/span>\u201cyes\/no\u201d<\/span><\/i> or <\/span>\u201cmmhmm\u201d<\/span><\/i>.<\/span><\/p>\n

It\u2019s hot to let them know that you like what you see and are getting turned on being able to see and touch their oiled-up body. You can do this by saying things like <\/span>\u201cYou\u2019re so hard\u201d<\/span><\/i>, \u201c<\/span>You\u2019re so wet<\/span><\/i>\u201d, or \u201c<\/span>Your nipples are so hot when they get hard like this<\/span><\/i>\u201d.<\/span><\/p>\n

Learn their body<\/span><\/h3>\n

You can even make a roadmap of pleasure on their body. Once you cover all of it, take a mental note of which areas triggered the most arousal (aside from the obvious). Slowly start giving those areas more and more attention. Then, as you progress, you can massage and caress those zones and go from there to their vulva\/penis and back.<\/span><\/p>\n

Learn how to use your hands well \u2013 using palms for broad pressure and fingers for a more focused and playful touch. You can also use the rest of your body! Get creative with our lower arms, legs, feet, breasts, ass, and, especially, your genitals. Lubed-up penises and vulvas can be so hot to use up against your partner\u2019s body in fun and novel ways (use your imagination).<\/span><\/p>\n

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Put it into practice<\/span><\/h3>\n

Here\u2019s what using continuous movement looks like in practice:<\/span><\/p>\n

If your partner has a vulva, have her lie on her back (you being next to and over her). Start by gliding your whole palm over your partner\u2019s pubic area with gentle pressure and, in the same movement, slip your fingers under them following and exploring the curve of their ass.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

Cover the area around the clitoris with your lower arm and grind it with constant pressure while bringing your hand back. In further continuation of the movement, you may slide your palm over their vulva and gently spread their labia with your index and ring fingers, possibly even slipping your middle finger inside if you\u2019re feeling frisky.<\/span><\/p>\n

If your partner has a penis, again have them lie on your back with you kneeling between his legs.\u00a0 Start by moving your palms up his thighs, applying strong pressure, and then, as you get closer to his penis, reduce the pressure to very mild and glide your fingers and palms over and around his balls, grabbing his penis with both hands.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

While you increase the pressure, you can do a couple of both-hand strokes and even bend over him, starting to use your mouth \u2013 all in a continuous flow of movement. Spicy!<\/span><\/p>\n

Enjoy!<\/span><\/h3>\n

There you have it! Your guide to a sexy XXX massage. Remember that there\u2019s no specific goal or thing you need to achieve (like an orgasm). You\u2019re simply there to connect with your partner, get to know each other\u2019s bodies better, and give and receive pleasure.<\/span><\/p>\n

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Enjoy 15% off LELO.com<\/a> with code VOLONTE15<\/span><\/strong><\/p>\n

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