{"id":28301,"date":"2020-02-11T13:00:41","date_gmt":"2020-02-11T12:00:41","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.lelo.com\/blog\/?p=28301"},"modified":"2024-09-29T22:38:34","modified_gmt":"2024-09-29T20:38:34","slug":"sexless-marriage","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.lelo.com\/blog\/sexless-marriage\/","title":{"rendered":"How “Normal” Is My Sexless Marriage?"},"content":{"rendered":"

Physical intimacy is one of the most fundamental pillars of a successful marriage. Not only is it essential for a healthy sex life, it also allow couples to connect with one other. However, despite the obvious benefits that are associated with regular physical intimacy and sex, the hectic demands of the 21<\/span>st<\/span> century lifestyle means that we cannot always prioritise one-on-one time with our partners.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

It is because of this unspoken understanding that nobody should blame or judge their partner, or themselves, for not being \u2018in the mood\u2019 come bedtime \u2013 but, there comes a time when this can become a serious problem in the relationship.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

How Many Marriages Are Sexless?<\/h2>\n

Sexless marriage is not uncommon<\/a> and affect one in every four married couples at some stage of their partnership. <\/span>According to the BMJ, 15-20% of all couples in the U.K. have sex less than three times a year.<\/strong> Sex therapists and clinicians often estimate this number could be much higher because of underreporting due to fear, shame and embarrassment.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

What Causes Sexless Marriages<\/h3>\n

It comes as no surprise that one of the most reported reasons for a lack of sex is due to time commitments and conflicting work schedules.<\/strong> <\/span><\/p>\n

According to Marianne Brandon, people do not speak about sexless marriage enough: \u201cPeople are so busy nowadays, not only is it hard to schedule time for you partner, it can be hard to be emotional available if you are juggling a career and other commitments.\u201d\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

Finding Community and Resources<\/h3>\n

While the 21<\/span>st<\/span> century has increased the demands on our work and home lives, technology is also offering answers in the realm of marriage and sex. <\/span><\/p>\n

For people suffering in a sexless marriage, the internet is providing a safe haven<\/strong> for them. Let the statistics speak for themselves \u2013 according to data scientist and bestselling author Seth Stephens-Davidowitz, it is the most Googled search term about marriage.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

However, people aren\u2019t just asking Google about their lack of physical intimacy, the online conversations go much deeper than that. <\/span><\/p>\n

It only takes a short glance at social media sites and blogging portals like Reddit and WordPress to see that sexless marriage is a hot topic in the online community. In fact, Reddit has over 100 subreddits relating to issues surrounding intimacy and physical touch in marriage<\/a>. As one user notes: \u201cI thought I was alone until I came here.\u201d\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

People have asked a range of questions, from those with low sex drives<\/a>, to those craving sex from their partners. In a society where sex is still very taboo topic, and people feel uncomfortable exposing the intimate details of their marriage, the internet provides a safe and accessible place for people to turn. <\/span><\/p>\n

For many people, having the ability to speak about marital issues in a safe environment, is one step closer to solving and rectifying those issues. <\/span><\/p>\n

According to a recent report about sex-technology and digital media<\/a> by the Kinsey Institute, people using sex-tech with partners reported feeling more connected<\/a>. As Marianne notes: \u201cConnecting with other people and admitting there is a problem in your sex life is one of the first steps towards changing the cycle<\/strong>.\u201d\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

Not only is the internet providing a community, it is also a great place to find inspiration and new ideas to spice up your marriage<\/a><\/strong>. In terms of providing ideas for the bedroom, the internet has a massive kink community<\/a>, which is enjoyed all over the globe by married couples.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

The internet has also enabled couples to access sex toys<\/a> in a private space<\/strong>. Gone are the days when sex toys were confined to dark, curtained shops on the high street. Experimenting with your partner has never been easier than it is now. <\/span><\/p>\n

If reading reviews isn\u2019t your thing \u2013 then go to YouTube or TikTok. There are fantastic channels dedicated to wellness and sexuality<\/strong>, which might spice up your sex life. Sex toy reviews<\/a> offer insights and ideas in a way that has never been possible before. It certainly takes away some of the nerves associated with introducing sex toys into a partnership<\/a>.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

There are professional and clinical frameworks<\/strong> that are supported with online communities that can help validate and authenticate the advice and information you read online. For example, many therapists and clinicians have their own blogs<\/a> and forums on their personal websites, where you can be assured that the advice is credible.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

While the 21<\/span>st<\/span> century has certainly increased the pressure and demands of work and home life, it has also offered some people a place to go when they had nowhere else to turn. <\/span><\/p>\n

Although sexless marriage is common, opening up about the stress<\/a> and pain it can cause can seem impossible.\u00a0 The best way to combat a sexless marriage is to start communicating<\/a> \u2013 and if that means reaching out online, it\u2019s certainly a good place to start.<\/span><\/p>\n

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