{"id":28857,"date":"2020-03-05T13:00:15","date_gmt":"2020-03-05T12:00:15","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.lelo.com\/blog\/?p=28857"},"modified":"2024-10-07T19:41:39","modified_gmt":"2024-10-07T17:41:39","slug":"first-time-sex","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.lelo.com\/blog\/first-time-sex\/","title":{"rendered":"What To Know Before You Have Sex for the First Time\u00a0"},"content":{"rendered":"<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Having sex for the first time can mean a lot of different things to different people, but when it comes to sex, there are still a few things to take into consideration going into it, from whether we\u2019re really ready to <a href=\"https:\/\/www.lelo.com\/blog\/contraception-day\/\">which type of protection<\/a> we want to use. <\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">And while having sex for the <\/span><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">first time<\/span><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> isn\u2019t always as romantic as we might have imagined it to be, the first-time sex tips below will help you and your partner get a little bit closer to it.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Whether it\u2019s your first time ever or your first time with a new partner, deciding to have sex can bring up a lot of different emotions and anxieties.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Common questions that we ask ourselved before having sex are:<\/span><\/p>\n<ul>\n<li style=\"font-weight: 400;\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Does the first time actually hurt?<\/span><\/li>\n<li style=\"font-weight: 400;\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Will my partner be able to tell it\u2019s my first time?<\/span><\/li>\n<li style=\"font-weight: 400;\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">How long into the relationship should I wait?<\/span><\/li>\n<li style=\"font-weight: 400;\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Should I use lube?<\/span><\/li>\n<li style=\"font-weight: 400;\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Which birth control methods are the best?<\/span><\/li>\n<li style=\"font-weight: 400;\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Will I get pregnant from the first time?<\/span><\/li>\n<li style=\"font-weight: 400;\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Is it like the movies?<\/span><\/li>\n<li style=\"font-weight: 400;\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Will I regret it?\u00a0<\/span><\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">The answer to most of these questions is a vague \u201cIt depends.\u201d Everyone\u2019s experience ends up being different, even between the two people who are sharing the same moment together, and so the answers end up being incredibly personal. I<\/span><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">t\u2019s really important to be able to talk to your partner about your questions and concerns beforehand in a non-intimate setting.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Once you and your partner have both decided you\u2019re ready, here are a few tips to keep in mind when getting ready to have sex for the first time:<\/span><\/p>\n<h3><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Bring some lube, just in case.\u00a0<\/span><\/h3>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">The thing about the first time is just that: it\u2019s <\/span><i><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">the first time.<\/span><\/i><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> Neither of you have any idea how excited (aka, wet\/aroused) either of you will be, so <a href=\"https:\/\/www.lelo.com\/blog\/all-lubed-up-ready-to-go-why-and-how-to-use-lube\/\">incorporating a little lube into your play<\/a> will make things easier on both of you. Plus, it can help a bit with any pain either of you might experience.<\/span><\/p>\n<h3><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Bring more than one condom.<\/span><\/h3>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Condoms are amazing little things, but they aren\u2019t perfect. And since we aren\u2019t perfect either, sometimes we make <a href=\"https:\/\/www.lelo.com\/blog\/condom-mistakes\/\">common condom mistakes<\/a> and they rip, break, or simply slip off. So, having a few back up condoms on standby is a great way to ensure that you have the option to stay protected. It\u2019s always a good idea to have an extra layer of birth control like the pill or IUD if you don&#8217;t intend on getting pregnant.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n<h3><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Make sure to have a towel handy.<\/span><\/h3>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Sex is sexy, sure, but it can also get a little <\/span><i><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">messy.<\/span><\/i><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> The encounter can lead to excess lube, cum, and\u2014if it\u2019s your or your partner\u2019s first time\u2014a little blood, so having a towel handy will make you both a bit more comfortable afterward (and avoid any stains).<\/span><\/p>\n<h3><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Always, always pee afterward!<\/span><\/h3>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">This one is particularly true for women. Peeing after sex helps make sure that any bacteria that has found its way between the sheets with you and your partner while you were having sex doesn\u2019t make itself comfortable in your urinary tract. When it does, this can lead to bladder or kidney infections, which can be painful.<\/span><\/p>\n<h3><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Don\u2019t hesitate to ask your partner to change positions\u2014or stop entirely.<\/span><\/h3>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">The thing about having sex for the first time is that we don\u2019t know what we like, or don\u2019t like, yet. Depending upon the shape of you and your partner\u2019s bodies, <a href=\"https:\/\/www.lelo.com\/blog\/lazy-sex-positions-for-couch-copulation\/\">certain positions will feel better<\/a> and worse than others. So, if you and your partner\u2019s play has led you into a position that hurts or just doesn\u2019t feel quite right, do not hesitate to speak up. <\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">And, if you feel like you want to stop altogether, then that\u2019s okay, too. Never feel like you have to keep going just because you and your partner started having sex. This is a shared experience, which means you should be sharing in the pleasure together.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n<h3><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">You might not cum, and that\u2019s okay.<\/span><\/h3>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">When having sex for the first time, chances are your mind and body are pretty preoccupied by the hundreds of thoughts swirling around in your head, not to mention the fact that your partner probably won\u2019t know <\/span><i><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">exactly<\/span><\/i><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> what you want in a given moment (none of us are mind readers, afterall). <\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">As a result, you \u2013 and your partner for that matter \u2013 might not cum at all by the time the mood\u2019s died down and you\u2019re both tired. The thing about sex is that it doesn\u2019t always have to be about <a href=\"https:\/\/www.lelo.com\/blog\/difference-between-male-female-orgasms\/\">coming to orgasm<\/a> for either partner, it\u2019s about having a shared intimate experience (and some sexy fun) with one another.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Having sex for the first time can make you feel a lot of different things all at once, from excited to nervous or scared. But the thing is, the more prepared and informed you and your partner are going into it, and the more you\u2019ve both communicated about your needs and wants beforehand, the more likely it\u2019ll be that the experience itself is a good one. Working out these intimate details from the get-go will also put you on the path to having even better sex with your partner, or future partners down the road.<\/span><\/p>\n<h4>See also:<\/h4>\n<ul>\n<li><a href=\"https:\/\/www.lelo.com\/blog\/sexual-firsts-casey-tanner\/\">Am I Ready for &#8216;Sexual Firsts&#8217;? Q&amp;A with Therapist Casey Tanner<\/a><\/li>\n<li><a href=\"https:\/\/www.lelo.com\/blog\/lelo-recommends-gateway-vibes\/\">A Guide To Choosing Your First Vibrator<\/a><\/li>\n<li><a href=\"https:\/\/www.lelo.com\/blog\/what-are-some-first-date-red-flags\/\">What Are Some First Date Red Flags?<\/a><\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<h4>Discover pleasure with:<\/h4>\n<p>[carousel_slide id=&#8217;43517&#8242;]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>Having sex for the first time can mean a lot of different things to different people, but when it comes to sex, there are still a few things to take into consideration going into it, from whether we\u2019re really ready to which type of protection we want to use. 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