{"id":29109,"date":"2020-03-15T13:00:31","date_gmt":"2020-03-15T12:00:31","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.lelo.com\/blog\/?p=29109"},"modified":"2020-03-25T11:01:19","modified_gmt":"2020-03-25T10:01:19","slug":"rape-fantasy","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.lelo.com\/blog\/rape-fantasy\/","title":{"rendered":"Rape Fantasy: Undo the Taboo"},"content":{"rendered":"

Content warning: This article includes mentions of rape and sexual assault. <\/em><\/span><\/strong><\/p>\n

Fantasies; those delicious little half-truths we whisper to ourselves which get our wheels turning and our <\/span>sexual appetites<\/span> whet. Perhaps calling them \u201chalf-truths\u201d is a euphemistic stretch\u2014but fantasies are never so bound to facts and figures as we tend to be. That is part of why they\u2019re a delightful escape from our day-to-day realities (and day-to-day sex)!<\/span><\/p>\n

Fantasies can be as diverse as the people who engage in them. There can even be a variety of fantasies<\/a> within the mind of one individual. Some fantasies are extravagant, highly-detailed, otherworldly imaginings. Others, hastily drawn up, are merely plausibly realistic drafts, meant only to supply a \u201cquick fix\u201d. There are even those which are so ordinary, so universally \u201cacceptable\u201d that they have become almost comedic tropes\u2014and then, all the way at the far side of the cafeteria, where no one wants to sit (or even be seen), is the rape fantasy.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

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What is a rape fantasy?<\/span><\/h2>\n

The term \u201crape fantasy\u201d generally refers to a fantasy (that is, an imagined scenario) in which the person having the fantasy imagines being <\/span>raped<\/span><\/i>, <\/span>overpowered<\/span><\/i>, or <\/span>forced<\/span><\/i> into a <\/span>sexual act<\/span><\/i> or <\/span>sexually compromising position<\/span><\/i>. Now, bear in mind, those terms can all mean <\/span>very<\/span><\/i> different things, but the important take-away is that it is a <\/span>fantasy<\/span><\/i><\/a> which hinges on the basis of <\/span>imagined<\/span><\/i> non-consent.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

What does that mean? It means the person having the fantasy doesn\u2019t actually want to be raped. Naturally, they do not welcome sexual assault or rape, and they certainly don\u2019t deserve sexual assault or rape. Let\u2019s be clear on that. No one deserves or welcomes sexual assault or rape. If it\u2019s welcome, that is, <\/span>enthusiastically consensual<\/a><\/span><\/i> between <\/span>adults<\/span><\/i> who are <\/span>capable<\/span><\/i> of giving <\/span>consent<\/span><\/i>, it is not rape.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

Rape fantasies and real-life rape are two completely different things. A fantasy is something created and controlled by you\u2014it has nothing to do with a real-life circumstance imposed on you by another. Fantasies are pleasurable because we tailor the imagined experiences perfectly to our desires<\/a>, without the pressure or consequences of having to actually live through them.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

What makes fantasies \u201csexy\u201d is that there are no harsh consequences which result from them because they don\u2019t exist in the real world. Consider some of the most ubiquitous sexual fantasies<\/a> in real life context. For example, the professor\/grad student trope\u2014there\u2019s nothing sexy about getting fired or expelled for inappropriate conduct. If you look at the pizza deliveryman\/bored housewife fantasy, in real life, there\u2019s nothing sexy about getting caught by your partner, and subsequently having to file for a divorce. Having a fantasy does not mean you want, expect, or would enjoy the premise of your fantasy happening to you in reality. Fantasies are merely a safe space to explore your sexuality and imagination without incurring damages or reaping real-world consequences.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

Now we know what rape fantasies don\u2019t mean, but what <\/span>do<\/span> they mean<\/em>?<\/span><\/h3>\n

Well, evidently, not much. Michael Castleman, a California-based sexuality journalist, wrote a piece compiling data on the commonality and implications of rape fantasy which showed that the prevalence of rape fantasy among women was <\/span>surprisingly widespread<\/span><\/a>. In a 2008 <\/span>study<\/span><\/a>, it was found that roughly 44% of women have fantasies of forced sex, and for about 13% of those women, it is their <\/span>favorite<\/span><\/i> sexual fantasy. By these statistics, rape fantasy is just as common among women as <\/span>wearing makeup<\/span><\/a> to cover up perceived flaws.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

With that kind of prevalence, researchers are having a hard time making connections about just what all of these women who engage in such thoughts have in common. In fact, there\u2019s an astounding lack of evidence regarding what rape fantasies have to do with a woman\u2019s personality and broader sexual tastes. It is with that in mind that Castleman (in his aforementioned article) concludes rape fantasies are \u201cno different from any other fantasies\u201d and that they \u201cimply nothing about one’s mental health or real-life sexual inclinations\u201d. In other words, <\/span>hakuna-matata<\/span><\/i>.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

Are rape fantasies damaging to women?<\/span><\/h3>\n

Clinical psychologist Dr. David J. Ley, in his <\/span>article<\/span><\/a> \u201cThe Rape Fantasy: Does it actually mean anything?\u201d, suggests that women\u2014including those with a history of sexual assault\u2014who harbor rape fantasies are <\/span>not<\/span><\/i> reinforcing trauma by engaging in such fantasies. He asserts that it may actually be a way for them to safely revisit clearly unsafe circumstances and mentally manage them; placing power back in themselves where they were once powerless. Therefore, rape fantasy may not be unhealthy as the stigma would suggest. Rape fantasies may actually <\/span>help<\/span><\/i> women forge on from trauma by reinstating autonomy and reframing their histories. This potentially allows them to define new narratives which they control. In this way, rape fantasies may serve as a reclamation of sexual freedom.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

How can a rape fantasy be safely incorporated into intimacy with a partner?<\/span><\/h3>\n

Consensually engaging in sexual acts with the theme of rape fantasy is sometimes referred to as \u201crape play\u201d\u2014two words most would not expect to find adjacent to one another. This is especially true in the BDSM<\/a> community where sexual and non-sexual kinky encounters negotiated between consenting adults are generally referred to as \u201cplay\u201d. For example, \u201cimpact play<\/a>\u201d refers to negotiated, consensual, exploration of hitting or being hit, and \u201cbondage play<\/a>\u201d refers to negotiated, consensual, restriction of movement via cuffs<\/a>, ropes, or ties. Likewise, \u201crape play\u201d would refer to a negotiated, consensual, exploration of non-consent. For this reason, it is sometimes also referred to as \u201cconsensual non-consent\u201d, or \u201cCNC\u201d.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

Engaging in this type of fantasy with another, like any other exploratory sexual encounter, requires tons of communication<\/a>. It also requires a partner you know and trust immensely, and who will definitely respect your limits. But, before you consider what to say to your partner, you\u2019ll need to have a really honest talk with yourself. Be prepared to spend a fair amount of time reflecting on your rape fantasy and whether (and how) you should ask another to partake in it.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

First, you will want to be truthful with yourself about your limits. For this, you\u2019ll want to ask, \u201cWhat would I find pleasurable?\u201d, \u201cWhat would I find to be too much?\u201d, \u201cWhat might I find traumatizing?\u201d. These questions are important because you want to ensure you are preparing for an enjoyable time, but are also thinking about ways to avoid any psychological or emotional damage during consensual non-consent. Later, but before you engage in consensual non-consent with someone else, you will want to discuss limits and boundaries with them, in which you should ask them the same questions to ensure the experience is mutually pleasurable and nontraumatic.<\/span><\/p>\n

In considering your boundaries, it\u2019s important to identify potential emotional triggers or sensory experiences that would initiate uncontrollable fear or negative thought sequences. Take note of these, if there are any. You\u2019ll want to later identify these to your partner so they don\u2019t unintentionally emotionally harm you. Likewise, when eventually communicating with your partner, you should ask them to relate to you any activity or experience which would be a no-go for them, so you can ensure their emotional safety, as well.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

In addition to asking questions and identifying triggers, it is crucial to discuss consent, safe words, and nonverbal safe signals with your partner. The discussion of consent is more complex here, because we are dealing with consensual non-consent. In other words, you may be displaying all the signs and symptoms of not wanting to engage with your partner while thoroughly wanting to be intimate with them. For this reason, it is vital to have a clear delineation of what you do and don\u2019t consent to, <\/span>ahead of time<\/span><\/i>. Do you want them to restrain you? Do you want them to call you humiliating names? Or, are these activities strictly out of bounds? You\u2019ll want to communicate such issues with them beforehand, in a nonsexual setting.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

You should also agree upon a safe word. A \u201c<\/span>safe word<\/span><\/a>\u201d is a word that can be uttered at any time during an encounter or \u201cscene\u201d which will instantly alert those involved that something is wrong and they must respond accordingly. A good safe word is a word which would not usually be used in the context of sex or play (like \u201chippo\u201d or \u201cbanana\u201d) but which is also memorable and easy enough that it can be thought of, and pronounced, under duress (like a person\u2019s full name, or, simply \u201cred\u201d). There are different systems of safe words, and you should choose the one that works best for you and your partner.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

Some people only use one safe word, which, once used, immediately stops all activity to ensure the safety of all participants. Others may prefer the use of two or three safe words, like the \u201ctraffic light\u201d system. In this method, the word \u201cgreen\u201d is used for \u201cAll clear, go!\u201d, \u201cyellow\u201d expresses \u201cI\u2019m nearing my limit, please slow down or change the progression\u201d, and \u201cred\u201d means \u201cWe need to stop, now\u201d. It doesn\u2019t matter which system you and your partner choose, so long as you are both confident in how and when to use them. You should also both understand how to respond once a safe word is called. It\u2019s essential that everyone understands the safe word can be called at any time, by any person, and it will be respected and accepted without retaliation by any party.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

For scenes which involve the use of a gag<\/a> or activity restricting the ability to speak (such as consensual forced oral) safe words will obviously be rendered ineffective. In these instances, you and your partner will need to preemptively choose a nonverbal safe signal. A nonverbal safe signal is used in the same instances a safe word would be used and can be displayed by a system of taps, a show of fingers, or a particular, noticeable gesture.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

If a person is not blindfolded (so they can locate a safe surface to tap on) but is gagged, a double tap on a surface or a person can be used for \u201cI\u2019m done\u201d. If a person is blindfolded and gagged, they can use a gesture such as one fist up, or arms crossed in an \u201cX\u201d for \u201cstop\u201d. If a person is blindfolded, gagged, <\/span>and<\/span><\/i> bound (but without the individual fingers being bound) they can use a show of fingers to communicate, for example, three fingers for \u201cthree strikes, you\u2019re out\u201d. Whichever nonverbal safe signal is used, it should be applicable to the exact specifications of all parties\u2019 conditions. A safe signal can\u2019t help if you can\u2019t show it, see it, or notice it.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

You and your partner may choose to have check-ins with one another throughout the scene, especially if you are concerned with the intensity of play or communicability of the safe word or signal. During check-ins, gags and blindfolds<\/a> can be gently removed to look into the eyes of a partner and ask them outright, \u201cAre you ok? Do you want to continue?\u201d This is commonly done when partners are new to each other or new to the \u201cplay\u201d they\u2019re participating in.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

Consent, safe words, safe signals, and check-ins should all be discussed <\/span>prior<\/span><\/i> to physically engaging with your partner to explore your fantasy. Being communicative with your partner ensures that everyone participating feels safe and understood going into the experience. It also reduces potentially dangerous ambiguities.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

It is important to note: safety should always come before satisfaction. If an experience is unsatisfying, you can always (participants willing) try again. But if an experience is unsafe for anyone involved, you may never get another chance.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

For this reason, it\u2019s imperative that you make arrangements for any safety tools you may need: condoms<\/a> for penetrative sex, safety scissors if someone is being bound, glucose tablets (or chocolate) to bring blood sugar back up if rigorous physical stressors are expected\u2014you get the idea. Obtain the necessities in advance. On the big day, keep them nearby and readily accessible, so they\u2019re available when needed.<\/span><\/p>\n

After discussing boundaries, triggers, consent, and safe words or safe signals, you and your partner are free to discuss the juicy details of how you see this fantasy translating to desire and how you want it brought into reality. That\u2019s when the real fun starts! The two of you can decide on how to set a scene and let your creative juices (and maybe other juices!) flow. Be sure to cover arrangements for aftercare as well<\/a>!<\/span><\/p>\n

Rape fantasy can add an element of excitement to your sexual desires. It doesn\u2019t have to be this taboo secret shrouded in stigma. It is a fairly normal\u2014and perhaps healthy\u2014process between the ears, and can even be safely incorporated into your intimate moments between the sheets.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

Accepting our fantasies helps us embrace parts of ourselves often left in the shadows. Sharing our fantasies and engaging in roleplay allows us to be vulnerable with our partners and (with appropriate timing and communication) can enhance our relationships and our sex lives. So, don\u2019t let societal hang-ups get you down. As long as you\u2019re not hurting anyone, feel free to be you and fantasize the way you do!<\/span><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

Content warning: This article includes mentions of rape and sexual assault. Fantasies; those delicious little half-truths we whisper to ourselves which get our wheels turning and our sexual appetites whet. Perhaps calling them \u201chalf-truths\u201d is a euphemistic stretch\u2014but fantasies are never so bound to facts and figures as we tend to be. That is part of why they\u2019re a delightful escape from our day-to-day realities (and day-to-day sex)! Fantasies can be as diverse as the people who engage in them. 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