{"id":29265,"date":"2020-03-26T13:00:43","date_gmt":"2020-03-26T12:00:43","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.lelo.com\/blog\/?p=29265"},"modified":"2026-02-18T06:09:50","modified_gmt":"2026-02-18T05:09:50","slug":"somnophilia-sleeping-sex","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.lelo.com\/blog\/somnophilia-sleeping-sex\/","title":{"rendered":"Somnophilia \u2013 The Kink for Sleeping Sex"},"content":{"rendered":"<p><a href=\"https:\/\/www.lelo.com\/blog\/author\/lauriemintz\/\"><img decoding=\"async\" class=\"doctor-banner alignnone wp-image-47728 size-full\" src=\"https:\/\/www.lelo.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/02\/laurie-mintz-doctor-review-banner-white.jpg\" alt=\"lelo laurie mintz doctor review\" width=\"270\" height=\"90\" \/><\/a><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">I recently came across a kink known as somnophillia, or sleep kink. I\u2019ve written extensively about all kinds of kinks in the past, there isn\u2019t a lot left out there that shocks me. Or makes me feel uncomfortable. But this kink seemed different. <\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Somnophillia is a kink for a sleeping partner, or for somebody having sex with you whilst you are asleep. Unlike some other kinks, ones that involve <a href=\"https:\/\/www.lelo.com\/blog\/explore-sexual-role-playing\/\">roleplay<\/a> and <a href=\"https:\/\/www.lelo.com\/blog\/from-the-experts-the-importance-of-fantasy-in-relationships\/\">fantasy<\/a>, this kink has an element of reality to it that seemed to cut it apart from the rest.<\/span><\/p>\n<h3>Are sleep kinks different from sleepy sex?<\/h3>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">To be clear, somnophilia is different to sleepy sex*.\u00a0 Sleepy sex is the kind you might have on a Sunday morning, when you do a <a href=\"https:\/\/www.lelo.com\/blog\/why-spooning-sex-is-the-best-sex\/\">lazy sexy spoon<\/a>, or the half-asleep blowjob you might give somebody before work. Sleepy sex is that comfy sort of sex that people who live together have on the sofa while watching Blue Planet. <\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">The thing that\u2019s great about sleepy sex is it implies a level of comfort around your partner. Nobody is really trying to perform or impress anybody else. There might be a misconception that sleepy sex is somehow lazy, or not very passionate, but this couldn\u2019t be further from the truth. What\u2019s more passionate than two people who can\u2019t keep their hands off each other, even before their first coffee? Or after a tiring day at work? <\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">People who are really into sleep kinks aren\u2019t just sleepy, they are asleep. Unconscious. This kink raises lots of interesting questions about relationship dynamics, <a href=\"https:\/\/www.lelo.com\/blog\/consent\/\">consent<\/a>, communication, and legality. <\/span><\/p>\n<h3>What does this kink involve?<\/h3>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">People who are into somnophillia like to have sex (or do sexual things) while their partner is asleep. Other enthusiasts of the kink like to be on the receiving end, and allow their partner to do things to them while they\u2019re unconscious, either with the aim of waking up to discover what\u2019s happening, or to simply be told about it later. <\/span><\/p>\n<h3>So, is it legal?<\/h3>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Technically speaking, somnophillia is illegal. This is because, in legal terms, consent cannot be given by a sleeping person (no big surprises there) but also because falling asleep effectively withdraws any prior consent that a person has given. The legal definition goes like this: \u201cLack of consent may be demonstrated by <\/span><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">evidence that by reason of drink, drugs, sleep, age or mental disability the complainant was unaware of what was occurring and\/ or incapable of giving valid consent<\/span><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">.\u201d<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">However, for a person to be prosecuted for an illegal act, somebody needs to accuse them. In the case of sleep kinks, if a person wakes up and feels delighted that their partner was having sex with them while they slept, clearly they won\u2019t be going to the police about it. <\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">The vital aspect of this kink is that the people involved have discussed it beforehand. It would never be acceptable to just assume your partner was into sleep sex (seriously, do not do that). Like many kinks and fetishes, <a href=\"https:\/\/www.lelo.com\/blog\/communication-as-a-tool-for-better-sex\/\">communication is key<\/a>. <\/span><\/p>\n<h3>How can sleep sex be consensual?<\/h3>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">The more I delved into sleep kink, the more I started hearing two terms. These were \u2018consensually non-consensual\u2019 and \u2018blanket consent\u2019. <\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Blanket consent is basically the idea that you can say to your partner: \u2018\u2019I give you permission to do x and trust you to know when this will be ok without actually asking me\u201d. It\u2019s a way of giving permission to your partner to do things, without them needing to check in with you every time. In some ways, this is a familiar concept. In a relationship, whether it\u2019s casual or long term and serious, we get to know what our <a href=\"https:\/\/www.lelo.com\/blog\/hot-spots-erogenous-zones-women\/\">partners like and don\u2019t like<\/a>, and what their boundaries are. For example, we probably don\u2019t feel the need to say things like \u201cIs it ok for me to kiss your neck?\u201d if we already know that our partner loves neck kissing. <\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">The second term that came up a lot was \u2018consensually non consensual\u2019. This one is a bit trickier. And definitely requires a high level of communication with your partner. On the surface it seems like an oxymoron, and it sort of is. <\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">With consensually non consensual sex, you have told your partner to continue a sexual act even in the absence of consent. You have consented to not consenting. Confused? Don\u2019t worry, I was too. <\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">A good example of a consensually non consensual act might be being tied up. You agree to <a href=\"https:\/\/www.lelo.com\/blog\/basics-bondage-beginners\/\">being tied up<\/a> and part of the fun comes from the idea that you are then \u2018helpless\u2019 or unable to get away. <\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Of course, the vital thing to keep in mind is that this can easily go wrong, and result in someone feeling upset, regretful, or worse. It\u2019s absolutely essential to communicate openly beforehand, to explain exactly what is and isn\u2019t ok. Having a deep level of trust with your partner is essential. This probably isn\u2019t the kind of thing you\u2019d want to try during a one-night stand.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n<h3>Are there exceptions to blanket consent?<\/h3>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Absolutely. When I spoke to sleep sex enthusiasts about blanket consent, the exceptions came up time and time again. For example, if you\u2019ve had a big fight that night. Or if a situation has arisen in which you usually wouldn\u2019t have sex (for example, perhaps your partner doesn\u2019t want to have sex when they\u2019re on their period, or maybe they have a cold that\u2019s making them feel unsexy). The usual boundaries that apply to your sex life also apply to blanket consent. It\u2019s all about knowing your partner, knowing the dynamics of your relationship, and most important of all, communicating. <\/span><\/p>\n<h3>How to introduce somnophilia into your relationship<\/h3>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Think you might be interested in this kink? Ok, the first thing to do is to talk openly with your partner.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Try to think specifically about what it is about the kink that turns you on. Perhaps it\u2019s the ability to take control, perhaps it\u2019s the feeling that you\u2019re extremely desired. You might find that your partner is as enthusiastic as you are about introducing this new kink into your sex life, but if they\u2019re not, it\u2019s important to be able to explain why <\/span><i><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">you<\/span><\/i><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> are interested. <\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">If you decide to go ahead and give it a try, make sure to lay out all your ground rules carefully at the outset. Think about what is and isn\u2019t ok. For example, is oral alright, but not full sex? Should your partner <a href=\"https:\/\/www.lelo.com\/blog\/hex-under-the-microscope\/\">wear a condom<\/a>? Is sleep sex off limits on a work night? Be specific and try to think of different scenarios and judge how these would make you feel. <\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">If you find that your partner doesn\u2019t share your enthusiasm for sleep sex, don\u2019t freak out. You\u2019ve hopefully already thought carefully about what elements of this kink do it for you. So, can you think of another way to incorporate these desires into your sex life? By talking openly and honestly, you should be able to find a middle ground that you both enjoy. <\/span><\/p>\n<h3>When sleepy sex turns into sleep sex<\/h3>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Do you remember that episode of Friends where Monica falls asleep during sex and Chandler freaks out? Personally, I thought it was a bad form of him to shake her awake. Unless you\u2019ve discussed sleep sex in depth, your partner falling asleep during sex is probably a sign that they\u2019re not in the mood. <\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">If you\u2019re a big fan of sleepy sex, but haven\u2019t talked about sleep sex (or maybe you have discussed it and have decided against it) the rules of usual consent definitely apply: if your partner falls asleep during sex, stop. And probably don\u2019t wake them up just because you still want to get off.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n<h3>So, what\u2019s the bottom line?<\/h3>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">As with all sex, mutual respect is vital and it\u2019s important to remember that your desires never supersede the desires or boundaries of your partner. This rule applies whether you\u2019re having <a href=\"https:\/\/www.lelo.com\/blog\/the-missionary-position-why-do-we-love-to-hate-it\/\">good old-fashioned missionary<\/a> with the lights off (underrated in my opinion) or exploring a new kink for the first time. Listen to your partner, talk to your partner, and keep the conversation going.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n<p>*In this article, for ease of reader understanding, we are using the words sex and intercourse as synonymous, as is done in popular culture in general. Similarly, we use the word \u201cforeplay\u201d the way it is used in popular culture (i.e., the sexual acts such as oral sex that come before intercourse). However, as aptly pointed out by our sex expert Laurie Mintz, we would also like to acknowledge that such language exalts men\u2019s most reliable rout to orgasm and linguistically erases women\u2019s most reliable route to orgasm\u2014clitoral stimulation, either alone or coupled with penetration. Indeed, only between 4% and 18% of women reliably orgasm from penetration alone. We look forward to the day when such language is not commonly used in culture.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>I recently came across a kink known as somnophillia, or sleep kink. I\u2019ve written extensively about all kinds of kinks in the past, there isn\u2019t a lot left out there that shocks me. Or makes me feel uncomfortable. But this kink seemed different. Somnophillia is a kink for a sleeping partner, or for somebody having sex with you whilst you are asleep. 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