{"id":29605,"date":"2020-04-26T12:39:29","date_gmt":"2020-04-26T10:39:29","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.lelo.com\/blog\/?p=29605"},"modified":"2020-04-27T11:32:08","modified_gmt":"2020-04-27T09:32:08","slug":"did-you-come-how-to-know-if-she-had-an-orgasm","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.lelo.com\/blog\/did-you-come-how-to-know-if-she-had-an-orgasm\/","title":{"rendered":"\u201cDid You Come?\u201d \u2013 How To Know If She Had An Orgasm"},"content":{"rendered":"

This is advice aimed specifically at straight, young men who have trouble identifying their partner’s climax, or lack of it. It’s important to note that different genders and sexual identities experience orgasm differently. It’s also important to note that orgasm is not the end goal of sex, and should not be considered as such.<\/em><\/p>\n

It\u2019s a question most of us have either asked, or heard. \u201cDid you come?\u201d Three little syllables, loaded with so much subtext and complexity, and while we might be earnest if we ask them, we somehow understand there\u2019s some kind of subconscious understanding that if the question needed to be asked, the answer should be obvious.<\/span><\/p>\n

This article is going to tread on some toes and make some overgeneralisations. Forgive me, I\u2019ll be as sensitive as I can. But it\u2019s not easy to find information about being the guy who\u2019s not sure if their partner climaxed or not, because, I assume, there\u2019s some embarrassment associated with it. Well, I\u2019m a notoriously difficult person to embarrass, so I\u2019ll pick this one up: how to know if your partner came. Let\u2019s go.<\/span><\/p>\n

\"How<\/p>\n

Fake It To Make It?<\/h2>\n

The spectre of the fake orgasm looms heavy over young men, who believe that their partner\u2019s sexual response is a direct commentary on their sexual prowess. It\u2019s not. Get off your own dick, Chad, it\u2019s not all about you.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

Research into the prevalence of orgasm fakery is commonplace, and highly variable. Depending on the location and age range of the participants, somewhere between one third and two thirds of all women have faked an orgasm<\/a>, so let\u2019s compromise and call it half. That means there is a significant statistical likelihood that it has happened to you, or will at some point.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

Reasons for faking orgasm generally fall into three categories:<\/span><\/p>\n