{"id":30530,"date":"2020-07-05T12:05:39","date_gmt":"2020-07-05T10:05:39","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.lelo.com\/blog\/?p=30530"},"modified":"2021-04-19T11:34:47","modified_gmt":"2021-04-19T09:34:47","slug":"initiating-spontaneous-surprise-sex","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.lelo.com\/blog\/initiating-spontaneous-surprise-sex\/","title":{"rendered":"Initiating Spontaneous Surprise Sex"},"content":{"rendered":"<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">It\u2019s no secret that when couples have<\/span> <a href=\"https:\/\/www.lelo.com\/blog\/are-long-term-relationships-better-than-casual-ones\/\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">been together for a certain amount of time<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">, the sexual energy changes. And that\u2019s not to say that amazing sex isn\u2019t possible. In fact, the more emotionally invested you are, the better the sex could be.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">At the same time however, you may not be hopping to it every single day and twice on Sundays after a few months or years. And so, your sex life sometimes falls into a routine, and you find yourself planning your sex dates ahead of time&#8230;and there\u2019s actually nothing wrong with that.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Some agree that planning sex gives them the time to get physically and emotionally ready, and to make sure there\u2019s enough time to have a solid session.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">On the other hand, the element of surprise is a tantalizing concept that could add that dash of spice you\u2019ve been searching for.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"><img fetchpriority=\"high\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"aligncenter size-full wp-image-30531\" src=\"https:\/\/www.lelo.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/07\/initiating-spontaneous-surprise-sex.jpg\" alt=\"Initiating Spontaneous Surprise Sex\" width=\"660\" height=\"330\" srcset=\"https:\/\/www.lelo.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/07\/initiating-spontaneous-surprise-sex.jpg 660w, https:\/\/www.lelo.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/07\/initiating-spontaneous-surprise-sex-300x150.jpg 300w\" sizes=\"(max-width: 660px) 100vw, 660px\" \/>\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n<h2><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Why Are Surprises So Thrilling?<\/span><\/h2>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">When we\u2019re surprised, our brain goes through different phases. First, we freeze for 1\/25th of a second, which is then followed by a strong sense of curiosity. After this, we experience a shift in thinking that encourages us to change the way we feel.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">With these three steps, our emotions are intensified up to 400 percent. And because sex is oftentimes a pleasant surprise, we can experience exceptional feelings of happiness, <\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/www.lelo.com\/blog\/men-vs-women-why-and-how-do-we-experience-sexual-arousal\/\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">arousal<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">, or joy. We can also enjoy the blissful wave of dopamine during a surprise because the pleasure centres in the brain are activated.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">So even individuals who claim to hate surprises because perhaps they have a need to always <\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/www.lelo.com\/blog\/top-5-sex-positions-put-control\/\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">feel in control<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> or don\u2019t like the idea of being vulnerable, being surprised is a great way to live a life full of wonder, joy, and intense emotions.<\/span><\/p>\n<h2><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Why is The Element of Surprise a Good Thing in Your Relationship?<\/span><\/h2>\n<p><a href=\"https:\/\/news.stonybrook.edu\/newsroom\/press-release\/general\/042209boredominmarriage\/\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">A study conducted by Irene Tsapelas<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">, a psychology researcher at the <\/span><i><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">State University of New York<\/span><\/i><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> at <\/span><i><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Stony Brook<\/span><\/i><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">, proved that surprise is actually the perfect way to rekindle your romantic relationships. This study took place over a period of nine years, and followed the lives of 123 married couples.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">The findings concluded that the couples who were bored tended to become unhappy and less attracted to one another. It was also found that bored partners were more likely to get divorced after seven years.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">In <\/span><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">a separate study<\/span><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">, Helen Fisher, a research professor in the anthropology department at <\/span><i><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Rutgers University<\/span><\/i><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">, used PET scanners to research the element of surprise.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">She found that the same region of the brain (the ventral tegmental area linked to feelings of reward and satisfaction) lit up for those who had recently <\/span><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">fallen in love<\/span> <i><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">and<\/span><\/i><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> for those who were <a href=\"https:\/\/www.lelo.com\/blog\/sex-relationships\/committed\/\">still in love with their partner after two decades<\/a>.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Essentially, this means that those loved-up feelings at the beginning of a relationship can be duplicated in couples that embrace surprise as the brain releases a generous amount of dopamine.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">According to Fisher:<\/span><\/p>\n<p><i><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">\u201cMarry the right person, have sex with them regularly, and go out and do novel, exciting things with them.\u201d<\/span><\/i><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">And according to Dr. Barbara Bartlik, an assistant professor of psychiatry at New York-Presbyterian Hospital:<\/span><\/p>\n<p><i><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">\u201cIf you do something a little scary \u2014 like ride a roller coaster \u2014 you\u2019ll get a surge of adrenaline, and that will make you feel sexier.\u201d<\/span><\/i><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">And that brings me to my next point&#8230;\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n<h2><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">8 Tips on How to Have Sexy Spontaneous Suprise Sex<\/span><\/h2>\n<h3><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">1. Don\u2019t Plan It<\/span><\/h3>\n<p><a href=\"https:\/\/www.smh.com.au\/national\/daily-pill-to-bring-back-spontaneous-sex-20080429-gdsbif.html\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">A poll in Australia<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> showed that 75 percent of men believed spontaneous sex was an important aspect of intimacy, and 90 percent of women prefered spontaneous sex over a planned rompage.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">So, instead of marking off an allocated day on the calendar\u2014that which can build up expectations and perhaps bring disappointment\u2014try to bring the element of surprise into your sex life.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">How about dessert in the middle of an at-home dinner? Or an impromptu visit to your partner\u2019s place of work for an <\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/www.lelo.com\/blog\/10-best-euphemisms-sex\/\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">afternoon delight<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">?<\/span><\/p>\n<h3><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">2. Unpredictable in Public\u00a0<\/span><\/h3>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Turn a boring drive home into a <\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/www.lelo.com\/blog\/road-head\/\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">side-of-the-road secluded session<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">, or see a terrible movie in the middle of the week and see if you\u2019re the only two people in the cinema.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Sure, you\u2019ll have to be extremely careful with this one, so try to use common sense ahead of playtime.<\/span><\/p>\n<h3><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">3. Sleep Surprise<\/span><\/h3>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">A wake-up call with your mouth as opposed to an alarm clock is definitely a much happier way to wake up in the morning, right?\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">But of course, this kind of surprise sex should be a consensual non-consent activity.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n<h3><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">4. Turn Passive into Active<\/span><\/h3>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">If you\u2019re usually a <\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/www.lelo.com\/blog\/role-call-what-are-different-kinds-dominants-submissives\/\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">passive or less dominant<\/span><\/a> <span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">partner in the sheets, flip the roles and take the reigns. It need not be a grand gesture\u2014even a sexually-charged glide along your partner\u2019s thigh can do the trick.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Or, if you are planning to go big, perhaps return to the boudoir unexpectedly in some <\/span><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"><a href=\"https:\/\/www.lelo.com\/blog\/lingerie-day\/\">sexy lingerie<\/a> or a <a href=\"https:\/\/www.lelo.com\/blog\/explore-sexual-role-playing\/\">roleplaying outfit<\/a><\/span><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">.<\/span><\/p>\n<h3><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">5. Try Something New<\/span><\/h3>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Surprise sex doesn\u2019t necesarrily need to be the act of initiating it. It could be something such as surprising your partner by trying something new <\/span><i><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">during<\/span><\/i><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> sex, on a whim.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">If you know they\u2019ve been intrigued by a certain sexual act or they\u2019ve got <\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/www.lelo.com\/blog\/difference-between-a-kink-and-a-fetish\/\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">a fetish or kink<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> that you haven\u2019t explored yet, try to incorporate it as a surprise into your sexy time. It\u2019ll surely blow their mind\u2026 and their load.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n<h3><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">6. Change the Scene<\/span><\/h3>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">If you and your partner are prone to doing it in the same place, for example your bedroom, try switching it up a little. <\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/www.lelo.com\/blog\/sexiest-summer-getaways\/\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Take a little trip<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> or visit a hotel for the night.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">This will put both of you slightly out of your comfort zone, making the sex you enjoy even more of an adventure.<\/span><\/p>\n<h3><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">7. Add Props and Toys<\/span><\/h3>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Perhap <a href=\"https:\/\/www.lelo.com\/blog\/introducing-sex-toy-relationship\/\">sex props or toys<\/a> have never given you a little helping hand during your trysts. And using these types of aids in the bedroom can have mind blowing effects.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">There are tons of <\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/www.lelo.com\/blog\/what-exactly-is-a-couples-sex-toy\/\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">sex toys for couples<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> that can be worn by him or her, or you can try some <a href=\"https:\/\/www.lelo.com\/blog\/bdsm-toys-tips-for-beginners\/\">light BDSM play<\/a> with a trusted partner.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n<h3><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">8. Communicate<\/span><\/h3>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">It seems counterintuitive, but a sexy surprise will be super well-received when you know that your partner will absolutely love it.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n<p><a href=\"https:\/\/www.lelo.com\/blog\/communication-as-a-tool-for-better-sex\/\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Talk with your partner about both of your fantasies<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">, your limits, and your sexual curiosities, and allow them to influence your next bout of fun.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Ready to catch your partner by surprise? Say goodbye to routine and boring sex, because surprise is what will almost certainly keep intimacy and romance alive!<\/span><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>It\u2019s no secret that when couples have been together for a certain amount of time, the sexual energy changes. And that\u2019s not to say that amazing sex isn\u2019t possible. 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