{"id":30564,"date":"2020-07-12T13:00:31","date_gmt":"2020-07-12T11:00:31","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.lelo.com\/blog\/?p=30564"},"modified":"2021-02-26T15:44:54","modified_gmt":"2021-02-26T14:44:54","slug":"how-to-soothe-a-jealous-partner","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.lelo.com\/blog\/how-to-soothe-a-jealous-partner\/","title":{"rendered":"How to Soothe a Jealous Partner (And Is It Your Job?)"},"content":{"rendered":"<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Jealousy is the common cold of relationships. Universally dreaded, it\u2019s able to strike <\/span><i><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">anyone<\/span><\/i><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> at any time\u2014usually unexpectedly, under the least convenient circumstances. And, much like the common cold, while anecdotal remedies abound, no single cure seems to work <\/span><i><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">exactly<\/span><\/i><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> as expected, <\/span><i><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">every<\/span><\/i><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> time.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n<p><img fetchpriority=\"high\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"aligncenter size-full wp-image-30616\" src=\"https:\/\/www.lelo.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/07\/Jealous_Partner.jpg\" alt=\"Jealous Partner\" width=\"660\" height=\"330\" srcset=\"https:\/\/www.lelo.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/07\/Jealous_Partner.jpg 660w, https:\/\/www.lelo.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/07\/Jealous_Partner-300x150.jpg 300w\" sizes=\"(max-width: 660px) 100vw, 660px\" \/><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Worst of all, no type of person or partnership is <\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/www.psychologytoday.com\/us\/blog\/the-polyamorists-next-door\/201711\/some-people-truly-don-t-feel-jealousy\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">immune<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> to jealousy. As sociologist and relationship coach, Dr. Elisabeth A. Sheff says, \u201cSome people truly don\u2019t feel jealousy\u2014until they do.\u201d Through her work with individuals and relationships, she\u2019s found, \u201ceveryone has the capacity for jealousy\u201d\u2014an ominous declaration implying this scourge can breed <\/span><i><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">anywhere<\/span><\/i><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">So, while it\u2019s true there are many different relationship styles, to jealousy, they\u2019re all fair game. Whether you\u2019re <\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/www.lelo.com\/blog\/how-kinky-are-you-quiz\/\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">kinky<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">, vanilla, or a <\/span><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">shade of grey<\/span><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">, <a href=\"https:\/\/www.lelo.com\/blog\/monogamy\/\">monogamous<\/a>, monogam<\/span><i><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">ish<\/span><\/i><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">, <a href=\"https:\/\/www.lelo.com\/blog\/is-polyamory-right-for-you-8-questions-to-help-you-decide\/\">polyamorous<\/a>, or somewhere in between, your interactions with a partner are liable to become infected with jealousy at some <\/span><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">point<\/span><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">\u2014and that\u2019s going to have to be addressed.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">But we don\u2019t judge. We\u2019re here to help! 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absolute;\r\n             left: 50%;\r\n             top: 50%;\r\n             transform: translate(-50%, -50%);\r\n             -moz-transform: translate(-50%, -50%);\r\n             -webkit-transform: translate(-50%, -50%);\r\n             line-height: 1;\r\n             color: #000000;\r\n             font-size: 32px;\r\n             font-family: Gabriola;\r\n             cursor: default;\r\n         }\r\n     <\/style>\r\n     <form method=\"POST\" onsubmit=\"\">\r\n       <div class=\"Total_Soft_Poll_Main_Div\">\r\n         <div class=\"Total_Soft_Poll_1_Main_Div_8\">\r\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<span class=\"TotalSoftPoll_Ans_ComingSoon_8\">\r\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<span class=\"TotalSoftPoll_Ans_ComingSoon_Span_8\">\r\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\tComing Soon\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/span>\r\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/span> <span class=\"TotalSoftPoll_Ans_loading\">\r\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<img decoding=\"async\" class=\"TotalSoftPoll_Ans_loading_Img\"\r\n                   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id=\"TotalSoft_Poll_Set_02_8\"\r\n          value=\"\"> <input type=\"text\" style=\"display: none;\" id=\"TotalSoft_Poll_Set_03_8\"\r\n          value=\"\"> <input type=\"text\" style=\"display: none;\" id=\"TotalSoft_Poll_Set_04_8\"\r\n          value=\"Coming Soon\"> <input type=\"text\" style=\"display: none;\" id=\"TotalSoft_Poll_Set_05_8\"\r\n          value=\"Thank You !\">\r\n       <\/div>\r\n\t\t\t\t\t\t     <\/form>\r\n\t\t\r\n\t\t<\/p>\n<h2><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Getting Down to Business<\/span><\/h2>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">The techniques for soothing a jealous partner vary based on the cause of the jealousy. We\u2019ll target each cause and the corresponding solutions separately, so you can use the technique most appropriate for your situation. It\u2019s important to tailor your approach to the specific fears your partner\u2019s jealousy is founded upon. Remember to discuss feelings honestly and openly with your partner. This will help elucidate the jealousy\u2019s underlying cause.\u00a0\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n<h3><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">They\u2019ve Been Cheated Out of Love<\/span><\/h3>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">If your partner has been cheated on, or has otherwise lost a partner \u201cto another person\u201d, their jealousy might be based on fear from past experiences. Humans learn from <\/span><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">fear<\/span><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">. When we\u2019ve been hurt by something before, we learn to identify it more quickly, to avoid that pain in the future. It\u2019s entirely possible your partner\u2019s jealousy is just that; something feels off and they don\u2019t want to lose you.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">If your partner is open to it, help them process their concerns by offering <a href=\"https:\/\/www.lelo.com\/blog\/asking-your-partner-about-past-relationships\/\">comparisons between their past<\/a> and what is happening now, in the present relationship. The goal is to unpack the past experience in a gentle, supportive way and determine how similar it is to the current experience. Helping them examine their apprehension in the context of the current situation is essentially fear \u201cfact-checking\u201d. This method should alleviate worries of history repeating itself by demonstrating no two relationships are exactly the same. After, they can determine for themselves whether that fear is still a valid concern.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Another way to encourage feelings of security in a relationship is to more closely align the reality of the relationship with the expectations of it. A simple way to do this is for you and your partner to each create a list of three main expectations of the relationship. Compare notes and determine whether you are meeting each other\u2019s expectations.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">If the <a href=\"https:\/\/www.lelo.com\/blog\/sex-relationships\/dating\/\">relationship is fairly new<\/a> and you\u2019re still learning about each other, you might not have identical expectations or necessarily be meeting all expectations. That is okay\u2014the next step is to brainstorm <\/span><i><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">how<\/span><\/i><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> to meet those expectations <\/span><i><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">together<\/span><\/i><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">. Then, put a plan in place to carry those habits into daily life.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">For example, your partner might need physical contact as a concrete expression of affection in a relationship. Maybe their expectation is for that need to be addressed both in private and public settings so they can be reassured, and others can be aware, of the connection you share.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">If their expectations are being met, they\u2019ll feel more secure in the relationship. A solid plan for maintaining those habits would routinely reaffirm that security. Your plan, here, could be to start each day with a warm hug, initiate public displays of affection (like holding hands\u2014or more!), and physically present as a couple in social settings through casual touching or being physically near.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Thus, to soothe a partner who has previous relationship baggage, start by contrasting their fear with the current reality, then address their expectations. Using these techniques will help you both view the relationship more clearly and support each other fully.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n<h3><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">They\u2019re Insecure\u2014Don\u2019t Know What For<\/span><\/h3>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">If your partner\u2019s jealousy is based on the idea that they could lose you because they don\u2019t measure up, the solution is very straightforward: work on building each other\u2019s self-esteem <\/span><i><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">and<\/span><\/i><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> <a href=\"https:\/\/www.lelo.com\/blog\/boost-bedroom-confidence\/\">confidence in the relationship<\/a>. To do this easily, build a habit within the relationship to thank each other on a regular basis. You want to help them feel like they are enough, so specifically thank them for what they bring to the table.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Articulating honest gratitude for their actions will call to their attention that you recognize the work they put in. It will show that you notice the good in them and their deeds. It can help them feel valued, seen, and appreciated.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">You don\u2019t have to conjure elaborate compliments, and you shouldn\u2019t worry about finding the right words or circumstance. Just pick up on what they do and mention it. For instance, \u201cThanks for making lunch, you\u2019re an amazing cook!\u201d, \u201cThanks for being so supportive, you\u2019re a great partner,\u201d or, \u201cThank you for collecting the mail, I appreciate it.\u201d The more you use gratitude, the more opportunities you\u2019ll find to use it.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">This behavior can quickly become a custom in your relationship because people tend to unintentionally copy each other\u2019s verbal and behavioral habits. It\u2019s a social phenomenon known as <\/span><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">mimicry<\/span><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">. This means, if you start saying \u201cthank you\u201d often enough, your partner will probably end up reciprocating.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Using gratitude to address jealousy and insecurities works because it teaches your partner that they (and the relationship) are special to you. Gratitude can also encourage both of you to feel valued. Simultaneously, it highlights the positives of your relationship and increases mutual feelings of satisfaction and <\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/www.health.harvard.edu\/healthbeat\/giving-thanks-can-make-you-happier\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">happiness<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n<h3><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">They\u2019re Missing Something<\/span><\/h3>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Whether it\u2019s a lack of trust, or the absence of a quantifiable resource (like time together), perceived deficits in the relationship can definitely breed fear and jealousy in a partner\u2014especially if they see that resource moving towards someone else. If this is the case in your relationship, try to identify what your partner feels is missing.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">If it\u2019s trust that\u2019s lacking, trust takes time. Still, a dedicated effort to continually show up, be reliable, and tell the truth, will eventually build it back.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">If it\u2019s a measurable resource, you\u2019ll need to mentally audit whether it has been diverted away from them\u2014and <\/span><i><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">where<\/span><\/i><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> it has gone. Once you realize where it has been reassigned, you can look for ways to replenish it within the relationship.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">If time is the resource, intentional scheduling can help. Try setting aside an hour each night to talk, or, instate regular \u201c<a href=\"https:\/\/www.lelo.com\/blog\/turn-kink-date-night\/\">date nights<\/a>\u201d reserved just for your partner. Doing this will reaffirm your commitment to the relationship and emphasize to your partner that they\u2019re a priority.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">However, there <\/span><i><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">is<\/span><\/i><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> another resource we tend to be less cognizant of\u2014relationship <\/span><i><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">energy<\/span><\/i><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">. Polyamorous people know, when a new connection is formed, there\u2019s this wondrous, elusive feeling termed \u201cnew relationship <\/span><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">energy<\/span><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">\u201d or\u00a0 \u201cNRE\u201d. It\u2019s that head-over-heels excitement surrounding a new love interest, and your partner would know it if they saw it, because you and your partner probably had it once, too.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">If you\u2019re in a consensual open-relationship and your partner knows you\u2019re seeing other people, it might not be easy for them to witness you having this energy with someone else. To avoid wrecking your current relationship via NRE from your <\/span><i><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">newest<\/span><\/i><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> relationship, try to be more subtle (or at least less brazen) with your NRE. This will be hard, because you\u2019re probably in hardcore love\u2014or lust\u2014and want to shout it from the rooftops. We get it! But a little subtlety can go a long way in preserving what you already have (and worked hard for) with your current partner.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Most importantly, no matter how crazy your NRE gets, remember: no backsies on safer sex agreements! Breaking promises about safer sex only plays into your long-term partner\u2019s worst fears. Plus, it\u2019s a major breach of trust that they would be totally valid in ending the relationship over. Be courteous, accountable, and responsible.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">When your partner sees deficits in the relationship that spark jealousy, assess those deficits justly. Attempt to re-funnel resources that might have been displaced back into the relationship. Furthermore, try to be respectful when other resources (like NRE) are directed towards new partners. These efforts will honor your preexisting relationship and inspire trust.<\/span><\/p>\n<h3><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">They\u2019re Different<\/span><\/h3>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">The suspicion of moral incompatibility is a common fear underpinning jealousy. This fear is especially evident when one partner is monogamous and the other polyamorous, or, when one partner is kinky and the other vanilla. Much of this has to do with misunderstanding lifestyles beyond our own. Unfortunately, naivety spawns many a misconception.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">For example, people without experience in polyamory often assume there\u2019s no fidelity in relationships which are not exclusive. Alternately, people unfamiliar with kink often think kink is solely about sex, or that, if you have multiple play partners, you are sexually intimate with all of them. These are massive misconceptions which (like all misunderstandings) can muddle relationships with fears and jealousies that are not always well-founded. The solution is informed, educational conversation held in the spirit of <\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/www.lelo.com\/blog\/be-a-better-partner\/\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">solidarity<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">.\u00a0\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">If your partner is jealous because they prefer exclusive monogamy and you prefer <a href=\"https:\/\/www.lelo.com\/blog\/is-an-open-relationship-right-for-you\/\">open relationships<\/a>, you might feel that your value systems are irreconcilable. However, this may not be the case. Do you value honesty? Do you feel responsibility towards your partners? Do you think trust is an important basis for relationships? If you answered \u201cyes\u201d to any of those questions, you two might have more in common than you\u2019d think!<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">While it\u2019s true a common snag in mono\/poly pairings is the assumption that <\/span><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">fidelity<\/span><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> cannot exist in poly\u2014an unsettling thought for a monogamous partner\u2014here, the <\/span><i><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">existence<\/span><\/i><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> of fidelity isn\u2019t the issue. It\u2019s the <\/span><i><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">definition<\/span><\/i><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> of fidelity that spurs confusion.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">A monogamous person might define fidelity as \u201csexual exclusivity\u201d. However, a polyamorous person could define it as \u201cbeing emotionally faithful\u201d, \u201cnot betraying their partners\u2019 trust\u201d, or \u201chonoring agreed upon commitments\u201d (such as those pertaining to safer sex or ethical nonmonogamy). This is why it\u2019s <\/span><i><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">entirely<\/span><\/i><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> possible for monogamous and polyamorous people to agree, ethically, that virtues such as fidelity, loyalty, and responsibility are vital to relationships.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">If this alleged ethical discrepancy is rousing jealousy in your partner, <a href=\"https:\/\/www.lelo.com\/blog\/communication-as-a-tool-for-better-sex\/\">open the lines of communication<\/a> to discuss what they need from a partner. Have them define the virtues they consider important. Then, you can determine whether you conceptualize these virtues similarly.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">If not, setting ground rules is a perfect backup plan. Agreeing on ground rules achieves two goals: 1) getting partners to agree on <\/span><i><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">something<\/span><\/i><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">, and 2) safekeeping each other\u2019s feelings and trust by identifying and protecting the most important aspects of the relationship. Every relationship holds something sacred. Ground rules ensure that what <\/span><i><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">is<\/span><\/i><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> sacred <\/span><i><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">stays<\/span><\/i><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> sacred.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">For vanilla partners jealous of their kinky partner\u2019s consensual engagement in kink outside of the relationship, the above techniques also apply. The first step is, of course, making sure you\u2019re on the same page. Discuss what kink means for you, and what it entails. Define the types of play partnerships you engage in, and what their boundaries are.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Acknowledge, also, that kink doesn\u2019t always include or end in sex. Those who are into service and obedience might clean, or serve tea, and not engage sexually at all. To some, kink is about personal fulfilment more than sexual gratification. If that\u2019s true for you, your vanilla partner might be relieved to hear it. So, communicate fully and honestly.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">After clarifying what kink means to each of you, you can see whether you agree on central issues affecting your relationship. Even if you don\u2019t, ground rules can help level uneven and different moral grounds to sustain the structure of the relationship.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Finding ethical similarities, defining moral concepts, and making ground rules you can both commit to, are helpful ways to bridge the perceived \u201cethical divide\u201d between monogamous and polyamorous partners, as well as kinky and vanilla partners. 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rgba(255, 255, 255, 0.15) 25%, rgba(255, 255, 255, 0) 25%, rgba(255, 255, 255, 0) 50%, rgba(255, 255, 255, 0.15) 50%, rgba(255, 255, 255, 0.15) 75%, rgba(255, 255, 255, 0) 75%, rgba(255, 255, 255, 0) 100%);\r\n             background-image: -webkit-gradient(linear, right top, left bottom, color-stop(0%, rgba(255, 255, 255, 0.2)), color-stop(25%, rgba(255, 255, 255, 0.2)), color-stop(25%, rgba(255, 255, 255, 0)), color-stop(50%, rgba(255, 255, 255, 0)), color-stop(50%, rgba(255, 255, 255, 0.2)), color-stop(75%, rgba(255, 255, 255, 0.2)), color-stop(75%, rgba(255, 255, 255, 0)), color-stop(100%, rgba(255, 255, 255, 0)));\r\n             background-image: -o-linear-gradient(45deg, rgba(255, 255, 255, 0.15) 0%, rgba(255, 255, 255, 0.15) 25%, rgba(255, 255, 255, 0) 25%, rgba(255, 255, 255, 0) 50%, rgba(255, 255, 255, 0.15) 50%, rgba(255, 255, 255, 0.15) 75%, rgba(255, 255, 255, 0) 75%, rgba(255, 255, 255, 0) 100%);\r\n             background-image: -ms-linear-gradient(45deg, rgba(255, 255, 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{\r\n             margin: 0;\r\n             padding: 0;\r\n             width: 20px;\r\n             height: 20px;\r\n             position: absolute;\r\n             left: 50%;\r\n             top: 50%;\r\n             transform: translate(-50%, -50%);\r\n             -moz-transform: translate(-50%, -50%);\r\n             -webkit-transform: translate(-50%, -50%);\r\n         }\r\n\r\n         .TotalSoftPoll_Ans_ComingSoon_9 {\r\n             background: rgba(209,209,209,0.79);\r\n             position: absolute;\r\n             top: 0;\r\n             left: 0;\r\n             text-align: center;\r\n             width: 100%;\r\n             height: 100%;\r\n             line-height: 1;\r\n             z-index: 999999999;\r\n             display: none;\r\n         }\r\n\r\n         .TotalSoftPoll_Ans_ComingSoon_Span_9 {\r\n             margin: 0;\r\n             padding: 0;\r\n             position: absolute;\r\n             left: 50%;\r\n             top: 50%;\r\n             transform: translate(-50%, -50%);\r\n             -moz-transform: translate(-50%, -50%);\r\n             -webkit-transform: translate(-50%, -50%);\r\n             line-height: 1;\r\n             color: #000000;\r\n             font-size: 32px;\r\n             font-family: Gabriola;\r\n             cursor: default;\r\n         }\r\n     <\/style>\r\n     <form method=\"POST\" onsubmit=\"\">\r\n       <div class=\"Total_Soft_Poll_Main_Div\">\r\n         <div class=\"Total_Soft_Poll_1_Main_Div_9\">\r\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<span class=\"TotalSoftPoll_Ans_ComingSoon_9\">\r\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<span class=\"TotalSoftPoll_Ans_ComingSoon_Span_9\">\r\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\tComing Soon\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/span>\r\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/span> <span class=\"TotalSoftPoll_Ans_loading\">\r\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<img decoding=\"async\" class=\"TotalSoftPoll_Ans_loading_Img\"\r\n                   src=\"https:\/\/www.lelo.com\/blog\/wp-content\/plugins\/TS-Poll\/Includes\/..\/Images\/loading.gif\">\r\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/span>\r\n           <div class=\"Total_Soft_Poll_1_Quest_Div_9\">\r\n             <span>Do you know where their jealousy stems from?<\/span>\r\n             <div class=\"Total_Soft_Poll_1_LAQ_Div_9\"\r\n              style=\"margin-top: 10px;\"><\/div>\r\n           <\/div>\r\n           <div class=\"Total_Soft_Poll_1_Ans_Div_9\">\r\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t              <div class=\"Total_Soft_Poll_1_Ans_Check_Div\"\r\n               style=\"\/*height: 40px;*\/\">\r\n                <input type=\"radio\" class=\"Total_Soft_Poll_1_Ans_CheckBox\"\r\n                 id=\"Total_Soft_Poll_1_Ans_9_1\"\r\n                 name=\"Total_Soft_Poll_1_Ans_9\"\r\n                 value=\"80\">\r\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t                 <label class=\"Total_Soft_Poll_1_Ans_Lab Total_Soft_Poll_1_Ans_Lab_9 totalsoft totalsoft-question-circle-o\"\r\n                  for=\"Total_Soft_Poll_1_Ans_9_1\"\r\n                  style=\"width:100%;height:100%;box-sizing:border-box;\"\r\n                  onclick=\"Total_Soft_Poll_1_Ans_Lab('80',9, event)\">Yes<\/label>\r\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t                <span class=\"Total_Soft_Poll_3_Span_9 Total_Soft_Poll_3_Span_9_1\"\r\n                 style=\"width:100%;height:100%;box-sizing:border-box;\">\r\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<span class=\"Total_Soft_Poll_3_Span3_9\">\r\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<span class=\"Total_Soft_Poll_3_Span1_9 Total_Soft_Poll_3_Span1_9_1\"\r\n                           style=\";  width: 62.5%\">\r\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/span>\r\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<label class=\"Total_Soft_Poll_3_Span2_9 Total_Soft_Poll_3_Span2_9_1\"\r\n                           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If the jealousy is just run-of-the-mill jealousy (meaning, it doesn\u2019t include delusions, violence, or other unhealthy tendencies), <\/span><i><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">and<\/span><\/i><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> you want to stay in the relationship, it\u2019s probably in your best interest to hear your partner out. However, listening and being receptive to your partner\u2019s concerns doesn\u2019t mean taking the blame for their jealousy.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">If your partner is jealous, they must take ownership of that and recognize it\u2019s their responsibility to come to terms with their feelings, not yours. Healthy relationships, in their rawest form, are about mutual respect, after all. Your partner should not expect you to jump through hoops to address their emotions.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">This doesn\u2019t mean you can treat them with flagrant disregard and still expect to have a relationship. Rather, in the same way they must claim responsibility for their emotions and reactions, you must claim responsibility for your contribution: your actions.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">So, while other people\u2019s feelings are not your issue, if you wish to honor your relationship, helping your partner sift through jealous feelings can bring you closer together. Investing in your mutual future means committing to working together. Conversely, not all relationships are reconcilable. If you\u2019re playing by the rules and your partner is engaging in toxic <\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/www.lelo.com\/blog\/doubt-in-a-relationship\/\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">doubt<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">, you don\u2019t have to walk on eggshells to meet their impossible standards.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Jealousy is an unfortunate affliction, but overcoming it together can be an empowering bonding experience in a relationship. While every case of jealousy is unique (and should be treated as such) all require a supportive and communicative environment in which to heal.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>Jealousy is the common cold of relationships. Universally dreaded, it\u2019s able to strike anyone at any time\u2014usually unexpectedly, under the least convenient circumstances. 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