{"id":31477,"date":"2020-10-09T13:00:16","date_gmt":"2020-10-09T11:00:16","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.lelo.com\/blog\/?p=31477"},"modified":"2020-10-12T19:04:39","modified_gmt":"2020-10-12T17:04:39","slug":"love-languages","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.lelo.com\/blog\/love-languages\/","title":{"rendered":"Strengthen Your Relationship with These 5 Love Languages"},"content":{"rendered":"

While no two couples are the same, there are a few tips and tricks that can definitely make a difference when it comes to having <\/span>a stronger relationship<\/span>.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

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And according to Gary Chapman, a doctor of philosophy, counselor, and author, the key to having a lasting relationship is to know, and make use of, the five love languages.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

Chapman was <\/span>so<\/span><\/i> adamant about these five love languages that he even wrote a self-titled book on it, which has been a <\/span>New York Times Best Seller<\/span><\/i> since 2007. His <\/span>book was initially published in 1992, with a revision in 2015, and has sold over 13 million copies since it was published.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

Bottom line? Gary Chapman seems to know what he\u2019s talking about. Have you heard about the infamous five love languages?<\/span><\/p>\n

The Five Love Languages: What\u2019s the Premise?<\/span><\/h2>\n

Basically, it\u2019s the concept that each individual has one (sometimes more) love language out of the five. The book introduces these five love languages, prompting the reader to decide which one they identify with.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

It also teaches them how to discover their partner\u2019s love language which, in turn, allows them to practice these languages in order to strengthen their relationship.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

What Are the Five Love Languages?<\/span><\/h2>\n

1. Words of Affirmation<\/span><\/h3>\n

People who identify with this love language appreciate frequent <\/span>verbal expressions<\/span> and acknowledgments of affection<\/a>.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

This can be spoken or written, but encompasses things like, <\/span>\u201cI love you,\u201d \u201cYou look beautiful,\u201d<\/span><\/i> or <\/span>\u201cThank you for xyz\u201d. <\/span><\/i>This allows the person to feel respected and valued.<\/span><\/p>\n

2. Acts of Service<\/span><\/h3>\n

People who identify with this love language are grateful when their partner does something thoughtful or nice for them, big or small.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

An example would be receiving your favorite flowers, having the house cleaned when you\u2019re not feeling well or being taken out for a meal.<\/span><\/p>\n

3. Receiving Gifts<\/span><\/h3>\n

People who identify with this love language feel the most loved when their partner buys them things. To them, the symbolism behind said-gift<\/a> is a way for them to feel cherished and valued. This is not necessarily to be mistaken with grand and expensive gestures.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

In fact, the thoughtfulness and emotions behind the <\/span>gift<\/span> is what is equally as important as the gift itself. Even the smallest of things can bring about joy and happiness for people who have this love language.<\/span><\/p>\n

4. Quality Time<\/span><\/h3>\n

People who identify with this love language feel their best when their partner wants to spend time with them. This time could be spent at home or going out on <\/span>fun dates<\/span><\/a>. To them, aspects such as eye contact, active listening and being fully present are important.<\/span><\/p>\n

“This love language is all about giving your undivided attention to that one special person, without the distraction of television, phone screens, or any other outside interference,\u201d<\/span><\/i> says couples\u2019 psychotherapist, Fariha Mahmud-Syed.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

5. Physical Touch<\/span><\/h3>\n

People who identify with this love language feel most adored when they receive physical touch. This is not to be mistaken solely with sex however. This kind of touch involves hand-holding, hugging, kisses<\/a>, <\/span>cuddles<\/span><\/a>\u00a0and sometimes, sex.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

To these individuals, physical touch can be a powerful way in which to connect emotionally with their partner, and for them to feel warmth and comfort.<\/span><\/p>\n

What is Your Love Language?<\/span><\/h2>\n

After learning about the five love languages, which one do you feel is your love language? I ask this because knowing your love language is just as important as knowing your partner\u2019s when it comes to a partnership.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

Knowing yourself and what makes you happy is 50% of the success of your relationship. So, when you\u2019re able to identify your love language, you\u2019ll be better equipped to meet the emotional needs of your partner.<\/span><\/p>\n

You could ask yourself:<\/span><\/p>\n