{"id":32867,"date":"2021-01-23T13:00:24","date_gmt":"2021-01-23T12:00:24","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.lelo.com\/blog\/?p=32867"},"modified":"2021-01-29T12:57:36","modified_gmt":"2021-01-29T11:57:36","slug":"public-orgasms","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.lelo.com\/blog\/public-orgasms\/","title":{"rendered":"Private or Public Orgasms: Climax Anywhere, Anytime without Genital Stimulation"},"content":{"rendered":"

Interestingly, just this week one of my girlfriends admitted that she was able to orgasm without touching herself whilst <\/span>reading erotica<\/span><\/a>. Green with envy, I was made even more aware of just how powerful the mind really is. <\/span>\u201cWhat great timing,\u201d<\/span><\/i> I thought, just in time to write this article.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

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You see, I <\/span>was<\/span><\/i> going to mention all of the ways one might be able to climax in public or private, anywhere, anytime with the help of physical stimulation. I had yet to really consider the weird and wonderful effects of mental sexual stimulation so strong, it could induce pleasure anywhere, anytime.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

And with that, I developed a more well-rounded idea about the ins and outs of experiencing an orgasm in public or private, easily and without actual genital stimulation.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

Some may want it or actively try to achieve it, but there are also some who simply cannot control it, and feel ashamed or embarrassed about it. So, let\u2019s start with the basics…<\/span><\/p>\n

What\u2019s Influencing Your Orgasm?<\/span><\/h2>\n

Inner voice: <\/b>Do you have a positive or a negative self-talk? <\/span>Positive self-talk<\/span><\/a> can help induce feelings of relaxation, lack of judgement, and the ability to let go and simply enjoy pleasure. A negative self-talk however can interfere with one\u2019s ability to orgasm, as they become overwhelmed with aspects concerning themselves and their bodies.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

Sexuality: pleasure or no? <\/b>The way one feels about sexuality can heavily influence their ability to receive pleasure. For example, if one grew up believing that <\/span>sex was a taboo<\/span><\/a>, they may find it more difficult to climax than someone who grew up with a sex-positive attitude.<\/span><\/p>\n

Previous trauma:<\/b> Some people associate sex with a negative experience they may have had in the past, which hinders or prevents them from enjoying sexual activity or reaching climax. Not only that, but if one had grown up in a home that lacked positive reinforcement and love, it may trigger a defense mode when they are exposed to positive or pleasurable experiences.<\/span><\/p>\n

Control: <\/b>do you <\/span>love control<\/span><\/a> or love to lose control? This can make a huge difference in experiencing pleasure. The former could result in one disassociating themselves and disconnecting from their body in order to inhibit feelings of involuntary and pleasurable responses.<\/span><\/p>\n

Want to Orgasm in Public or Private, without Genital Stimulation? Here\u2019s How\u2026<\/span><\/h2>\n

As already established, some individuals are able to climax without physically touching themselves. These people have the ability to use their <\/span>strongest sexual organ, the brain<\/span>, to bring them pleasure.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

And while I do believe I am not one of those people, you may very well be one without even realizing it. So, why not give it a go?\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

Stimulate the Mind<\/span><\/h3>\n

A <\/span>study<\/span><\/a> in fact revealed that women who claimed to be able to climax without physical touch simply by thinking about something sexual really could do it using the power of their minds. Adversely, many women living with sexual dysfunction and\/or who were carrying around mental baggage, found it difficult to orgasm when conjuring up erotic images and thoughts.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

Another <\/span>study<\/span><\/a> conducted by Rutgers University studied Barbara Carrellas, a sexologist, who was asked to think erotic thoughts whilst in an MRI machine. They found that the parts of the brain most active during orgasm began to light up during the study. Meaning, the brain alone appears entirely capable of inducing orgasm without physical stimulation.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

Side note: women have been found to climax from mental thoughts alone much more than men (sorry, guys!).<\/span><\/p>\n

Techniques to climax mentally, according to Carrellas and Dr Ian Kerner PhD, involve using <\/span>breath work<\/span><\/a>: <\/span>“I would encourage people to try to use breath work, concentration and fantasy, but more to enhance their sex life, and less as a means to an end,” <\/span><\/i>says Kerner.<\/span><\/p>\n

While Carrellas says:<\/span><\/p>\n

“When we are young, we learn the ‘quiet and quick’ rule – so that we don’t get caught. And the only way to climax that way is to hold your breath. But actually, one can experience much richer, much more satisfying orgasms by breathing deeply, which is one of the techniques she uses to \u2018think off.\u2019\u201d<\/span><\/i><\/p>\n

Want to Orgasm Anywhere, Anytime? Try These 6 Mental Exercises\u00a0<\/span><\/h3>\n