{"id":33409,"date":"2021-03-22T15:24:00","date_gmt":"2021-03-22T14:24:00","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.lelo.com\/blog\/?p=33409"},"modified":"2021-03-22T15:24:00","modified_gmt":"2021-03-22T14:24:00","slug":"frequently-asked-pegging-questions","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.lelo.com\/blog\/frequently-asked-pegging-questions\/","title":{"rendered":"Dr. Zhana Answers All Your Pegging Questions"},"content":{"rendered":"

Hi everyone, this is Dr. Zhana, and, oh my god, pegging is a popular topic! I got so many questions, I love how curious you all are about it. All right, here we go.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

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What is pegging?<\/h3>\n

First things first – what is pegging? Pegging<\/a> is penetrating someone using a strap-on, which is typically a combination of a harness and a dildo. It can also be done with a harness-free dildo, or it can be done with a handheld vibrator, like a prostate massager<\/a>, which is amazing. The term is often used to refer to anal penetration, but you can peg someone vaginally as well.<\/span><\/p>\n

Is it just for men?<\/h3>\n

No! That\u2019s the greatest thing about pegging! It\u2019s an equal opportunity lover, it doesn\u2019t matter what your gender or genitals are. Everybody can wear a strap-on and everybody has an ass that can receive a strap-on. I\u2019ve pegged men, women, trans folks, you name it. And I\u2019ve been pegged by folks with vaginas and penises.<\/span><\/p>\n

My wife is very apprehensive about it. Thinks it\u2019s odd for a guy to want to be penetrated.<\/h3>\n

This is the biggest problem with pegging, especially in heterosexual relationships. Either the men think it\u2019s \u201cgay\u201d to want to be penetrated or the women think it\u2019s odd or \u201cgay\u201d for their male partner to want to be penetrated. This is really unfortunate.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

The reality is, of course, that there is nothing gay about wanting to be penetrated. An ass is an ass regardless of the gender or the sexual orientation of the person who has it. Some people like their asses stimulated (because it feels amazing!) and some people don\u2019t. Plenty of gay men don\u2019t like to be penetrated and plenty of straight men do! We really need to start disentangling this whole idea of masculinity or heterosexuality from whether you like your ass played with or not. Otherwise, you all are missing out big time on a lot of pleasure you could be having.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

Strong feeling my husband wants to try this and I\u2019m not about it. How do we compromise?<\/h3>\n

It\u2019s hard to answer this question without knowing why you were apprehensive about it and how much flexibility you might have around that. But there are so many different forms of butt play that you could incorporate that is not full-on pegging: There\u2019s ass licking<\/a>, fingering, butt plugs<\/a> etc. Or, if you were open to it, he could go have that need met with another partner or a professional dominatrix.<\/span><\/p>\n

Is it more difficult when [a] man has hairs down there? Or is it irrelevant?<\/h3>\n

Nah, it’s irrelevant. It\u2019s really a personal preference. Some people like hair, some people don\u2019t like hair. But the strap-on will go inside the ass no problem, hair or no hair.<\/span><\/p>\n

What\u2019s in it for the one doing the pegging?<\/h3>\n

That\u2019s a great question and I think the answer is going to depend from person to person. I can tell you what it does for me – I love the visuals from that different angle and perspective. I love the role reversal – I like being penetrated but I also sometimes like to be the one penetrating. Especially with pegging men, I love knowing that the man I\u2019m penetrating has freed himself from the societal bullshit that tells him he shouldn\u2019t want that. And there\u2019s also direct stimulation to my clit in certain positions that I get as well.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

Do you have to be a domme if you\u2019re pegging?\u00a0<\/span><\/h3>\n

People often think pegging has to be done in this domination\/submission<\/a> context, but it really doesn\u2019t. You can certainly do it that way, and it\u2019s a lot of fun! But I\u2019ve also had partners that were very dominant, they just wanted to get fucked in the ass.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

I recently started prostate play, is pegging a next-level sensation?<\/h3>\n

Welcome to the world of prostate play! I\u2019m so envious, I wish I had a prostate so I knew what that felt like! Certainly pegging can be the next step on that journey. Doesn\u2019t have to be, you can explore your prostate<\/a> in other ways, but it certainly can.<\/span><\/p>\n

My male partner indicated an interest in pegging! Fun! How do we get started?<\/h3>\n

Pegging men is anal sex and like with all forms of anal sex, you start slow. Maybe with some other anal play activities like ass licking or rimming, fingers, butt plugs, smaller things in there.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

Does LELO have a recommendable toy for pegging with harnesses?<\/h3>\n

Lelo makes vibrators and prostate massagers like these three that I love – Billy<\/a>, Hugo<\/a>, and Loki<\/a>. LELO doesn\u2019t make nonvibrating dildos and harnesses.<\/span><\/p>\n

Would a prostate massager be a good tool to work your way into a pegging session?<\/h3>\n

Absolutely!<\/span><\/p>\n

First-time positions?<\/h3>\n

I tend to start either in missionary, because you can see your partner and how they\u2019re reacting, or from behind. Both give a lot of control to the pegger (the person doing the pegging). And if the peggee (the person getting pegged) wants more control, then them on top, cowgirl\/boy-style is a great one.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

How do I start the conversation with my boyfriend about wanting to peg him?<\/h3>\n

I would probably start not with pegging but with something that\u2019s like ass licking or having a finger. I often ask partners if they like their ass played with, and\/or as I\u2019m going down on them, I\u2019ll make my way toward their butt and see how they react to that. Way more often than not, the reaction is quite positive.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

How to brooch the subject with a long-term partner when no mention has ever been made?<\/h3>\n

Lots of different ways to bring it up. Just make sure you ask or offer it very excitedly. For example, \u201cThere\u2019s been something I\u2019ve been thinking \/ fantasizing about\u2026\u201d or \u201cThere\u2019s something we\u2019ve never done that\u2019s a huge turn-on for me, it would be so hot to do it\u201d.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

If they\u2019re not immediately enthusiastic, be patient, give them some time to mull it over and bring it up some other time. You talk about how much you love anal play and so on.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

And it\u2019s always a good idea to educate yourself and your partners as much as possible and destigmatize it for people who might have hang-ups about it for whatever reasons. So maybe watch pegging porn together, find an article to read, or find a sex-positive community you can be a part of.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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