{"id":33634,"date":"2021-04-10T13:00:16","date_gmt":"2021-04-10T11:00:16","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.lelo.com\/blog\/?p=33634"},"modified":"2026-02-18T06:02:45","modified_gmt":"2026-02-18T05:02:45","slug":"what-does-sex-feel-like","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.lelo.com\/blog\/what-does-sex-feel-like\/","title":{"rendered":"What Does Sex Feel Like? Everything You\u2019ve Ever Wanted to Know"},"content":{"rendered":"<p><a href=\"https:\/\/www.lelo.com\/blog\/author\/lauriemintz\/\"><img decoding=\"async\" class=\"doctor-banner alignnone wp-image-47728 size-full\" src=\"https:\/\/www.lelo.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/02\/laurie-mintz-doctor-review-banner-white.jpg\" alt=\"lelo laurie mintz doctor review\" width=\"270\" height=\"90\" \/><\/a><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Sex is truly a fascinating thing. Before you have sex for the first time, it seems like this wonderful, mysterious thing that will change your life.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Being sexually aroused feels good, and the orgasms you give yourself during masturbation sessions are great. But then you start wondering: what does sex feel like with another person involved?\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Understanding the sexual attraction, <\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/www.lelo.com\/blog\/men-vs-women-why-and-how-do-we-experience-sexual-arousal\/\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">what makes you aroused<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">, or how penetration feels can be difficult to grasp. There are plenty of different sensations and hormones involved, and it can be overwhelming at first.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">So, let\u2019s get down to the basics first \u2013 what do we mean by sex? While in our culture, we often use the words sex and intercourse as if they were one and the same, this is heteronormative and also privileges male sexuality in that the vast majority of women do not orgasm from penetration alone.\u00a0 So, when understanding what sex feels like, it\u2019s important to think of sex as any act which results in arousal and orgasm and not think of just penetration.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Ok, then, let\u2019s discuss some of the science behind sexual pleasure:\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n<h2><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Why Do I Feel Like Having Sex?<\/span><\/h2>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">There are hundreds of reasons why we feel like having sex. The most basic reason is our need to procreate. According to sex therapist and associate <\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/www.webmd.com\/sex-relationships\/guide\/why-people-have-sex#1\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Northwestern University professor Richard A. Carroll<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">, we\u2019re wired to crave sex: \u201cWe are programmed to do so. Asking why people have sex is akin to asking why we eat. Our brains are designed to motivate us toward that behavior.\u201d<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">However, we\u2019re not living in the old times when the most important thing for humans was to extend their bloodlines and birth heirs to carry on the family name. And more often than not, we have sex because it simply feels good.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Our brain and hormones control our desire to have sex. And while pleasure comes from stimulating our sex organs, our brain is actually the one organ that plays the most important part in why we feel like having sex.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">When you\u2019re aroused, your brain releases serotonin, which is the so-called happiness hormone that makes you feel good, and dopamine, which is a hormone responsible for making you want to seek a reward for a certain activity, for example, sexual stimulation.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">As humans, we are wired to seek out things and activities that make us feel good, and sex is one of those activities.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n<h2><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">So, What Does Sex Feel Like?<\/span><\/h2>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">The way that sex feels varies from person to person. It depends on your gender, mood, sexual preferences, and even age. Most likely, what sex feels like in your early twenties will be different from what it will feel like when you\u2019re in your <\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/www.lelo.com\/blog\/senior-sex-frisky-fifties-sensual-sixties-beyond\/\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">late sixties<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Sex and sexuality are things that require a learning curve, and sex gets better the more of it you have and the more you get to know your body.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Also, different types of sex bring out different sensations. For example, pleasure from anal sex will vary from the pleasure you feel during vaginal sex because different organs and spots are stimulated during each activity, and they might feel differently. Likewise, how you feel receiving oral sex will be different than how you feel during penis-in-vagina sex.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">What sex feels like might differ whether you\u2019re in a relationship and having sex with someone you love or whether it\u2019s just a one-night stand. Many people agree that sex feels way better when you\u2019re doing it with a person you love and trust versus a stranger.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">There are four so-called stages of a sexual act, and each has different sensations:\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n<h3><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">1. Excitement<\/span><\/h3>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">During this stage, you might experience increased muscle tension, increased heart rate, and flushed skin.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">This is also the time when your nipples get hard, women\u2019s breasts feel fuller, and the vagina gets wet as well as the penis hardens.<\/span><\/p>\n<h3><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">2. Plateau<\/span><\/h3>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">During the second stage, the increased muscle tension intensifies your breathing and heart rate increases as well.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">For women, their clitoris might become extremely sensitive, and sometimes it can even become painful to the touch. For men, their testicles pull up into the scrotum.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n<h3><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">3. <\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/www.lelo.com\/blog\/orgasms-101-understanding-climax\/\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Orgasm<\/span><\/a><\/h3>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">The big O \u2013 the culmination of the sexual act is stage three. During this time, both women and men experience muscle contractions, mostly around their sex organs. However, it can occur anywhere in our bodies.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">This is the moment when you feel the sudden and powerful sexual release, flush, and a wave of tingles going through your body.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Fun fact \u2013 women can continue and experience multiple orgasms during this stage; however, most men cannot keep going and need a break in between sexual stimulation.<\/span><\/p>\n<h3><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">4. Resolution<\/span><\/h3>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">The final stage of the sexual act, when your body returns to its normal and calm state.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">There is an increased feeling of happiness, relaxation and most people feel pleasant fatigue.<\/span><\/p>\n<h2><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Does Sex Hurt?<\/span><\/h2>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">No, sex shouldn\u2019t hurt. However, if you\u2019ve never had penetrative sex before, you might experience uncomfortable feelings and slight pain during sex. Still, this is avoidable and not all first time penetrative sex hurts. Engage in plenty of pre-intercourse arousal and use lube!<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Also, don\u2019t be shy about using lube if natural lubrication from the vagina is not enough and penetration feels painful. The same goes for anal sex \u2014 you want to make sure that you\u2019re using enough lube and you\u2019re aroused before engaging in the activity.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Now, some people love to mix their pleasure with a dash of pain, which means that they might bite during oral sex or want to go rougher during penetration. All sexual preferences are fine. Just make sure that you\u2019re communicating with your partner before the act and are on the same page about your sexual preferences and pain tolerance level.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Also, certain medical conditions like endometriosis can make penetration painful. If you have one of those conditions, make sure to speak with your doctor for tips on how to be comfortable during sex and always listen to your body. Likewise, if you are experiencing pain or difficulty during penetration or any kind of sex, see a certified sexual medicine practitioner.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n<h2><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">What Does Sex Feel Like for Women?<\/span><\/h2>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Each of our bodies is different, and what sex feels like for you and your friend will vary greatly. However, we\u2019ve scoured the internet and found women sharing their experience of what sex feels like for women.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">What sex feels like according to a woman who has penetrative sex:\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n<p><i><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">\u201cIf you\u2019re not fully in the mood, then the act of penetration can feel like nothing remarkable. I\u2019ve had sex where I felt nothing and could\u2019ve concentrated on reading a book if I wanted. If you are in the mood, it\u2019s intense and gives you tingles all the way up into your stomach, all about blood flow?\u201d \u2014 source, Reddit<\/span><\/i><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">What penetrative sex\u00a0 feels like for a women without a condom:\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n<p><i><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">\u201cYeah, I personally don\u2019t feel the difference when my bf uses the condom vs. not using one. Sex lasts longer, so we got that going.\u201d \u2014 source, Reddit<\/span><\/i><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">What penetrative sex feels like for a trans woman after the surgery:\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n<p><i><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">\u201cSo, I had a vaginoplasty. It feels different: it feels better for me, personally. It only hurts because my doctor mis-positioned it slightly, and I didn\u2019t have a lot of material, so it\u2019s very tight. Lube helps a lot. I can orgasm, and it is nice. &lt;\u2026&gt; It takes me longer to get there. The orgasm itself is much more intense than what I used to have.\u201d \u2014 source, Reddit<\/span><\/i><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Sex is a whole heap of different sensations:\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n<p><i><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">\u201cHmm, well, it really depends what kind of sex you\u2019re having, but really it feels all sorts of the following: warm, tingling, sharp, shivery, hot, waves of temperature, slowly building from toes to head orgasm or slap you in the face surprise orgasm, soft, wet, hard, sweaty, full, twisting, grinding, sensual\u2026\u00a0<\/span><\/i><\/p>\n<p><i><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Now, if you\u2019re asking what actual penis-entering-vagina actually feels like\u2026 hard to explain, but when my husband\u2019s penis actually enters me, it\u2019s like pop! Like if you make a popping noise with your finger in your mouth but backward. I\u2019m not sure if that makes sense.\u00a0<\/span><\/i><\/p>\n<p><i><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">For me, the vagina isn\u2019t a void, so when a penis goes from rubbing against my labia to actually entering, it\u2019s just pop!, sigh, and then the real fun begins. Seriously, this is hard to describe. It\u2019s just all sorts of awesome, I guess.\u201d \u2014 source, Reddit<\/span><\/i><\/p>\n<h2><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">What Does Sex Feel Like for Men?<\/span><\/h2>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">There is a huge misconception about men\u2019s pleasure. We tend to think that only a penis needs stimulation to provide sexual pleasure for men, but there is so much more.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Men have the penis that feels good when stimulated and the balls and <\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/www.lelo.com\/blog\/why-anal-and-prostate-play-is-worth-exploring\/\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">prostate, which can be stimulated both from inside and outside<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> and provide different sensations.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">We\u2019ve found what sex feels like for men on the internet, and it\u2019s truly fascinating to hear how men feel about sex and pleasure.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">\u00a0What sex feels like according to a man who has sex with men:\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n<p><i><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">\u201cFrom a [top] male perspective, it feels warm and wet. Then, it feels like you have to pee right badly, then you just let go and cum. It feels like peeing, but there\u2019s a definite difference. I\u2019ve not managed to convince my bum to relax enough to bottom and have someone cum in me [yet]. No weird stories from me, as of now. Advice: lubricate.\u201d \u2014 source, Reddit<\/span><\/i><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">How does sex with a woman feel different from masturbation for a man:<\/span><\/p>\n<p><i><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">\u201cHonestly, the arousal-buildup-release pattern is similar to masturbation. What differs is that the vagina is much better than your hand due to lubrication, warmth, and grip. It\u2019s not as tight as you would think. Initially, it is. You might even have trouble putting your penis into the vagina initially, but the vagina adapts in size. Then it\u2019s not that tight anymore. Finally, sex has the advantage of emotional foreplay or stimulation because it\u2019s a person as opposed to just your hands.\u201d \u2014 source, Reddit<\/span><\/i><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">What vaginal sex feels like for men:<\/span><\/p>\n<p><i><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">\u201cThe simple answer is like filling instead of being filled. And when I\u2019m super hard, and she\u2019s cumming or close to cumming, it feels really powerful, like wielding a potent instrument of pleasure.<\/span><\/i><\/p>\n<p><i><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Going slow and deep is magnificent. Just being so far inside her, pulling back, and slowly sliding balls-deep again feels goddamn amazing. But I know it feels amazing to her too.<\/span><\/i><\/p>\n<p><i><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Yeah, basically comes down to the sensation of filling someone up and being in control of what they\u2019re feeling, the rhythm and intensity of their pleasure.\u201d \u2014 source, Reddit<\/span><\/i><\/p>\n<p><a href=\"https:\/\/www.lelo.com\/blog\/circumcised-vs-uncircumcised-is-there-a-difference\/\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">What does sex feel like with a circumcised vs. uncircumcised penis?<\/span><\/a><\/p>\n<p><i><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">\u201cI had a foreskin up until 3 years ago. The difference is there is no real need for lube. You put your cock on the opening of the vagina, and as you push in, the foreskin rolls back as your penis enters the wet area of the vagina easily. I used to be able to make my wife cum in about 2 minutes. Now it takes ages. Sex is still fun. It\u2019s just different.\u201d \u2014 source, Reddit<\/span><\/i><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Remember: these are just\u00a0 a few quotes about a few different sexual situations. You may or may not relate<\/span><i><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">.\u00a0\u00a0<\/span><\/i><\/p>\n<h3>There are Many Great Things to Experience<\/h3>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Sex can be great, and there are a lot of pleasurable sensations that come with it.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">However, if at first sex doesn\u2019t feel as great as you would have hoped, don\u2019t be upset. Remember that there is a learning curve!\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">So, remember to explore different sensations and communicate with your partner to increase your chances of experiencing mind-blowing pleasure.<\/span><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>Sex is truly a fascinating thing. Before you have sex for the first time, it seems like this wonderful, mysterious thing that will change your life.\u00a0 Being sexually aroused feels good, and the orgasms you give yourself during masturbation sessions are great. But then you start wondering: what does sex feel like with another person involved?\u00a0 Understanding the sexual attraction, what makes you aroused, or how penetration feels can be difficult to grasp. 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