{"id":34066,"date":"2021-05-11T13:00:04","date_gmt":"2021-05-11T11:00:04","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.lelo.com\/blog\/?p=34066"},"modified":"2024-11-18T04:12:39","modified_gmt":"2024-11-18T03:12:39","slug":"what-is-sub-drop","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.lelo.com\/blog\/what-is-sub-drop\/","title":{"rendered":"What Is \u201cSub Drop\u201d? And How To Deal with It?"},"content":{"rendered":"<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Have you ever experienced an emotional or physical high so great that it made coming back to the real world seem difficult? Some people with experience using drugs can attest to it, as it causes a rush of serotonin or dopamine that then needs to be replenished over the following days, leaving the person feeling drained or emotionally raw. Oddly enough, this is also a phenomenon in the convention-going community, referred to as \u2018Con Drop\u2019 in which they feel burned out and irritable in the days following a convention.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><img fetchpriority=\"high\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"aligncenter size-full wp-image-34067\" src=\"https:\/\/www.lelo.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/05\/sub-drop.jpeg\" alt=\"sub drop\" width=\"660\" height=\"330\" srcset=\"https:\/\/www.lelo.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/05\/sub-drop.jpeg 660w, https:\/\/www.lelo.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/05\/sub-drop-300x150.jpeg 300w\" sizes=\"(max-width: 660px) 100vw, 660px\" \/><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">For enjoyers of BDSM, Sub Drop tends to follow in the hours or even a day or two after a particularly heavy or intense session in which their system gets flooded with endorphins. I say hours or days after because everyone\u2019s metabolic rate is different and processes excess levels of endorphins and dopamine over varying lengths of time.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">You may not even notice that you\u2019re experiencing Sub Drop after an intense BDSM scene until you need to deal with something stressful and find that it\u2019s affecting you more than it normally would. Otherwise, you may find yourself more irritable than normal, or perhaps needing to be alone or surrounded by people. It\u2019s different for everyone, but the bottom line is that someone experiencing Sub Drop will find themselves acting or reacting in ways that they normally don\u2019t.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">It\u2019s just like depression in that your body is trying to reboot its normal levels of stress and happiness hormones. The hormones that tend to be at play prior to and during the Sub Drop can be:<\/span><\/p>\n<ul>\n<li style=\"font-weight: 400;\" aria-level=\"1\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"><strong>Endorphins &amp; Enkephalins:<\/strong> Your body produces both of these to mitigate pain, at the same time causing euphoria.\u00a0<\/span><\/li>\n<li style=\"font-weight: 400;\" aria-level=\"1\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"><strong>Epinephrine:<\/strong> AKA adrenaline, which is a bodily response to stress. To your primal brain, the pain being inflicted during a BDSM session isn\u2019t so much different from, say, a bobcat attack and it responds in a way that it thinks is appropriate.<\/span><\/li>\n<li style=\"font-weight: 400;\" aria-level=\"1\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"><strong>Dopamine:<\/strong> the pleasure hormone that our brain releases when it anticipates a reward like climax or acceptance. Some people experience a dopamine rush from pain, which is why BDSM works for some, but not all, people.<\/span><\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">So while you or a partner is waiting for these hormones and natural opioids to replenish, what can you do to keep your spirits up or otherwise just feel a little more even-keeled? This is where Sub Drop Aftercare comes in.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><b>Sub Drop Afterc<\/b><b>a<\/b><b>re<\/b><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Just like <\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/www.lelo.com\/blog\/importance-trust-bdsm\/\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">BDSM boundaries<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> and <\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/www.lelo.com\/blog\/deciding-hard-limits-safe-words\/\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">safe words<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> need to be established between partners trying to mix some pain with their pleasure, so too does a framework of <a href=\"https:\/\/www.lelo.com\/blog\/bdsm-beginners-aftercare\/\">BDSM aftercare<\/a> in which you are attuned to the needs of the submissive partner when the session is done. If they seem distant or irritable in the hours or days after, here are some of the things you can do for them.<\/span><\/p>\n<p>Remember that it is temporary. For partners experiencing Sub Drop, it\u2019s important to keep in mind the perspective that it is a short-term state they are going through as their bodies replenish themselves.<\/p>\n<p>Some Subs even keep an Aftercare Kit full of things like sugary snacks, <a href=\"https:\/\/www.lelo.com\/blog\/flickering-touch-massage-candle-review\/\">scented candles<\/a>, even a pair of warm &amp; fuzzy socks to keep them feeling calm in the meantime.<\/p>\n<p>Be with them, be around them, or totally ignore them. Some Subs require extra attention and affection during this time, while others will want to be left alone to deal with their feelings themselves. Others still will want the presence of a person without any interaction &#8212; just sharing space in a together-but-solitary way. The one going through the Sub Drop always chooses the way he or she wants to deal with feelings and has to <a href=\"https:\/\/www.lelo.com\/blog\/communication-as-a-tool-for-better-sex\/\">communicate them to the partner.<\/a><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>Have you ever experienced an emotional or physical high so great that it made coming back to the real world seem difficult? Some people with experience using drugs can attest to it, as it causes a rush of serotonin or dopamine that then needs to be replenished over the following days, leaving the person feeling drained or emotionally raw. Oddly enough, this is also a phenomenon in the convention-going community, referred to as \u2018Con Drop\u2019 in which they feel burned [&hellip;]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":101,"featured_media":34067,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_acf_changed":false,"footnotes":""},"categories":[918,11],"tags":[347],"coauthors":[951],"class_list":["post-34066","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-bdsm","category-sex-terms","tag-bdsm"],"acf":[],"yoast_head":"<!-- This site is optimized with the Yoast SEO plugin v24.8.1 - https:\/\/yoast.com\/wordpress\/plugins\/seo\/ -->\n<title>What is \u201cSub Drop\u201d? And How To Deal with It?<\/title>\n<meta name=\"description\" content=\"BDSM sub-drop is the emotional downturn that a sub experiences after a particularly heavy BDSM scene. 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