{"id":34084,"date":"2021-05-15T13:00:00","date_gmt":"2021-05-15T11:00:00","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.lelo.com\/blog\/?p=34084"},"modified":"2021-09-22T08:12:31","modified_gmt":"2021-09-22T06:12:31","slug":"things-to-know-about-blowjobs","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.lelo.com\/blog\/things-to-know-about-blowjobs\/","title":{"rendered":"What You Should Know Before Your First Blowjob"},"content":{"rendered":"

So, you\u2019re just about ready to give your first blowjob. Before we start, we feel that congratulations are in order so — congrats! You\u2019re about to embark on a whole new dimension of sexuality that can be very fulfilling, assuming that your partner returns the favor (and they most definitely <\/span>should<\/span>) and pretty soon, you\u2019ll be the one with advice to give.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

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By reading this post, you\u2019re doing the right thing: before embarking on a new erotic endeavor like <\/span>giving a blowjob<\/span><\/a>, it\u2019s best to pull tips and advice from different places and people. However ,once you get the hang of it, you\u2019re going to discard and take on information as you see fit and eventually develop techniques that are totally your own. This leads us to our first little tidbit to keep in mind, whether it is your first blowjob or your fiftieth:<\/span><\/p>\n

You\u2019re the one in control<\/span><\/h3>\n

As the giver in this scenario, you\u2019re the one who decides things like pace and tempo — and even the depth — of the blowjob being given. If something doesn\u2019t feel right, or even if in the midst of things you\u2019re thinking that this particular sex act isn\u2019t for you, just stop. On the whole, guys will understand if it\u2019s simply something you don\u2019t do and if they\u2019re the type to try to \u2018talk you into\u2019 or otherwise pressure you for a blowjob, feel free to drop their toxic ass.<\/span><\/p>\n

Cottonmouth is a real blowjob barrier<\/span><\/h3>\n

Having a drink or two before giving a blowjob can make it a real chore, as alcohol can contribute to having a dry mouth. And a dry mouth can really get in the way of you having a good time while going down, not to mention his enjoyment as well. This is likewise true if you\u2019re <\/span>mixing sex with marijuana<\/span><\/a>. However whether you\u2019ve imbibed beforehand or if you\u2019re just a touch dehydrated, there are ways around this particular problem. Keeping some chewing gum or hard sour candies on hand can kick-start your saliva glands, as can swishing a xylitol-based mouthwash for a few moments (avoid the alcohol-based mouthwashes which can contribute to dryness) before going downtown.<\/span><\/p>\n

Take your time<\/span><\/h3>\n

Don\u2019t just blast through the BJ to get it done as fast as you can. To be honest, if you\u2019re rushing things just to get it over with, maybe you shouldn’t be doing it in the first place. He certainly doesn\u2019t want you to rush (or feel rushed, for that matter) and seeing him enjoying your efforts can be a huge turn-on for you, the provider of the oral pleasure.<\/span><\/p>\n

Focus on the journey, not the destination<\/span><\/h3>\n

Know that for a lot of guys, a blowjob is foreplay, not the main event. What we mean to say is that a lot of men don\u2019t climax from blowjobs but still enjoy the sensation. So if he doesn\u2019t come, don\u2019t be disappointed. Hopefully though, you\u2019ve both communicated about this beforehand (and during) to find out what works and what perhaps doesn\u2019t. Which leads us to our last and perhaps most important piece of advice for blowjobs, as well as any sexual act\u2026<\/span><\/p>\n

The 3 C\u2019s: Communicate, Communicate, Communicate!<\/span><\/h3>\n

Let him know what you\u2019re comfortable with, and have him do the same. Set boundaries, focusing on what you are willing to do more than what you aren\u2019t willing to do. Find out if he even likes blowjobs (there are some guys who don\u2019t) and if he usually climaxes from them. Ask if he\u2019s going to return the favor — because of course he should. During the blowjob, this communication<\/a> should continue as you find out what\u2019s working and what isn\u2019t.<\/span><\/p>\n

Above all, just relax and get started using some of this advice. You may even find you\u2019re enjoying your first blowjob as much as he is!<\/span><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

So, you\u2019re just about ready to give your first blowjob. Before we start, we feel that congratulations are in order so — congrats! You\u2019re about to embark on a whole new dimension of sexuality that can be very fulfilling, assuming that your partner returns the favor (and they most definitely should) and pretty soon, you\u2019ll be the one with advice to give.\u00a0 By reading this post, you\u2019re doing the right thing: before embarking on a new erotic endeavor like giving […]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":101,"featured_media":34085,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_acf_changed":false,"footnotes":""},"categories":[915],"tags":[865,541],"coauthors":[951],"class_list":["post-34084","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-oral-sex","tag-blow-job","tag-oral-sex"],"acf":[],"yoast_head":"\nI\u2019m going to give my first blowjob. 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