{"id":359,"date":"2013-10-14T07:41:07","date_gmt":"2013-10-14T07:41:07","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.lelo.com\/blog\/?p=359"},"modified":"2026-03-05T21:40:35","modified_gmt":"2026-03-05T20:40:35","slug":"ideal-time-spend-making-love","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.lelo.com\/blog\/ideal-time-spend-making-love\/","title":{"rendered":"How Long Should Sex Last?"},"content":{"rendered":"<p>Luckily, we all have different likes and turn ons and we all derive sexual satisfaction in different ways, so the topic of the ideal duration for intercourse remains a fairly subjective one.<\/p>\n<p>And while the last thing we\u2019re suggesting is that we all get busy to the accompaniment of a ticking stopwatch, the fact remains that in order for men and women to glean shared sexual gratification together, we all need to give it time.<br \/>\nThough it\u2019s probably not as much as you previously thought.<\/p>\n<h2>Sex Duration Facts<\/h2>\n<p><b style=\"line-height: 1.5em;\"><\/b>In 2005, American physician Dr. Irwin Goldstein conducted a survey of 1,500 couples to determine the average duration of their lovemaking sessions. The result? 7.3 minutes, which we reckon is a lot less than certain aspects of modern popular culture have lead us to believe.<\/p>\n<p>Then, three years later, Dr. Eric Corty, another American, published the findings of a study carried out on 50 couples to determine the length of time they would <i>like <\/i>their lusty liaisons \u2013 that is to say, from penetration to ejaculation \u2013 to last. The findings showed:<\/p>\n<ul>\n<li><strong>Between 1 and 2 minutes:<\/strong> no prizes for guessing that the partaking couples judged this to be \u2018too short.\u2019<\/li>\n<li><b style=\"line-height: 1.5em;\">Between 3 and 7 minutes: <\/b><span style=\"line-height: 1.5em;\">they judged this length of time as \u2018satisfactory.\u2019<\/span><\/li>\n<li><b style=\"line-height: 1.5em;\">Between 7 and 13 minutes: <\/b><span style=\"line-height: 1.5em;\">this was deemed the \u2018ideal\u2019 duration.<\/span><\/li>\n<li><b style=\"line-height: 1.5em;\">Over 13 minutes: <\/b><span style=\"line-height: 1.5em;\">this is where our couples began thinking that the whole thing was going on a little \u2018too long.\u2019<\/span><\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<h2>Foreplay Facts<\/h2>\n<p><b><\/b>It takes men somewhere between three and five minutes to orgasm and women considerably more, so if your aim is to crack the holy grail and <a title=\"How to Orgasm at the Same Time\" href=\"https:\/\/www.lelo.com\/blog\/orgasm-time\/\">enjoy a shared climax<\/a>, he needs to hold back a bit.<\/p>\n<p>With that and the above stats in mind, a great way to help him is to encourage him to focus more attention on <a title=\"5 Female Erogenous Zones\" href=\"https:\/\/www.lelo.com\/blog\/hot-spots-erogenous-zones-women\/\">her erogenous zones<\/a> during foreplay, as studies suggest it takes women somewhere between ten and thirty minutes to become fully aroused.<\/p>\n<p>Picking out all the best bits during the entree should work wonders when it comes to enjoying the main course later on.<\/p>\n<h2>The Math Is Mathing<\/h2>\n<p><b><\/b>So now that we\u2019ve dazzled you with the kind of science that would have actually had you paying attention in high school, it\u2019s time to do a little math too.<\/p>\n<p>Ten to 30 minutes of foreplay in addition to between seven and 13 minutes of sex means the ideal length of time a session should last is anywhere between 17 and 43 minutes, depending on your penchant for foreplay and of course the main event itself.<\/p>\n<p>We guess that means there\u2019s no such thing as the up all night sex sessions we read about so often in all the gossip pages and that the ideal duration for making love is simply as long as those who are doing it say it is.<\/p>\n<p>So whether it\u2019s your fifteen minutes of fame or just seven minutes in heaven, everyone gets their time to shine at some point. How long will yours last?<\/p>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p style=\"text-align: center;\"><strong>Enjoy 15% off <a href=\"https:\/\/www.lelo.com\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\">LELO.com<\/a> with code <span style=\"color: #800080;\">VOLONTE15<\/span><\/strong><\/p>\n<p style=\"text-align: center;\"><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>Luckily, we all have different likes and turn ons and we all derive sexual satisfaction in different ways, so the topic of the ideal duration for intercourse remains a fairly subjective one. And while the last thing we\u2019re suggesting is that we all get busy to the accompaniment of a ticking stopwatch, the fact remains that in order for men and women to glean shared sexual gratification together, we all need to give it time. Though it\u2019s probably not as [&hellip;]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":44,"featured_media":42392,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_acf_changed":false,"footnotes":""},"categories":[21],"tags":[127,129],"coauthors":[950],"class_list":["post-359","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-sex-tips-advice","tag-intercourse-duration","tag-lovemaking"],"acf":[],"yoast_head":"<!-- This site is optimized with the Yoast SEO plugin v24.8.1 - https:\/\/yoast.com\/wordpress\/plugins\/seo\/ -->\n<title>The Average Length of Sex: LELO Answers Your Questions<\/title>\n<meta name=\"description\" content=\"A much-debated topic amongst men and women everywhere, LELO gets to the bottom of how long the ideal sex session really lasts\" \/>\n<meta name=\"robots\" content=\"index, follow, max-snippet:-1, max-image-preview:large, max-video-preview:-1\" \/>\n<link rel=\"canonical\" href=\"https:\/\/www.lelo.com\/blog\/ideal-time-spend-making-love\/\" \/>\n<meta property=\"og:locale\" content=\"en_US\" \/>\n<meta property=\"og:type\" content=\"article\" \/>\n<meta property=\"og:title\" content=\"The Average Length of Sex: LELO Answers Your Questions\" \/>\n<meta property=\"og:description\" content=\"A much-debated topic amongst men and women everywhere, LELO gets to the bottom of how long the ideal sex session really lasts\" \/>\n<meta property=\"og:url\" content=\"https:\/\/www.lelo.com\/blog\/ideal-time-spend-making-love\/\" \/>\n<meta property=\"og:site_name\" content=\"Volont\u00e9\" \/>\n<meta property=\"article:publisher\" content=\"https:\/\/www.facebook.com\/LELO.Official\/\" \/>\n<meta property=\"article:published_time\" content=\"2013-10-14T07:41:07+00:00\" \/>\n<meta property=\"article:modified_time\" content=\"2026-03-05T20:40:35+00:00\" \/>\n<meta property=\"og:image\" content=\"https:\/\/www.lelo.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2013\/10\/how-long-should-sex-be.jpg\" \/>\n\t<meta property=\"og:image:width\" content=\"850\" \/>\n\t<meta property=\"og:image:height\" content=\"425\" \/>\n\t<meta property=\"og:image:type\" content=\"image\/jpeg\" \/>\n<meta name=\"author\" content=\"Katy Thorn\" \/>\n<meta name=\"twitter:card\" content=\"summary_large_image\" \/>\n<meta name=\"twitter:creator\" content=\"@Lelo_Official\" \/>\n<meta name=\"twitter:site\" content=\"@Lelo_Official\" \/>\n<meta name=\"twitter:label1\" content=\"Written by\" \/>\n\t<meta name=\"twitter:data1\" content=\"Katy Thorn\" \/>\n\t<meta name=\"twitter:label2\" content=\"Est. reading time\" \/>\n\t<meta name=\"twitter:data2\" content=\"3 minutes\" \/>\n<script type=\"application\/ld+json\" class=\"yoast-schema-graph\">{\"@context\":\"https:\/\/schema.org\",\"@graph\":[{\"@type\":\"WebPage\",\"@id\":\"https:\/\/www.lelo.com\/blog\/ideal-time-spend-making-love\/\",\"url\":\"https:\/\/www.lelo.com\/blog\/ideal-time-spend-making-love\/\",\"name\":\"The Average Length of Sex: LELO Answers Your Questions\",\"isPartOf\":{\"@id\":\"https:\/\/www.lelo.com\/blog\/#website\"},\"primaryImageOfPage\":{\"@id\":\"https:\/\/www.lelo.com\/blog\/ideal-time-spend-making-love\/#primaryimage\"},\"image\":{\"@id\":\"https:\/\/www.lelo.com\/blog\/ideal-time-spend-making-love\/#primaryimage\"},\"thumbnailUrl\":\"https:\/\/www.lelo.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2013\/10\/how-long-should-sex-be.jpg\",\"datePublished\":\"2013-10-14T07:41:07+00:00\",\"dateModified\":\"2026-03-05T20:40:35+00:00\",\"author\":{\"@id\":\"https:\/\/www.lelo.com\/blog\/#\/schema\/person\/68fd3f91f3030cf2e5f30b74d1b3026d\"},\"description\":\"A much-debated topic amongst men and women everywhere, LELO gets to the bottom of how long the ideal sex session really lasts\",\"breadcrumb\":{\"@id\":\"https:\/\/www.lelo.com\/blog\/ideal-time-spend-making-love\/#breadcrumb\"},\"inLanguage\":\"en-US\",\"potentialAction\":[{\"@type\":\"ReadAction\",\"target\":[\"https:\/\/www.lelo.com\/blog\/ideal-time-spend-making-love\/\"]}]},{\"@type\":\"ImageObject\",\"inLanguage\":\"en-US\",\"@id\":\"https:\/\/www.lelo.com\/blog\/ideal-time-spend-making-love\/#primaryimage\",\"url\":\"https:\/\/www.lelo.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2013\/10\/how-long-should-sex-be.jpg\",\"contentUrl\":\"https:\/\/www.lelo.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2013\/10\/how-long-should-sex-be.jpg\",\"width\":850,\"height\":425,\"caption\":\"how long should sex last\"},{\"@type\":\"BreadcrumbList\",\"@id\":\"https:\/\/www.lelo.com\/blog\/ideal-time-spend-making-love\/#breadcrumb\",\"itemListElement\":[{\"@type\":\"ListItem\",\"position\":1,\"name\":\"Volonte\",\"item\":\"https:\/\/www.lelo.com\/blog\/\"},{\"@type\":\"ListItem\",\"position\":2,\"name\":\"Sex Tips &amp; 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