{"id":36478,"date":"2021-07-24T13:00:45","date_gmt":"2021-07-24T11:00:45","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.lelo.com\/blog\/?p=36478"},"modified":"2021-10-07T09:57:01","modified_gmt":"2021-10-07T07:57:01","slug":"self-pleasure-better-partnered-sex","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.lelo.com\/blog\/self-pleasure-better-partnered-sex\/","title":{"rendered":"Self-Pleasure Is the Key to a Better Partnered Sex"},"content":{"rendered":"

Being single usually has a fairly sad undertone for many people. Movies and media had shaped a certain image of how the life of single people looks like, with tons of Ben & Jerry’s ice cream or endless booze on Friday nights and questionable sex life.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

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But in real life, being single doesn’t have to be weird and awkward and sad. In fact, being single can be the best time to work on yourself, discover new hobbies, and even explore your own sexuality better.<\/span><\/p>\n

Sexologist <\/span>Dr. Megan Stubbs<\/span> is one of those people who are here to break the stigma surrounding singlehood and show people that you can, in fact, enjoy your life and sex while single.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

In her new book, <\/span>Playing Without a Partner: A Single’s Guide to Sex, Dating, and Happiness<\/span><\/i>, she talks about the importance of self-pleasure and how to use your time being single to explore things you haven’t explored before.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

Forget the Stigma Surrounding Singlehood\u00a0<\/span><\/h2>\n

The stigma surrounding single life is still very much prominent in our lives. We still have the image of single men, <\/span>the bachelors<\/span><\/i>, and the single women, who are called way worse — spinsters, thornbacks, Old Maids.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

It’s been decades since The Sex and the City aired on HBO, where we got to see the true battle between the singles and the coupled people in action, but it doesn’t seem like the image of what single people are has changed that much.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

“Unsurprisingly, sentiments like happy, loyal, mature, and loving were said [in the study] when it came to married individuals. But when it came to the perceptions of single people, the praise fell short,” Dr. Stubbs explains the difference between how we perceive single and coupled people in her book. “Sentiments like immature, self-centered, insecure, lonely and unhappy were perceived by the respondents.”<\/span><\/p>\n

Despite our perceptions, though, the statistics show that there have never been more single households in the US than now. Almost half the population, <\/span>45% of adults above 18 years old<\/span>, are single. Interestingly, <\/span>studies also report<\/span><\/a> that people do tend to become happier with their single status as they age.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

So, it looks like it’s time to say goodbye to all the stigmas surrounding singlehood and embrace this status as a norm, just like being in a relationship is.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

Self-Pleasure Is Self-Care<\/span><\/h2>\n

It’s late Sunday morning, and it’s time for your weekly self-care ritual. You make yourself a matcha latte with oat milk, have a stretch, and a bath with your favorite salts. Then you read a book while sipping on your latte on the balcony, and… you masturbate.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

Yes, masturbation and self-pleasure are as much of a form of self-care as taking a bath, or meditating is. The benefits of masturbation are endless:\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n