{"id":365,"date":"2017-08-17T04:47:25","date_gmt":"2017-08-17T04:47:25","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.lelo.com\/blog\/?p=365"},"modified":"2026-02-19T06:22:23","modified_gmt":"2026-02-19T05:22:23","slug":"introducing-sex-toy-relationship","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.lelo.com\/blog\/introducing-sex-toy-relationship\/","title":{"rendered":"How To Introduce Sex Toys into Your Relationship"},"content":{"rendered":"

\"lelo<\/a><\/p>\n

While some people may not be entirely familiar with the idea of using toys during partnered sex*, anyone who already uses a sex toy<\/a> for solo masturbation can probably imagine the pleasurable twist they can add. Sex toys are the perfect way for fun-loving couples to increase intimacy while further exploring their relationship.<\/span><\/p>\n

The introduction of a sex toy into your love life in no way means there is something wrong with it. In fact, if anything, it is quite the opposite; \u00a0using sex toys with your partner can mean that you are both comfortable sharing different types of pleasure with each other. And, as an added bonus, this is even backed up by research. Research shows that women who use sex toys, specifically vibrators, have easier and more frequent orgasms and that the more a man accepts his female partner\u2019s vibrator use, the more sexually satisfied she is!<\/span><\/p>\n

If you\u2019re wondering exactly HOW to starting using sex toys as a couple, \u00a0we\u2019re always more than happy to help.<\/span><\/p>\n

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Talk it Over<\/h2>\n

Sure we all love a good dose of spontaneity in the sack, but when it comes to introducing a sex toy into the equation, we recommend discussing it with your partner first before you actually do it.<\/span><\/p>\n

Simply pulling it out of drawer in the middle of sex may drive your partner wild with excitement \u2013 like we say, you know best \u2013 but it could also give them the impression that what they have been doing up until now hasn\u2019t been satisfying for you, which would almost certainly lead to a lengthy and probably mood-killing conversation. <\/span><\/p>\n

Be Honest<\/h2>\n

Being open and honest with each other about what you want and why you want it will help you both to enjoy your new addition as it takes you to a whole new level of shared satisfaction.<\/span><\/p>\n

Again this does not necessarily mean something is wrong with the sex you\u2019re already having; as humans we all crave novelty and exploring new things with a partner is one of the best ways to solidify \u00a0your bond.<\/span><\/p>\n

\"lelo<\/a><\/p>\n

Shop Together<\/h2>\n

Shopping for a sex toy is already pretty fun on your own, but looking at pleasure products to use together is an amazing way to up the anticipation. Think of sending product screenshots and reviews to each other as a new form of sexting<\/a>! <\/span><\/p>\n

Share the Wealth<\/h2>\n

While there are many different kinds of sex toys for couples – and in fact, really any sex toy that you use together technically <\/span>becomes a couples toy<\/span><\/a>, there are some specifically designed to be used together. <\/span><\/p>\n

They range from couples\u2019 rings like TOR 2<\/a>, or wearable vibrators like TIANI 3<\/a><\/span>, but in the end it will completely depend on what sort of sensations you both are looking for. Maybe you\u2019d prefer the flexibility of using a \u2018feels-good-everywhere\u2019 <\/span>handheld massager<\/span><\/a>, or you crave the power of a <\/span>wand vibrator<\/span><\/a>. Whichever sex toy you decide is best for you, just remember to enjoy \u2013 and make sure that everyone is having the best time they can!<\/span><\/p>\n

Once you get comfortable using toys in tandem, it will open you up to a whole new world of sensations, whether it\u2019s with vibrations you share or even something <\/a><\/span>kinkier<\/span>!<\/span><\/p>\n

*In this article, for ease of reader understanding, we are using the words sex and intercourse as synonymous, as is done in popular culture in general. Similarly, we use the word \u201cforeplay\u201d the way it is used in popular culture (i.e., the sexual acts such as oral sex that come before intercourse). However, as aptly pointed out by our sex expert Laurie Mintz, we would also like to acknowledge that such language exalts men\u2019s most reliable rout to orgasm and linguistically erases women\u2019s most reliable route to orgasm\u2014clitoral stimulation, either alone or coupled with penetration. Indeed, only between 4% and 18% of women reliably orgasm from penetration alone. We look forward to the day when such language is not commonly used in culture.<\/em><\/p>\n

Discover pleasure with:<\/strong><\/p>\n

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While some people may not be entirely familiar with the idea of using toys during partnered sex*, anyone who already uses a sex toy for solo masturbation can probably imagine the pleasurable twist they can add. Sex toys are the perfect way for fun-loving couples to increase intimacy while further exploring their relationship. The introduction of a sex toy into your love life in no way means there is something wrong with it. 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