{"id":36975,"date":"2021-10-04T16:48:12","date_gmt":"2021-10-04T14:48:12","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.lelo.com\/blog\/?p=36975"},"modified":"2024-12-19T06:09:36","modified_gmt":"2024-12-19T05:09:36","slug":"mistress-slave-relationship","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.lelo.com\/blog\/mistress-slave-relationship\/","title":{"rendered":"\u201cYes, Mistress!\u201d The Mistress-Slave Relationship, Explained"},"content":{"rendered":"

The majority of us have grown up in a world with imposed rules and regulations. And by following said-rules, we\u2019re being respectful towards authoritative figures, institutions, and each other.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

The term \u2018Mistress\u2019 in the BDSM community is oddly similar\u2026 but in the intimate relationship that exists between a dominant and a submissive<\/a> or a Master\/Mistress and slave.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

Note: in the BDSM community, the \u2018M\u2019 in \u2018Mistress\u2019 is often capitalized, whereas the \u2018s\u2019 in \u2018sub\u2019 or \u2018slave\u2019 is not. This is a form of respect towards the Mistress.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

What is a Mistress in the BDSM Community?<\/span><\/h1>\n

A Mistress in the <\/span>realm of BDSM<\/span> refers to a female dominant (the male version is called a \u2018Master\u2019). In this kind of relationship, a consenting male or female submit to being under full control of a Mistress. But what exactly does \u201cfull control\u201d mean?<\/span><\/p>\n

Being under full control means that it\u2019s a lifestyle choice, something that is followed 24\/7. It\u2019s when a Mistress controls all aspects of their submissive or slave\u2019s life. There may be exceptions however, such as when a sub or slave is at work, but the majority of the time, a Mistress requires her sub or slave to perform any or all tasks requested.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

Tasks could be sexual in nature and\/or domestic like having their sub or slave undergo mundane everyday chores. These conditions are discussed between the Mistress and her sub\/slave beforehand to ensure there\u2019s <\/span>ultimate consent<\/span><\/a>.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

Once discussed and agreed, a Mistress will train their sub\/slave so that they can perform all of the tasks a Mistress desires.<\/span><\/p>\n

Discussing & Agreeing to a Mistress-Sub\/Slave Relationship<\/span><\/h2>\n

In the <\/span>BDSM world<\/span>, respect plays a huge role. One may see a Mistress-dom\/slave relationship as disrespectful, as the Mistress requires her sub\/slave to do whatever she enjoys while taking away control of everything their sub\/slave does, but this is not the case.\u00a0\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

In fact, a pre-agreed, and oftentimes formal agreement is discussed and consent is given in advance to ensure ultimate respect.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

In a Mistress-sub\/slave relationship, both parties safely, sanely, and consensually agree to what their relationship will encompass.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

And still, a sub or slave has the power to say no or express discomfort, even with pre-discussed terms. This could be in the form of a <\/span>safe word<\/span><\/a>.<\/span><\/p>\n

Is the Mistress-Sub\/Slave Relationship One-Sided?<\/span><\/h2>\n

You may be thinking that because a Mistress has power over her sub\/slave, having them perform all kinds of tasks to her satisfaction, that the relationship is one-sided. In actuality, both the Mistress and the sub\/slave benefit from this kind of agreement. Submissives or slaves have a desire to be <\/span>dominated and controlled<\/span><\/a>.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

For some, control makes them feel safe. When a Mistress makes decisions and sets goals, limits and boundaries, subs or slaves often feel a sense of relief. Subs\/slaves form relationships with a Mistress that they <\/span>trust<\/span><\/a> and thus give them the power to tell them what to do while keeping them safe and cared for.<\/span><\/p>\n

Different Types of BDSM Mistresses\u00a0<\/span><\/h2>\n

Every Mistress-sub\/slave relationship is different, and it would be impossible to define the exact nature of a Mistress-sub\/slave relationship.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

With that, no two Mistresses are the same. Yes, there is a shared quality of <\/span>dominating a sub or slave<\/span><\/a>, but this domination can vary considerably, depending on desires, likes, dislikes, and consent.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

There are however general categories when it comes to types of Mistresses. The above description refers to the most basic of Mistresses, and is when a woman takes control of a sub or slave\u2019s body and mind. In this relationship, there are rules, regulations, and guidelines, as well as punishment and rewards.<\/span><\/p>\n

A Dominatrix on the other hand is a woman who wants to train a slave, but doesn\u2019t necessarily want it to be a full-time lifestyle. For example, a professional Dominatrix is a Mistress who will take control of a sub or slave for a certain period of time. As the sessions progress, the Mistress will help them to become stronger and more obedient.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

Dominatrixes can play with and dominate their client or sub\/slave in such a way that pleases them during the scheduled time, after which the sub\/slave is left to their own devices when a session is complete.<\/span><\/p>\n

Then there\u2019s something called a \u2018mommy Mistress\u2019, which could be considered age play or a kind of humiliation. A Mistress may order their sub\/slave to dress up as a little boy or girl for sissy play. Dressing up a man in little girl\u2019s clothing, making sure that they\u2019re as girly as possible, for example, is a form of humiliation. The mommy Mistress will teach their sub\/slave how to behave, and too can reward or punish them.<\/span><\/p>\n

There\u2019s also a queen or goddess Mistress, which is when a sub\/slave adorns and cherishes their Mistress at all times. It could be in ways that make their Mistresses’ life easier, like cooking and cleaning, and\/or it could include acts of <\/span>body worship<\/span><\/a>. Subs\/slaves in this kind of relationship see their Mistress as a queen goddess and aim to serve them, and only them, as an instrument of their will.<\/span><\/p>\n

Having said all of this, a Mistresses role (in any capacity) is not an easy one. It takes a lot of respect, <\/span>communication<\/span><\/a>, self-control and self-awareness to make sure that their sub\/slave is happy, healthy, and taken care of.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

Not everyone will be well-suited for this type of role, so if you\u2019re considering it, be sure to do the correct research and engage in a lot of introspection in order for it to be a mutually-beneficial and respectful experience.<\/span><\/p>\n

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