{"id":38245,"date":"2022-02-24T09:14:27","date_gmt":"2022-02-24T08:14:27","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.lelo.com\/blog\/?p=37906"},"modified":"2024-10-30T05:23:22","modified_gmt":"2024-10-30T04:23:22","slug":"penis-envy","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.lelo.com\/blog\/penis-envy\/","title":{"rendered":"Do You Have \u201cPenis Envy?\u201d"},"content":{"rendered":"

As a term, Penis Envy is quite well-known, and as a concept, it\u2019s an easy-to-grasp one, as it\u2019s right there on the tin: being envious of a penis, as in a penis that is not yours. Among men and penis-having individuals, this is simple enough to understand, as who hasn\u2019t at least wondered about the ways in which their <\/span>penises could be better<\/span>, <\/span>stronger<\/span>, or <\/span>perhaps even bigger<\/span><\/a>?<\/span><\/p>\n

Where did it come from?<\/h3>\n

It may surprise you, however, to find out that its original meaning wasn\u2019t intended for men and their desire for a better penis. It was in 1908 that famed psychoanalyst Sigmund Freud posited that, from a very young age, girls and people who are assigned female at birth become fixated on the penis, and envious of the fact that males derive more pleasure from their penises than they do from their clitorises.
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This \u201cphallic stage\u201d was Freud\u2019s psychosexual development theory in which he claimed that everyone of all genders (at the time considered as a binary male or female) was fixated on their penis or their lack of a penis. In females, this would play out in a daughter\u2019s attachment to their father and desire to have a son, as these would be as close as a woman would get to having a penis\u2013something they truly desire, whether they know it or not.<\/span><\/p>\n

That sounds pretty preposterous.<\/h3>\n

Well, just wait, because it gets better. Freud also claimed that their envy of phalluses would cause girls to resent their mothers for birthing them as a female and thus being \u201ccastrated\u201d by their mothers.<\/span><\/p>\n

But do people really believe this stuff? Still?<\/h3>\n

Nope, not really. Much of Freud\u2019s work has been debunked or challenged sufficiently enough that it\u2019s not a leading concept in the field. However, it does work as a metaphor. Think about it: a male\u2019s position inherently comes with more power and opportunity when compared with that of most females. To envy a penis, or envy having one, would perhaps likely be a conflation of being powerful with having a penis\u2013the feature that physically makes one \u201ca man.\u201d<\/span><\/p>\n

One of the main arguments against Freud\u2019s Penis Envy theory is its very rigid and outdated views of human sexuality, not to mention gender and family configurations. As it is now, \u201cPenis Envy\u201d would not be considered by a psychoanalyst as even a real or observable phenomenon as far as Freud\u2019s definition went.<\/span><\/p>\n

But what about Penis Envy among men? That has to be a thing, right?<\/h3>\n

Yes, it is. Surely any man can tell you about some dissatisfaction with their own penis, but <\/span>research from as recently as 2017<\/span><\/a> also backs up this idea. The Archives of Sexual Behavior surveyed 4000 men, nearly 30 percent of which were unhappy with their penises while flaccid, and nearly 20 percent were unhappy with how they looked while erect. About 15 percent were overall dissatisfied with their penises.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

How this dissatisfaction manifests itself is not clear, however. While there do exist surgeries for getting a bigger penis, these measures are quite drastic when it comes to a perception of one\u2019s penis that, most likely, no one else shares.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

As a term, Penis Envy is quite well-known, and as a concept, it\u2019s an easy-to-grasp one, as it\u2019s right there on the tin: being envious of a penis, as in a penis that is not yours. Among men and penis-having individuals, this is simple enough to understand, as who hasn\u2019t at least wondered about the ways in which their penises could be better, stronger, or perhaps even bigger? Where did it come from? 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