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Question: how did you meet your current partner? And what about the last person you dated? Chances are, you\u2019ve gone on a number of <\/span>dates<\/span><\/a> with people you\u2019ve met on one or more online dating sites.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

And while these apps are mostly a pain, they can actually work. Think about it: at this very moment there are probably thousands of couples worldwide lying to their families about how they met (being too ashamed to reveal that it was online). It\u2019s true though, online dating is simply the most popular way in which to date today.<\/span><\/p>\n

So why not learn a few new skills that can improve your online dating experience and, ultimately, help you get what you want?<\/span><\/p>\n

How Can You Improve Your Online Dating Skills?<\/span><\/h1>\n

There are several ways you can improve your <\/span>online dating<\/span><\/a> skills, but it all starts with being honest with yourself about what you\u2019re actually hoping to achieve.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

Before you even jump on the <\/span>Tinder<\/span><\/a> Train or join the Plenty of Fish Party, ask yourself what your dating goals are. Are you looking for a long-term partner? Someone to start a family with? A <\/span>play partner<\/span><\/a>, or just a friend? Knowing this will come in handy when it comes to improving your online dating skills.<\/span><\/p>\n

Once you\u2019ve set your dating goals, here are seven ways that you cab improve your online dating experience:<\/b><\/p>\n

1. Set Your Non-Negotiables<\/span><\/h2>\n

A non-negotiable is something that\u2019s not open to discussion or modification. When it comes to a relationship, some popular non-negotiables can include honesty, reliability, dependability, and compassion. Again, once you\u2019ve established your online <\/span>dating goals<\/span><\/a>, you\u2019ll then be able to set your own non-negotiables that will help you find Mx. Right (Now).\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

2. Have a First Date ASAP<\/span><\/h2>\n

If you\u2019ve been swiping left and right, and finally feel like you\u2019re vibing with someone, try not to wait too long before your first date. You may be having intense and fantastic conversations online, but remember that this may create an almost <\/span>fantasy<\/span><\/a> in your mind that this person is \u2018the one\u2019 before you\u2019ve even met. This could lead to disappointment when a face-to-face meeting does actually happen.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

Not just that, but if you spend a lot of energy on one person for a prolonged period of time and it turns out that they\u2019re not what you\u2019re looking for, you\u2019ve wasted some of your own precious time.<\/span><\/p>\n

3. Honesty is the Best Policy<\/span><\/h2>\n

There\u2019s no shame in the game. If you\u2019re simply looking for a hook-up or friends with benefits, that\u2019s totally fine\u2026 but be honest about it (in a respectful way). And if you\u2019ve got <\/span>long term relationship<\/span><\/a> goals, or marriage and kids on the cards, it\u2019s best to be clear about your intentions early on so that you can match with someone that you can connect with.<\/span><\/p>\n

Everyone navigating the sea of online dating is looking for something specific, and naturally, not everyone they match with will want the same things that they do. By being upfront and honest, you\u2019ll be saving each other\u2019s time, and open up more energy for you to find what it is you <\/span>are<\/span><\/i> after.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

4. Be Kind to Yourself!<\/span><\/h2>\n

There\u2019s always going to be someone prettier than you, smarter than you, more witty, slimmer, curvier, taller or shorter. This is merely a fact. But online daters have been made even more aware of this fact with the rise in online dating. A simple swipe and everyone is replaceable.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

This has led to a massive increase in ghosting, breadcrumbing, and simply ending things early because there\u2019s plenty more people to date on these <\/span>apps<\/span><\/a>. This is why it\u2019s so important to be kind to yourself. Try not to take rejection too personally, as it really does happen to everyone\u2014and much more so now than ever before due to the \u2018easiness\u2019 of finding a date, thanks to <\/span>technology<\/span>.<\/span><\/p>\n

5. Your Profile is a Reflection of What You Want<\/span><\/h2>\n

When it comes to your actual dating profile, remember that what you post is a direct reflection of who you are and what you want.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

Just like we mentioned in number 3, you could be upfront and honest by writing what you\u2019re looking for in your bio instead of writing it to each individual match. This will also help prevent those looking for something different from swiping right on you, creating a not-so-great match.<\/span><\/p>\n

6. Present Yourself as Accurately as Possible<\/span><\/h2>\n

When it comes to the photos you use on your online dating profile, a lot of people tend to find the most flattering pictures in order to get more matches. But if you\u2019re hoping to meet your matches in real life, it\u2019s better to show more accurate and realistic photos of yourself.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

The truth is, people can be shallow, and being rejected because you\u2019re not as \u201cattractive\u201d as your online dating photos will almost always sting. Choose a great photo of yourself, preferably smiling. <\/span>Smiling<\/span> faces generally tend to attract people as it makes one seem more approachable and fun. It\u2019s also a great idea to showcase some of your personality, such as photos of you laughing, engaging in a hobby, or holding a cup of coffee.<\/span><\/p>\n

7. Open with Something Unique<\/span><\/h2>\n

Did you know that there\u2019s actually a term for those who ignore people who start online dating conversations with \u201chey\u201d? They\u2019re called hey-ters! Yes, indeed, we\u2019ve all been there. You\u2019re all excited because you\u2019ve matched with someone who looks amazing, but then are hit with the most boring opening line ever\u2026 \u201chey\u201d.<\/span><\/p>\n

We\u2019re sure you hate it when this happens, so why not be the change you wish to see. Start using clever and impressive opening lines, such as asking them about something they\u2019ve written in their bio or commenting on a photo. You could even start a conversation with a <\/span>game<\/span> of truth or dare or two truths and a lie. That\u2019s always fun.<\/span><\/p>\n

So, as you navigate the virtual world in search of\u2026 whatever it is you\u2019re searching for, we wish you all the luck, and are totally rooting for you. Go forth and be great (and safe) online.<\/span><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

Question: how did you meet your current partner? And what about the last person you dated? Chances are, you\u2019ve gone on a number of dates with people you\u2019ve met on one or more online dating sites.\u00a0 And while these apps are mostly a pain, they can actually work. Think about it: at this very moment there are probably thousands of couples worldwide lying to their families about how they met (being too ashamed to reveal that it was online). 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