{"id":38281,"date":"2022-04-03T04:30:51","date_gmt":"2022-04-03T02:30:51","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.lelo.com\/blog\/?p=38140"},"modified":"2025-09-14T22:02:06","modified_gmt":"2025-09-14T20:02:06","slug":"what-do-women-think-about-during-sex","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.lelo.com\/blog\/what-do-women-think-about-during-sex\/","title":{"rendered":"What Do Women Really Think About During Sex?"},"content":{"rendered":"

There is no one gender that has a monopoly on not being in the moment during lovemaking. When it comes to a wandering mid-coitus mind, women are just as likely as anyone to be thinking of any number of things, other than what\u2019s happening right there in front of them.<\/span><\/p>\n

It should be no surprise that women will let their minds wander during lovemaking. It is, after all, only human to do so: rather than being fully in the moment, who hasn\u2019t had their mind occupied with their to-do list for the next day? And while there are some common thoughts that both women and <\/span>men will have during sex<\/span><\/a> (\u201cAm I doing it right?\u201d, \u201cAre they going to come?\u201d, \u201cDid I leave the oven on?\u201d), there are some that are specific to women, such as:\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

\u201cI shouldn’t have peed before this.\u201d<\/b><\/p>\n

During sex, bacteria from your shared fluids skin cells and so on can get forced into her urethra, which leads to a pretty painful urinary tract infection (UTI) if they\u2019re not flushed out ASAP. When she heads off to the bathroom very shortly after the lovemaking, it\u2019s very likely that she\u2019s taking a pee in order to flush out any of the aforementioned stuff that can pose a problem later on.<\/span><\/p>\n

\u201cI could use a bit of assistance\u201d<\/b><\/p>\n

If she reaches down to give herself a helping hand, you had better not take it personally, you gigantic baby. When a woman begins to pleasure herself during sex, it\u2019s not because she\u2019s unsatisfied with the lovemaking. If anything, she\u2019s trying to even better enjoy the moment\u2013the moment that you are also a part of. What a good partner does is, rather than take it as a signal that they\u2019re not good enough, gets actively interested in what gets their partner off. Pro tip: <\/span>bringing a sex toy into the bedroom to use during lovemaking<\/span><\/a> ensures that both of you come away happy.<\/span><\/p>\n

\u201cDid we need to have pizza\u2013again? I feel so bloated!\u201d<\/b><\/p>\n

Of course, everyone has hang-ups about their bodies. Women in particular, however, have been subject to an epidemic of body-shaming tactics that, understandably, can leave many feeling inadequate. What can you, their partner, do about it? Aside from being there for them without preconditions is a good start. And for any clueless fellas that might be reading, maybe reconsider your meal choices before getting into bed together, because who wants to have sex with a bellyful of pizza or chicken wings?<\/span><\/p>\n

\u201cHis beard smells like pizza grease!\u201d<\/b><\/p>\n

Of course, we all practice good hygiene, with a daily shower and washing our hair a couple times a week. However when in pursuit of sex, guys can be pretty single-minded and lose track of some things as they home in on their goal. Remember that you are what you eat\u2013and when you go out to eat just before getting as intimate as possible with another person, what you eat can be a barrier. Before bedding down with someone, you can put their mind at ease by giving yourself a quick look in the mirror, not to mention a discreet breath check\u2013it\u2019s literally the least you could do!<\/span><\/p>\n

\u201cWould he just hurry up and come already?\u201d<\/b><\/p>\n

Sometimes, it\u2019s just not gonna happen for her. Other times, she may have agreed to sex out of a desire to get you off, and not necessarily herself. It\u2019s a little hard to tell the difference, which is why a woman having this thought should clarify (\u201cCome for me\u201d is a good prompt) rather than have their partner huffing away for a climax that just will not come.<\/span><\/p>\n

\u201cDon\u2019t come yet!\u201d<\/b><\/p>\n

Other times\u2013we hope most times\u2013she is having sex with a goal in mind, and that goal is climax. As with so many things in love and sex, <\/span>communication will go a long way<\/span><\/a> to making sure that both partners get what they want. This can be either by giving directions (\u201c<\/span>slower!<\/span><\/a>\u201d \u201c<\/span>deeper!<\/span><\/a>\u201d “<\/span>give me head!<\/span><\/a>\u201d), or by taking matters into their own hands, either literally with their hands, or by bringing a vibrator into the mix.<\/span><\/p>\n

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There is no one gender that has a monopoly on not being in the moment during lovemaking. When it comes to a wandering mid-coitus mind, women are just as likely as anyone to be thinking of any number of things, other than what\u2019s happening right there in front of them. It should be no surprise that women will let their minds wander during lovemaking. 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