{"id":38982,"date":"2022-05-05T06:36:57","date_gmt":"2022-05-05T04:36:57","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.lelo.com\/blog\/?p=38982"},"modified":"2025-09-14T21:55:51","modified_gmt":"2025-09-14T19:55:51","slug":"power-of-eye-contact","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.lelo.com\/blog\/power-of-eye-contact\/","title":{"rendered":"The Intimate Power of Eye Contact"},"content":{"rendered":"

Did you know that you have a mere seven seconds to make a first impression? And while eye contact does play a positive role in how people perceive you upon first interaction, locking eyes has the power to enhance all kinds of interactions<\/span>\u2014<\/span>be it in friendships, <\/span>relationships<\/span>, work connections, and more.<\/span><\/p>\n

Let\u2019s take a little look at how eye contact can influence a slew of different areas in your life, and ways in which you can optimise your eye contact game for better social, <\/span>romantic<\/span>, professional, and intimate connections.<\/span><\/p>\n

The Eyes Don\u2019t Lie: The Power of Eye Contact<\/span><\/h1>\n

A recent <\/span>2020 study<\/span><\/a> examined the role that eye contact plays when it comes to romance.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

The researchers used three different methods in the realm of real life speed <\/span>dating<\/span>: face to face, video communication with eye contact, and video communication without eye contact.\u00a0\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

They wanted to see whether eye contact had any effect on the development of romantic attraction, and if it played a role in reducing uncertainty within initial romantic interactions.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

They had their test subjects indulge in forms of self-disclosure and question-asking, which would then give them results as to whether eye contact increased and decreased the chances of romance.<\/span><\/p>\n

The results revealed that eye contact had no direct effect on <\/span>romantic attraction<\/span><\/a>, but that it did aid in less uncertainty and <\/span>more intimacy<\/span><\/a>.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

This reduction in uncertainty and increase in intimacy, according to researchers, is because eye contact is a power non-verbal form of expression, and it tends to prompt self-disclosure (i.e. telling someone more about themselves).<\/span><\/p>\n

To further prove this point, it was found more probable that those who did not engage in eye contact asked more questions in an attempt to reduce uncertainty. Not just that, but they were inclined to ask more intimate, direct, and personal questions than those who maintained eye contact.<\/span><\/p>\n

Conclusively, they found that mutual gaze regulates <\/span>communication<\/span><\/a>, signals conversational turn-taking, and delivers feedback on receiving and perceiving messages.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

In other words, without eye contact, one is more likely to ask more questions in order to regulate a conversation.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

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4 Benefits Eye Contact Has on Your Social Relationships<\/span><\/h2>\n

This former study aside, there are a ton of other benefits associated with maintaining eye contact when it comes to your social relationships.<\/span><\/p>\n

1. Eye Contact Helps Recognise Emotions<\/span><\/h3>\n

They say that the eyes are the window to the soul, and it\u2019s true\u2014even a <\/span>smile<\/span> can be distinguished as real or fake simply by looking at the eyes. A <\/span>2017 study<\/span><\/a> suggests that humans gauge how others are feeling by analysing their eyes. Not just that, but a <\/span>2013 study<\/span><\/a> revealed that, during eye gazing, activity in the amygdala increases. This is the part of the brain that helps us recognise facial cues and people\u2019s emotions.<\/span><\/p>\n

2. Eye Contact Increases Intimacy<\/span><\/h3>\n

Just as we mentioned the increased levels of intimacy in the 2020 study, a separate <\/span>study conducted in 1989<\/span><\/a> had the same result. It was found that when two strangers looked into each other\u2019s eyes for two solid minutes, they both experienced mutual feelings of <\/span>love<\/span>. Interestingly, a <\/span>2003 study<\/span><\/a> found that, the longer someone stares at another\u2019s face, the more attractive they become. Then, a <\/span>2009 study<\/span><\/a> of 32 men found that when women had direct eye contact with them, they were deemed more attractive.<\/span><\/p>\n

3. Eye Contact Builds Trust<\/span><\/h3>\n

Is it possible to tell if someone is trustworthy or if they\u2019re lying, simply by looking into their eyes? Perhaps! A <\/span>2016 study<\/span><\/a> found that the majority of people are more likely to believe someone when they\u2019re looking straight at them. The study also found that those who disagreed with a statement were slower to do so when it was said with a direct gaze. This suggests that believing a statement to be false may be inhibited when that statement is accompanied by direct gaze.<\/span><\/p>\n

4. Eye Contact Increases Connection<\/span><\/h3>\n

Research conducted in 2017<\/span><\/a> had some interesting conclusions on how eye contact can increase connection. It found that eye contact could merge one\u2019s perception of self-other. Self-other is the ability to distinguish between their own actions, perceptions, sensations, and emotions, and those of others. In other words, a direct gaze can blur self-other boundaries at both facial and conceptual levels, creating a feeling of connection and \u2018oneness\u2019.<\/span><\/p>\n

How to Boost Your Relationship with Eye Gazing<\/span><\/h2>\n

One popular and easy method that you could use to boost your relationship with your partner includes:<\/b><\/p>\n