{"id":41058,"date":"2023-09-08T06:50:03","date_gmt":"2023-09-08T04:50:03","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.lelo.com\/blog\/?p=41058"},"modified":"2023-09-08T07:30:43","modified_gmt":"2023-09-08T05:30:43","slug":"why-do-you-always-end-up-in-toxic-relationships","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.lelo.com\/blog\/why-do-you-always-end-up-in-toxic-relationships\/","title":{"rendered":"Why Do You Always End Up in Toxic Relationships?"},"content":{"rendered":"

Does this sound familiar? You\u2019re in a relationship with someone who you feel connected to. They\u2019re seemingly the perfect partner for you, and you love spending time with them.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

At the back of your mind though, you know that you have to walk on eggshells when you\u2019re around them.<\/span><\/p>\n

If you utter one word or sentence that they don\u2019t like, you\u2019ll get an earful of why something is your fault, and you\u2019ll feel the need to apologize again and again in order to \u201cfix\u201d the issue.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

Needless to say, you most likely feel as though it\u2019s your responsibility to make sure they\u2019re okay. You want to do whatever you can to keep them interested in you and the <\/span>relationship<\/span>.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

And even though an argument may lead you two to part ways with bitterness, you still want to see them. You patiently wait for them to text or call you while your levels of <\/span>stress<\/span> and guilt rise. <\/span>\u201cWas it my fault<\/span><\/i>?\u201d you start to wonder.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

Then, when they <\/span>do<\/span><\/i> contact you, a wave of relief washes over you. All of those negative emotions drift away, and <\/span>make up sex<\/span> is on the cards. Hooray!<\/span><\/p>\n

But why do people fall into this kind of relationship pattern? Clearly it isn\u2019t <\/span>healthy<\/span>. In fact, it\u2019s toxic. It takes you on a rollercoaster of emotions, including the high highs and the low lows. Extreme excitement, lust, hope, and euphoria, as well as anger, anxiety, despair, and guilt.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

Let\u2019s look more into that, shall we?<\/span><\/p>\n

Why Do People Stay in Toxic Relationships?<\/span><\/h1>\n

There are a few valid reasons as to why people stay in toxic relationships. But whatever the reason, it\u2019s important for those individuals to know that there is nothing \u201cwrong\u201d with them. They aren\u2019t the problem.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

Staying in a <\/span>toxic<\/span> relationship may be because they\u2019re stuck in a cycle, which is very difficult to break.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

So, if you\u2019re prone to entering and staying in a toxic relationship, here are some reasons why that may be:<\/b><\/p>\n

You want to \u201cfix\u201d people\u00a0<\/strong><\/h3>\n

Perhaps you\u2019re the type of person who sees someone mysterious and guarded and instantly finds them attractive. You may feel as though you can fix\/save them by giving them all that your heart has to offer and loving them fiercely. Maybe you believe that you could be the person who changes their life.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

It feels familiar\u00a0<\/strong><\/h3>\n

The whole notion of walking on eggshells could be a recurring pattern in your life. Perhaps you felt that way growing up with your parents, siblings, family, or friends. In this way, you could have believed that <\/span>their<\/span><\/i> anger and upset is because of you and that you need to do whatever it takes to make them happy again. You might have apologized for things that were not your fault, and believed that you were responsible for making people feel better.<\/span><\/p>\n

It\u2019s a result of trauma bonding\u00a0<\/strong><\/h3>\n

According to <\/span>Cleveland Clinic<\/span><\/a>:<\/span><\/p>\n

\u201c<\/span>Trauma bonding is when a person who is or has been abused feels a connection to their abuser. And this connection is based on the abuse that the person has or is enduring \u2014 whether emotional or physical.\u201d\u00a0<\/span><\/i><\/p>\n

This cycle usually follows the pattern of:<\/b><\/p>\n