{"id":45355,"date":"2025-03-29T06:15:36","date_gmt":"2025-03-29T05:15:36","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.lelo.com\/blog\/?p=45355"},"modified":"2026-03-29T06:57:43","modified_gmt":"2026-03-29T04:57:43","slug":"how-to-use-sex-toys-for-couples-tc","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.lelo.com\/blog\/how-to-use-sex-toys-for-couples-tc\/","title":{"rendered":"How To Use Sex Toys for Couples \u2013 A Guide to Enhancing Intimacy"},"content":{"rendered":"

Despite the rapidly growing sex toy market, how to use sex toys for couples can still be a mystery for some. It’s not a surprise when you think about it \u2013 sex toys have been widely marketed as a solo adventure<\/a> for decades.<\/span><\/p>\n

There’s also the whole thing about men considering sex toys competition, which couldn’t be further from the truth. Instead of looking at sex toys as competition, we should look at them as our little helpers that make sex better and orgasms easier to achieve for many people. Plus, using a sex toy<\/a> with a partner is one of the easiest ways to spice up a relationship.<\/span><\/p>\n

For those who are curious about how to use sex toys for couples, we have put together a comprehensive guide to help you enhance your sex life with toys<\/a>, whether you’re just a beginner or a seasoned sex toy user.<\/span><\/p>\n

The Benefits of Using Sex Toys as a Couple<\/h2>\n

Before we dive into the tips and tricks and the best sex toys for couples, let’s quickly talk about some of the benefits of using sex toys<\/a> as a couple.<\/span><\/p>\n

Enhances Pleasure and Intimacy<\/span><\/h3>\n

First and foremost, and one of the main reasons why we love sex toys is that they enhance pleasure and offer guaranteed orgasms.<\/span><\/p>\n

The orgasm gap is still a real issue, especially in heterosexual relationships \u2013 while<\/span> 95% of heterosexual men orgasm<\/span><\/a> during partnered sex, only 65% of heterosexual women do.<\/span><\/p>\n

That’s a wide gap!<\/span><\/p>\n

Now, it’s not that heterosexual women are orgasming less in general \u2013 lesbians and bisexual women have more orgasms than heterosexual women, which indicates that we’re more than capable of consistent orgasms.<\/span><\/p>\n

The key is <\/span>how<\/span><\/i> we engage in sex.<\/span><\/p>\n

Research shows<\/span><\/a> that using vibrators helps women to reach orgasms easier and faster. Plus, it may help them achieve multiple orgasms.<\/span><\/p>\n

Better pleasure and more orgasms mean that your partner will feel closer to you<\/a> and will be much more willing to engage in more sexual activities.<\/span><\/p>\n

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Explore New Sensations Together<\/span><\/h3>\n

Ah, the novelty. We may not think much about it as humans, but it’s an essential part of life.<\/span><\/p>\n

Research shows<\/span><\/a> that erotic novelty in relationships can be a surefire way to keep the passion and spark alive for years \u2014 even decades.<\/span><\/p>\n

And using sex toys as a couple is a great way to try something new together. As you explore new sex toys, you’ll discover new sensations and new erogenous zones that you haven’t thought about before.<\/span><\/p>\n

Not only is it a fun way to do something novel together and deepen intimacy<\/a>, but it may also unlock new heights of pleasure.<\/span><\/p>\n

Bridge Gaps in Desire or Physical Limitations<\/span><\/h3>\n

It’s normal to have different sexual desires and sex drives. Just because you’re different from your partner, it doesn’t mean your sex life has to suffer.<\/span><\/p>\n

The key is finding a way to bridge those gaps in a satisfying way for both. Vibrators and sex toys might help you do just that.<\/span><\/p>\n

Research shows<\/span><\/a> that regular vibrator use is shown to greatly improve sexual function in women: it increases desire, improves orgasms, and may even aid in physical arousal.\u00a0\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

Vibration stimulation helps improve the blood flow<\/a> to the intimate area, which helps promote natural lubrication<\/a>. If that’s something you or your partner struggle with, introducing a sex toy into coupled play may be just what you need.\u00a0\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

Strengthen Communication and Trust<\/span><\/h3>\n

Using a sex toy as a couple requires a level of vulnerability, trust, and communication<\/a>. As you figure out what toys to use and find ways to use them that bring pleasure for both of you, you’ll have to be honest and open and create a safe space for each other. That can be game-changing for you as a couple and strengthen your communication skills as well as your bond.<\/span><\/p>\n

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How To Introduce Sex Toys into Your Relationship<\/span><\/h2>\n

Okay, let’s say that you’re convinced and excited to use sex toys for intimacy with your partner. The first step will be to introduce this idea to your partner.<\/span><\/p>\n

It’s a daunting task for many \u2013 if you’re feeling anxious<\/a> about it and unsure about how to approach this subject, know that you’re not alone!<\/span><\/p>\n

The key is to know how to approach the subject with your partner. Here are a few tips to help you get started:<\/span><\/p>\n

How To Have T<\/span>he<\/span><\/i> Talk<\/span><\/h3>\n

When introducing the idea of trying a sex toy together with your partner, consider framing it from the positive, adventurous side rather than a criticism of your current sex life.<\/span><\/p>\n

This will help your partner not feel as if they’re doing something wrong or as if their skills in the bed are not good enough. Try these conversation starters:<\/span><\/p>\n