{"id":45426,"date":"2025-04-03T07:18:26","date_gmt":"2025-04-03T05:18:26","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.lelo.com\/blog\/?p=45426"},"modified":"2026-03-23T06:13:38","modified_gmt":"2026-03-23T05:13:38","slug":"tips-first-time-toy-users-tc","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.lelo.com\/blog\/tips-first-time-toy-users-tc\/","title":{"rendered":"Exploring Yourself: Tips for First-Time Toy Users"},"content":{"rendered":"

Using a sex toy for the first time<\/a> can be both exciting and nerve-racking. This is one of the first steps in literally taking your pleasure into your own hands so you can explore your body and your sexuality.<\/p>\n

You may feel some hesitation around starting your solo sex practice<\/a>, but it’s important to approach it with a sense of curiosity about your body and the pleasure it’s capable of.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

Self-exploration is completely normal and using sex toys comes with a whole bunch of benefits<\/a> from stress relief to forming a deeper connection with yourself and any sexual partners you may have.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

Congratulations on starting this new journey, we encourage you to approach the experience with an open mind and know that we’re here to guide you with these tips on how to explore with your first sex toy!<\/span><\/p>\n

Overcoming First-Time Jitters<\/h2>\n

If you’re new on your self-pleasure journey, it’s understandable that you may have worries or anxieties come up<\/a>. These could come from social or cultural influences or just normal first-time jitters (both of which are understandable).\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

Masturbation and using sex toys<\/a> are both completely normal and something that many people do. They’re not only part of a healthy sex life, but part of your overall wellness as well! If you are nervous about whether or not it will hurt, it shouldn’t unless you have an underlying reproductive health disorder, but if you’ve never experienced penetration before (and choose to explore it) you may feel a tiny bit of discomfort at first that will quickly subside.<\/span><\/p>\n

If you are experiencing jitters or you feel yourself judging yourself, it’s helpful to keep reminding yourself that you deserve pleasure and that you have the right to explore your body however you want to. It can also be helpful to talk to friends that you\u2019re comfortable with and explore online forums and other resources (like this blog) to learn more about pleasure and sex toy tips.<\/span><\/p>\n

Choosing Your First Sex Toy<\/h2>\n

What are the best sex toys for beginners? Ultimately, choosing a sex toy<\/a> comes down to your body and what is pleasurable for you. Of course, that can take some exploring, but that’s what you’re here for!<\/span><\/p>\n

A lot of different types of toys can be beginner sex toys, but there are certainly specific kinds that may feel more accessible than others. Many people choose a bullet<\/a>, wand<\/a>, or clitoral device<\/a> as their first vibrator. Others may want a dildo<\/a> that offers nutrition or a couple\u2019s toy that allows them to explore with their partner.<\/span><\/p>\n

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Some features that you may want to keep in mind when looking for a toy are whether or not you can adjust the intensity, how quiet<\/a> it is when it’s turned on, and whether or not it’s waterproof<\/a>.<\/span><\/p>\n

No matter what type of toy you buy you want to make sure that it’s made from body-safe materials<\/a> like silicone or ABS plastic and is hypoallergenic if you have sensitive skin or allergies.<\/span><\/p>\n

You\u2019ll also of course want something that’s within your budget<\/a>. There are so many affordable high-quality options for beginners, and we at LELO pride ourselves on offering those.<\/span><\/p>\n

Preparing for First Use<\/h2>\n

Wondering how to start using sex toys<\/a>? You’ve got your first sex toy and now comes the fun part \u2013 using it.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

It’s much easier to be present in your body and experience pleasure when you’re comfortable. Choose a relaxing space, like your bedroom. It’s helpful to have dim lights, light some candles<\/a>, put on some mellow music<\/a>, or whatever you need to do to get as comfortable as possible.<\/span><\/p>\n

One of the biggest tips we can offer is to use lube<\/a>. Not everyone wants to use lube, but there is absolutely nothing wrong with using it. In fact, we encourage it! Lube can help you feel more comfortable and can make it easier to reach orgasm. Just be sure to choose a lube that is body-safe and water-based<\/a> if you’re using silicone toys. Oil-based lubes can break down silicone over time.<\/span><\/p>\n

Although we mentioned orgasm, know that self-exploration is not about reaching orgasm. If it happens, that can be a nice perk, but really this is just about exploring your body and figuring out what feels good to you.<\/span><\/p>\n

How To Use a Sex Toy for the First Time<\/h2>\n

Now that you’re ready to explore it’s helpful to understand how to use a sex toy. You can get started with these self-pleasure tips<\/a>:<\/span><\/p>\n