{"id":5191,"date":"2019-12-12T09:11:26","date_gmt":"2019-12-12T08:11:26","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.lelo.com\/blog\/?p=5191"},"modified":"2024-09-25T21:02:27","modified_gmt":"2024-09-25T19:02:27","slug":"lets-talk-sex-separating-myths-facts","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.lelo.com\/blog\/lets-talk-sex-separating-myths-facts\/","title":{"rendered":"Debunking Commonly-Believed Sex Myths"},"content":{"rendered":"

Whether you\u2019re getting it regularly, not at all \u2013 or hey, maybe too often \u2013 sex is still an often bewildering subject for many people. Sure, you may know the mechanics of it, not to mention the etiquette involved in sex, but chances are there is a thing or two that you\u2019ve heard that might be way off the map. Like for instance, some preconceived notions that you\u2019ve just always accepted as true, or perhaps never took the time to wrap your mind around.<\/span><\/p>\n

Some of these might include the old wives\u2019 tales of sex, like <\/span>going blind from masturbating<\/span><\/a>, or pregnancy as the result of oral sex (both are false, duh). And if you believe those, then I am sorry but we can\u2019t help you, as it seems you may be too far gone from reality. What we\u2019re talking about more specifically here are the notions that many people still believe, that have outcomes or ramifications ranging from frustrating to downright dangerous.<\/span><\/p>\n

Here\u2019s the LELO lowdown on sex myths and lusty legends, as well as the reality, which is sometimes even more fantastic than the fictions.<\/span><\/p>\n

Section 1: On Matters of Masturbation<\/span><\/h2>\n

The Myth: Women Don\u2019t Masturbate<\/h3>\n

This one never ceases to confound, and we\u2019re not sure where this particular myth even comes from \u2013 puritanical ideas of femininity maybe? At any rate, it can be construed as harmful because the idea that women \u2018don\u2019t\u2019 pleasure themselves also can be taken to mean that women \u2018shouldn\u2019t\u2019 pleasure themselves.<\/span><\/p>\n

Consider the fact that it\u2019s generally assumed that all males masturbate; that this is not only assumed but also accepted, and you\u2019re on the right track to seeing the double standard on display here. Logically, of course, this makes no sense: women have the same entitlement and capability for pleasuring themselves as men.<\/span><\/p>\n

It goes without saying that you do not need to masturbate, however there\u2019s a lot of <\/span>research out there<\/span><\/a> that will tell you that women who masturbate have higher <\/span>self-esteem and body image<\/span><\/a>. So there you go, take that as you like.<\/span><\/p>\n

The Myth: Guys Can\u2019t Stop Masturbating<\/h3>\n

Yeah yeah, we\u2019re well aware of all the very positive benefits of masturbation and how very common it is. However what gets tiring is the notion that men in particular are biologically wired to need to do it on a regular basis?<\/span><\/p>\n

Once again, we\u2019re here to tell you a resounding \u2018no\u2019 on this particular myth. No matter which gender you ascribe to, no one absolutely <\/span>has<\/span><\/i> to masturbate. Masturbation is a purely pleasurable act, and one you can elect to do or not. And for that, it is arguably even more enjoyable<\/span><\/p>\n

The Myth: Masturbating is Bad<\/h3>\n

When it comes to pleasure, the old adage \u2018too much of a good thing\u2019 fortunately does not apply. Did you know that there are so many <\/span>health benefits of masturbation<\/span><\/a> and that it can relieve all kinds of issues related to PMS, stress, insomnia and more? Also no matter how regularly you indulge, masturbation has absolutely no ill effect on your greater health in general, and <\/span>your reproductive health<\/span><\/a> in particular.<\/span><\/p>\n

Section 2: Hollywood Glamour<\/h2>\n

The Myth: Less-Than-Perfect Sex is a Disappointment<\/h3>\n

Hollywood movie producers sure do have a lot to answer for. For one thing, how many times are you all going to have us believe that first-time sex with a new partner is always instantly orgasmic, ergonomic, well-lit, perfectly groomed and, you know, NOT awkward? <\/span>Real-life will convince you otherwise<\/span><\/a>.<\/span><\/p>\n

Related Myth: Quickies Don\u2019t Count<\/h3>\n

Carrying on from previous, this cleaned-up, soft-focus version Hollywood sex long aso posits that long, slow sex is the only meaningful kind there is. However there is something to be said for that kind of sex that is quick and taken where one can get it. <\/span>Quickie sex<\/span><\/a> \u2013 be it with a long-term partner or some gorgeous stranger \u2013 is less meaningful for being unglamorous or even unromantic.<\/span><\/p>\n

The Myth: You Can Be \u2018Too Old\u2019 for Sex<\/h3>\n

Yet again, pop culture propaganda is the prime culprit. As we\u2019re constantly bombarded with lustful imagery on every screen in our vicinity, you will notice that the demographics of beautiful bodies is unwaveringly youthful. Fact: sex isn\u2019t just for lithe twentysomethings. <\/span>Your parents and even your grandparents were getting it on<\/span><\/a> even after you learned where babies come from.<\/span><\/p>\n

The Myth: Passion Dies Post-Marriage<\/strong><\/h3>\n

When do people stop having sex? Or rather \u2013 do they ever? Sure you’ve snickered at an eye-rolling joke about husbands and wives cooling off sexually after the honeymoon is done to the point of cliche, but what\u2019s the reality?<\/span><\/p>\n

Fortunately, <\/span>research conducted by the Center for Sexual Health Promotion at Indiana University<\/span><\/a> in 2010 suggests that marriage is a net positive when it comes to sex. Among respondents aged between 25 and 59, a quarter of married people reported having sex two to three times each week. Among single people surveyed, only 5% reported the same frequency of lovemaking. Of course, that\u2019s not to say <\/span>maintaining intimacy over the years<\/span><\/a> is easy, but it is definitely doable.<\/span><\/p>\n

Section 3: Size Matters<\/h2>\n

The Myth: It\u2019s All in the Hands (or Feet)<\/h3>\n

There\u2019s absolutely no correlation between what size shoe he takes and what\u2019s underneath his trousers. The same goes for that rather ridiculous notion that hand-span (the distance between the tip of your pinky to the tip of your thumb) also bears relation to size.<\/span><\/p>\n

The Myth: Bigger is Better<\/h3>\n

Okay for the people in the back, HAVING A LARGE PENIS DOES NOT GUARANTEE GOOD SEX. Nor does it guarantee multiple orgasms, or anything else for that matter. What does guarantee good sex is not having a <\/span>bigger than normal penis<\/span><\/a> but rather the willingness to please your partner and an abiding enthusiasm for shared intimacy.<\/span><\/p>\n

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