{"id":5273,"date":"2016-03-14T13:35:40","date_gmt":"2016-03-14T05:35:40","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.lelo.com\/blog\/?p=5273"},"modified":"2026-03-14T05:19:29","modified_gmt":"2026-03-14T04:19:29","slug":"best-oral-sex-life-get","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.lelo.com\/blog\/best-oral-sex-life-get\/","title":{"rendered":"Down in the Mouth: Tips for Enjoying Oral Sex"},"content":{"rendered":"

Men make no bones about their love of oral sex, and we\u2019re not talking about performing it; our oral sex survey<\/a> reveals that men love giving as well as receiving.<\/p>\n

However, some women experience barriers to fully enjoying\u2015or even receiving\u2015 oral sex, at least the type they would like to have. Below, we share tips for enjoying your partner\u2019s oral attentions!<\/p>\n

Ask<\/h2>\n

Simple right? Often times, it is that easy to get what you\u2019re after, so easy in fact that the answer was under your nose the whole time, but you simply didn\u2019t realize it.<\/p>\n

Many partners (the best ones, actually) will find your assertiveness irresistible. Not only this, but because it\u2019s something they can provide, and something they know you want, they will feel wanted in turn; and who doesn\u2019t love that?<\/p>\n

There are other, wordless ways of making your desires known however; next time your partner is covering your breasts and stomach with kisses, lift your pelvis up off the bed \u2013 or better yet, lay a hand on their shoulder and give them a gentle push in the direction you would like them to go.<\/p>\n

Perhaps you want to ask, but you\u2019re experiencing some insecurity based on a number of pretty common factors, which we call:<\/p>\n

Oral Obstacles<\/h2>\n

Oral Obstacle #1: Wax on or Wax Off?<\/strong><\/h4>\n

When we\u2019re younger and just beginning to explore partnered sex, we can fret and obsess over how we look naked, convinced that if we don\u2019t look model (or pornstar) perfect, our partner will not be interested in sex.<\/p>\n

However, one of the sexiest attributes that a person can have is not a particular body-type or type of personal grooming, rather it\u2019s both being comfortable in your body and the knowledge that your partner is way more interested in you enjoying yourself than how you look. As long as you\u2019re comfortable and confident; your partner is not likely to care about the shape and style of your body hair any more than you care about theirs.<\/p>\n

Oral Obstacle #2: That \u2018Unfresh\u2019 Feeling<\/strong><\/h4>\n

When a long day at work leads to dinner, and then drinks and a bit of a dance, you\u2019d understandably be a bit hesitant to have someone\u2019s face between your legs when you finally get under the sheets.<\/p>\n

Now we\u2019re not saying to use a douche or one of those scented sprays\u2015 they can actually be quite harmful to the natural pH balance and florae of your body. Suggest sharing a sexy shower with your partner<\/a> \u2013 it\u2019ll be a great bit of wet and wild foreplay which will leave you with that natural clean smell all over.<\/p>\n

Oral Obstacle #3: A Mile a Minute<\/strong><\/h4>\n

During sex\u2015from foreplay to penetration to orgasm to post-coital cuddling\u2015we\u2019re usually receiving and giving a lot of different stimulation, both physical and mental. When we\u2019re the sole receiver of stimulation, we can often find that our minds can tend to wander, despite our enjoyment. And, as anyone can tell you, trying to make yourself focus can be the easiest way to make sure that you mind ends up a million miles away.<\/p>\n

Many things can help add to a more immersive experience\u2015mood-setting music, using your hands to massage your partner\u2019s scalp, or having them use their hands to massage your legs and bottom\u00ad, for example. You can also focus on each way your partner is interacting with your body and \u2018narrating\u2019 the action to yourself; vocalize which ones feel good and what you want them to be doing to not only put yourself firmly \u2018within the action\u2019 as well as to give them hints and clues on how to give you the best pleasure possible.<\/p>\n

Oral Enhancers<\/h2>\n

Enough of the negatives that can affect our oral enjoyment; let\u2019s move right along to some amazing positive additions!<\/p>\n

Oral Enhancer #1: The Pillow Platter<\/strong><\/h4>\n

Here\u2019s a small variation on the standard position for receiving oral sex<\/a> that makes a huge difference.<\/p>\n

When you\u2019re on your back, with knees bent and legs positioned shoulder width or slightly wider apart (essentially the missionary position of oral), put a pillow under your bottom so your pelvis is raised off the bed. This will perfectly present your clitoris to your partner and will put you in the perfect position for G-spot stimulation with their fingers.<\/p>\n

Oral Enhancer #2: Grab \u2019n\u2019 Grind<\/strong><\/h4>\n

There\u2019s nothing worse than when your partner switches up their tongue technique right as you\u2019re getting to where you need to be, so when you\u2019ve reached your orgasmic plateau, feel free to send some nonverbal signals for them to stay the course.<\/p>\n

Grab \u2013 don\u2019t pull \u2013 a handful of their hair to give the firm signal to stay right where they are, or grind your hips a bit to get your clitoris in the perfect position to be pleased. They\u2019ll get the hint to keep going, and will likely appreciate the hotness of this enthusiastic move. Just be mindful of your pubic bone\u2015it can inflict some damage if you \u2018buck\u2019 too hard.<\/p>\n

Oral Enhancer #3: Tease with a Toy<\/strong><\/h4>\n

Your vibrator is already amazing when you\u2019re on your own, but what if you combine it with the sensations of a tongue on your clitoris? A vibrator designed for internal G-spot massage<\/a> is an absolutely mind-blowing addition to cunnilingus, providing dual stimulation of a kind you just can\u2019t get on your own.<\/p>\n

Conclusion<\/h2>\n

What’s our number one tip to enjoying oral sex more? Stop worrying about how it’s ‘supposed’ to feel or how much you’re ‘supposed’ to love oral; we all have preferences for certain types of stimulation that predispose us to certain acts, and there is absolutely nothing wrong with not being a fan of oral if it just doesn’t do it for you. After all, there are plenty of other amazing things to do in the bedroom!<\/p>\n

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Enjoy 15% off LELO.com<\/a> with code VOLONTE15<\/span><\/strong><\/p>\n

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