{"id":6991,"date":"2014-06-11T17:36:36","date_gmt":"2014-06-11T09:36:36","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.lelo.com\/blog\/?p=6991"},"modified":"2026-03-06T06:25:12","modified_gmt":"2026-03-06T05:25:12","slug":"kinky-sex-four-steps-sensational-stimulation","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.lelo.com\/blog\/kinky-sex-four-steps-sensational-stimulation\/","title":{"rendered":"Kinky Sex – Four Steps To Sensational Stimulation"},"content":{"rendered":"

Is a more exploratory sex life the key to a lifetime of passion? After reading Jessica Howe’s <\/em>Kinky Sex – The Secret To Long-Term Desire, we’re inclined to believe it is. For your reading pleasure, Jessica has kindly allowed us to reproduce a section from this excellent book below. It’s an introduction to some lighter elements of kink that you might be interested to try on your path to long-term desire.<\/em><\/p>\n

To give your partner the ultimate sensory experience, enhance their tactile senses by taking their other senses away step by step.<\/p>\n

1. Talk to your lover<\/h2>\n

Using their trigger words as you tie them up<\/a>. Tying your partner makes them completely vulnerable to your touch and enables you to control exactly what they feel.<\/p>\n

2. Blindfold<\/a> them<\/h2>\n

An airplane mask works well for this. Go slowly, giving you both time to savour the anticipation of what\u2019s to come. Whisper into their ear, tell them how sexy they look all tied up and vulnerable, or that you can\u2019t wait for them to discover what you have in store for them.<\/p>\n

3. Check in with them at this point<\/h2>\n

Perhaps with a whispered, \u2018How\u2019re you doing?\u2019 If it\u2019s their first time, stop here and move on to giving them sensations. If you\u2019ve done this a few times, you could push your lover\u2019s boundaries a little by blocking out their hearing. You can do this with ear plugs (the soft wax type works best) but these can be fiddly. Noise reduction ear muff s aren\u2019t glamorous but they\u2019re much more effective! Being unable to hear takes you into another zone where you feel like you\u2019re floating, and combined with lack of sight it makes you feel everything much more intensely.<\/p>\n

4. Experiment with different sensations<\/h2>\n

Paying close attention to how your lover moves, breathes and reacts so you can heighten their pleasure with every touch. Even just trailing your fingertips over their body can be extremely erotic. Savour the way their body reacts and play with the sense of surprise: your partner has no idea where you\u2019ll touch them next.<\/p>\n

Top Mild Sensations To Try<\/h3>\n

Even the gentlest sensations feel incredibly erotic when your other senses are blocked out. Either use these as a warm-up to more intense play or as an end in themselves \u2013 either way, they feel great!<\/p>\n