{"id":901,"date":"2013-04-08T07:48:12","date_gmt":"2013-04-08T07:48:12","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.lelo.com\/blog\/?p=901"},"modified":"2026-03-05T04:13:20","modified_gmt":"2026-03-05T03:13:20","slug":"5-bedroom-donts-men","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.lelo.com\/blog\/5-bedroom-donts-men\/","title":{"rendered":"5 Bedroom DON\u2019Ts for Men"},"content":{"rendered":"

Great lovers aren\u2019t born; they\u2019re made.<\/p>\n

And what with the mixed messages regarding sex and sensuality that we\u2019re all exposed to, it\u2019s now harder than ever to know what\u2019s expected and accepted in today\u2019s bedrooms.<\/p>\n

So how do we all collectively become the best love-makers we can? An open, honest and informative dialogue between all those involved is a good place to start.<\/p>\n

Just like the bedroom blunders women are capable of<\/a><\/span>, a man\u2019s mistakes in the romance department are likewise rectified with communication, as well as some of the helpful ideas we offer here; listen up gents, this one is for you.<\/p>\n

DON\u2019T bolt below the belt<\/h2>\n

Not every lovemaking session is going to be so packed with passion that you can forego foreplay, although when those instances occur, they\u2019re always incredible.<\/p>\n

So rather than pouncing straight for her panties, take the time to build the anticipation with some gentle touches and deep kisses, all while slowly working your way \u2018down there\u2019 \u2013 only to start all over again and drive her wild.<\/p>\n

And before you finish your foreplay, don\u2019t always assume that every woman likes to be touched in the same way \u2013 there are women who climax from clitoral stimulation<\/a><\/span>, usually before penetration even occurs, while some experience orgasm from direct g-spot massage<\/a><\/span> during intercourse. This is knowledge that you\u2019re going to have to glean yourself however, be it by trial and error or by asking her directly (which is always a good idea).<\/p>\n

DON\u2019T believe foreplay begins and ends in bed<\/h2>\n

Foreplay is forever, or at least it takes the form of gestures \u2013 some romantic<\/a><\/span>, some merely courteous \u2013 we make even outside the bedroom. Being attentive to your partner’s needs only strengthens the bonds between you both, for a stronger relationship which is an aphrodisiac in itself.<\/p>\n

Allowing your woman space when she needs it, intimacy when she wants it, and support when she least expects it is just what she needs as a reminder that you\u2019re the one for her.<\/p>\n

DON\u2019T assume you\u2019ve got unmatched sex drives<\/h2>\n

Many men posit that women have a lower sex drive than men, but that\u2019s actually not true \u2013 speaking directly to many women, you\u2019ll discover that they want and need sex to the same degree, even when you account for individual differences between the genders.<\/p>\n

So in the event that you\u2019re being turned down by your partner, or she\u2019s just not taking as much of an interest, perhaps turn the focus inward and consider what you could do to better facilitate her needs before being frustrated that yours are not being met.<\/p>\n

DON\u2019T be disrespectful<\/h2>\n

We\u2018ve all seen some moves and maneuvers that are totally acceptable in porn, but a majority of these practices are meant to stay on video and performed only by professionals. Those actors and actresses are privy to a set of standards and practices, meaning that you and your partner should be too.<\/p>\n

When it comes to positions, subjects for talking dirty, sexual role-playing<\/a><\/span> and some, shall we say \u2013 methods of finishing<\/i> \u2013 always, always, always<\/i> have her wholehearted consent<\/a> rather than just giving it a try in the heat of the moment.<\/p>\n

DON\u2019T stop learning<\/h2>\n

Even if the dynamic of your relationship has you initiating your sexual sessions<\/span><\/a> most of the time, that\u2019s no reason to never relinquish control. The best sex is the sex 2 people enjoy, and letting her take the reins of your romance will do wonders when it comes to learning what your partner likes.<\/p>\n

But you know what the best, most effective way there is to learn your partner\u2019s preferences and how she takes her pleasure? Ask!
\nIt\u2019s certainly not information that is inborn in all of us, and the more you learn, the closer you\u2019ll get to be not only a better lover but the best lover for your partner.<\/p>\n

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Enjoy 15% off LELO.com<\/a> with code VOLONTE15<\/span><\/strong><\/p>\n

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