{"id":9399,"date":"2020-04-20T13:20:57","date_gmt":"2020-04-20T11:20:57","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.lelo.com\/blog\/?p=9399"},"modified":"2020-04-20T13:24:38","modified_gmt":"2020-04-20T11:24:38","slug":"everybody-hurts-sometimes-6-tips-dealing-heartbreak","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.lelo.com\/blog\/everybody-hurts-sometimes-6-tips-dealing-heartbreak\/","title":{"rendered":"Everybody Hurts Sometimes: 6 Tips for Dealing with Heartbreak"},"content":{"rendered":"

Getting your heart broken is horrible, and unfortunately medicine has still not produced an overnight cure. <\/span>Methods for getting over heartbreak<\/span><\/a> can vary, but most can agree that embarking on a bender and then sending very regrettable text messages that alternate between trying to hurt and trying to reconcile with the heartbreaker is not the best way to go about it. So while there\u2019s no cure, there are some things you can do to <\/span>take the edge off<\/span><\/a>, and we\u2019ve listed our favorite six below.<\/span><\/p>\n

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Whether your long term relationship has come to a close or you just got <\/span>ghosted<\/span><\/a> by your crush, we have tips for getting through heartbreaks of any size with as little mess as possible.<\/span><\/p>\n

1. Make some space<\/span><\/h2>\n

While some people recommend setting fire to everything that reminds you of your ex and sowing the ground with the ashes and salt, we generally believe that boxing all those mementos up will probably be fine. Out of sight, out of mind. If there are things to return or get back, do it as soon as possible and make sure everything is together so you don\u2019t need to awkwardly ask for it back.<\/span><\/p>\n

Of course, in this <\/span>digital age<\/span><\/a>, a lot of what is going to remind you of your ex is online. Whether you\u2019ve left things amicably or not, it is a good idea to block them on social media for a while. Don\u2019t check their twitter feed or facebook either; it\u2019s only going to make you feel like you\u2019re still connected. Instagram has a great feature for breakups where you can archive all your pics together so that they\u2019re not on your profile anymore, but you still have them until you\u2019re ready to delete them. Sometimes it\u2019s nice to save those memories, and other times it\u2019s not. If you were in a cyclical and unhealthy pattern with this partner, it\u2019s probably best to delete them altogether. Go ahead and delete their number from your phone too (you can make a friend save it for you if you actually need to communicate with them later on).<\/span><\/p>\n

2. Let it out\u2026<\/span><\/h2>\n

The key to dealing with heartache is this: don\u2019t act like there\u2019s nothing wrong. Admit your feelings and recognize their worth. It\u2019s natural to be upset about losing part of your life. If you need to binge-watch your <\/span>favorite movies<\/span><\/a> (may we suggest <\/span>Eternal Sunshine of the Spotless Mind<\/span><\/i>?) with your best friend over a box of wine, fire up Netflix! If you want to cry and write out your feelings to sad music, absolutely do it. There are also a ton of sad song playlists, or <\/span>horny playlists<\/span><\/a>, on Spotify that you\u2019ll be able to relate to.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

3. \u2026and then suck it up<\/span><\/h2>\n

While we won\u2019t arbitrarily assign a length of time that you should let yourself wallow, we can guarantee that your friends <\/span>will<\/span><\/i> stop wanting to hear about it after a few short weeks because they know how capable you are of moving on and finding a <\/span>better suited partner<\/span><\/a> for you, if that\u2019s what you want of course.<\/span><\/p>\n

Look at this way. Even when you stop crying, you still feel sad, right? Well, you can leave the crying and wallowing phase without having progressed to feeling \u2018fine.\u2019 The healing process has a few steps and while expression of grief is normal and healthy, continuing to act out your sadness might actually start making you feel worse than you actually are, like a negative feedback loop. It\u2019s good to break that cycle as soon as you recognize it.<\/span><\/p>\n

4. Be Zen<\/span><\/h2>\n

Acceptance is a powerful tool, and one of the most important steps towards mending a broken heart. Sometimes it has to happen naturally: one day you just wake up and everything has sunk in and you feel\u2026 peaceful. But other times you can force it, you can <\/span>make <\/span><\/i>yourself enter that acceptance phase by realizing that, ultimately, the situation is now out of your control. A terrible thing has happened but that can\u2019t be helped now. What matters now is how you <\/span>pick yourself up and keep moving forward<\/span><\/a>.<\/span><\/p>\n

5. Get Moving<\/span><\/h2>\n

Work out. Be outdoors using your body. We aren\u2019t going to make any assumptions about how often you were skipping the gym in favor of watching <\/span>House of Cards <\/span><\/i>with your significant other, but chances are now is a good time to start wearing yoga pants for actual exercise.<\/span><\/p>\n

Not only will you be flooding your body with happy brain chemicals during your workout, looking good is going to make you <\/span>feel confident and happy<\/span><\/a> as well. Physical activity is also a fantastic way to regulate your sleep patterns when you might be <\/span>anxious or stressed<\/span><\/a>.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

6. Get out there<\/span><\/h2>\n

Someone once said that the best way to get over someone is to get under someone else. While jumping feet first into a rebound relationship might not be the best idea, getting out of the house to do new things and meet new people will take your mind off things, and remind you what an awesome and capable person you are. You can try a new hobby, or even just start going to film clubs or trivia nights to get to know some new people. Get a glimpse of all the other fish in the sea, but don\u2019t dive in head first! It\u2019s tempting to rush into something new to distract you from your heartbreak, but in order to fully heal, you need to allow yourself time to get over things.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

Whether you feel like some <\/span>no strings sex<\/span><\/a> is what the doctor ordered, then by all means! We will stress two important points though. Don\u2019t jump into bed because it\u2019s what your friends tell you should do or if you\u2019re not sure you\u2019re ready, and definitely be clear with your temporary friend what the deal is. You don\u2019t need to tell them you\u2019re going through a breakup, but this is not the time to take advantage of someone\u2019s long time crush on you for an ego boost, or string along someone who is looking for something more.<\/span><\/p>\n

We hope these six little pointers are hopeful to those reading this, and if any of our readers have any other valuable pieces of heartbreak advice, please do share them in the comments below!<\/b><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

Getting your heart broken is horrible, and unfortunately medicine has still not produced an overnight cure. Methods for getting over heartbreak can vary, but most can agree that embarking on a bender and then sending very regrettable text messages that alternate between trying to hurt and trying to reconcile with the heartbreaker is not the best way to go about it. 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