If you’ve made it here, it’s because you’re new to anal play and are curious about it, or you want to enhance your experience with toys. Either way, welcome!
You may be hesitant or are wondering if anal play is right for you. Some people are hesitant to try and play because they think that it might hurt, or they’re scared to, or they have other preconceived notions.
But anal play is an incredible way to experience more pleasure no matter your anatomy. It also allows for more intimacy between partners by exploring and experiencing deeper levels of pleasure together. Anal play opens the doors to blended and prostate orgasms too!
Still, it’s understandable to be a bit nervous when you’re trying something new. That’s why we created this guide to go over safe practices, techniques, and aftercare as you explore beginner toys!
Choosing the Right Anal Toy for Beginners
How do you choose the right anal toy for beginners? There are some key features to keep in mind when looking at anal toys for beginners.
You’ll want a toy with a flared base, this is an essential safety feature to keep the toy from going too deep (if this happens, it may require medical intervention). It’s important to buy a toy that’s smooth and made from body-safe materials like silicone, glass, or stainless steel. You’ll also want one that’s a good size for beginners. Start small and you can gradually go bigger if you’d like to.
What types of toys should beginners look for when trying anal play? Here’s a rundown of the best beginner anal toys:
- Butt plugs: Small, tapered plugs for easy insertion.
- Anal beads: Progressive sizes for controlled sensation.
- Prostate massagers: Designed for P-spot stimulation.
- Soft dildos: These are a flexible and beginner-friendly option.
Preparation Before Using Anal Toys
Once you get your toy you’ll want to know how to prepare before your first time trying anal. Anal pleasure is all about preparation, here’s how to do that.
The anus is a sphincter, which is designed to clench and tense. Relaxation is key to anal pleasure. You’ll want to mentally and physically prepare beforehand. You can do this by doing something like taking a warm bath or practicing deep breathing. Foreplay is important whether it’s with a partner or getting yourself warmed up so you’re turned on enough to relax into the experience.
Another key thing with anal play is that you need extra lubrication. The anus doesn’t self-lubricate so you need lube for anal. If you’re using silicone toys, be sure to use a water-based lube so it doesn’t break down the material of your toys. Silicone-based lubes are great for longer-lasting slickness, but are only compatible with non-silicone toys.
When it comes to first time anal play, many people have hygiene and safety on their minds – and for good reason! It’s vital to properly clean your toys before and after use to prevent bacterial build-up, infection and to increase the longevity of your toys. Some people may also want to empty their bowels beforehand by going to the bathroom or using an enema. This is optional but can enhance comfort.
Step-by-Step Guide to Using Anal Toys
Still wondering exactly how to use your new anal toy? Consider this your step-by-step guide.
- Start slow and use plenty of lube: Apply a generous amount of lube to the toy and the entrance of your anus.
- Find a comfortable position: Some of the best positions for anal are lying on your side, laying on your back with legs raised, or kneeling (doggy style).
- Begin with gentle insertion: Let the muscles naturally adjust to the toy; never force it.
- Breathe and take your time: Deep breathing and relaxing the sphincter help reduce discomfort.
- Explore different sensations: Experiment with movement, rotation, or vibration to discover what feels best.
Common Mistakes to Avoid
While anal play allows for endless amounts of pleasure and connection, it also requires being tactful and being aware of these common mistakes:
- Skipping Lubrication → Remember what we said about lube? If you don’t use it, it can lead to discomfort or microtears, which can also increase your risk of contracting an STI.
- Choosing a toy that’s too large → You gotta start somewhere, and when it comes to anal, always start small.
- Not using a flared-base toy → A flared base keeps your toy from going all the way up your rectum (or further). If that happens, it can be an unsafe situation that requires medical intervention.
- Forcing Insertion → Go slow and never force it! This can cause pain and injury.
- Skipping Hygiene → Proper cleaning prevents infections and helps your toys last longer!
Anal Training & Gradual Exploration
You may have heard of anal training. This is exactly what it sounds like and can be incredibly helpful for enhancing anal pleasure! Anal training helps prepare muscles for comfortable play and prevents discomfort during penetration.
You can comfortably try anal training by starting with a small plug and gradually increasing the size over time, allowing for gradual anal stretching. Try it for short durations as you gradually build up a tolerance. You can even try different shapes and textures as you get more comfortable to see what you like best!
Exploring Advanced Anal Play (Optional for Future Play)
Don’t get too ahead of yourself, but you have plenty to look forward to in the world of anal play. We have some fun ideas for you when you’re ready to start exploring more!
You can try incorporating vibration for added pleasure. That’s right, there are anal toys that vibrate! The SORAYA Beads have eight powerful settings and a cascading design, with four gradually increasing beads for maximum comfort when exploring anal pleasure. But what truly makes SORAYA Beads™ special is the introduction of Bow-Motion™ technology, where all vibrating anal beads work in harmony to create a thrusting-like sensation without thrusting motion.
Those with a P-spot may want to explore prostate play. The LOKI is perfectly shaped and angled for a luxurious and powerful prostate massage. The waterproof, rechargeable features six variable settings for a prostate orgasm that reaches mind-blowing intensity.
Another great way to explore with anal play is dual stimulation. This can be done with oral play or double penetration for those with a vagina.
Aftercare: What to Do Post-Play
Just as important as preparation is aftercare. This is how you and/or your partner care for yourself/each other after diving into anal play.
When you initially finish, you’ll want to gently remove the toy and just relax, enjoying the post-pleasure bliss. It’s important to clean the toy immediately after with antibacterial soap or toy cleaner.
Check the area for any discomfort or irritation. It can be difficult to notice in the heat of the moment. You can even moisturize the area with soothing products after if it feels right for your body!
Take it easy and practice self-care. If you have a partner, you may want to check in with each other to see how that experience went, what you liked, and if you want to do anything differently in the future.
Time to Explore Anal Play!
Anal play can be an incredible opportunity for pleasure no matter your anatomy, if you’re single, or if you have a partner.
But in order to enjoy anal play you’ll want to properly prepare with the tips above, and keep in mind the safety and how-to instructions we went over. Anal play can be intense, so it’s important to take your time and listen to your body. Ready to get started? Check out our top beginner-friendly anal toys!
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